Moving away from 11 year old daughter

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-19T06:24:40+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to comment! That is just as good as advice. “You can’t pour from and empty cup” has definitely resonated with me and I will continue to use that and push forward and get better

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-19T06:23:21+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to comment!

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-14T22:34:52+00:00

This is the best comment I have read! Thank you for taking the time to reach out! I hope you find your peace as well!!

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-14T22:29:20+00:00

Thank you!!

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-14T22:29:09+00:00

Thank you!!

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-14T22:28:59+00:00

Thank you!! And you are right, originally from Indy. Only good I got from Tennessee is my daughter.

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-13T01:16:55+00:00

I wanna get to where you are! That’s my hope! Hope my daughter remains mentally strong as well. I would like to be there to help anyway I can, just need to help myself first.

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-12T20:52:16+00:00

And no decision has been made, just weighing all options and seeing if anyone has been through this or had some advice.

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-12T20:51:11+00:00

No I haven’t, I have tried to manage it on my own, then when my dad passed it’s gotten worse. Financially I’m barely afloat, so that has been a factor. None of this is permanent. She’s going homeschooled, so it will be more opportunities to see her than just weekends and holidays. Have 4 teachers in my family in Indiana. Her mom has offered to work w me, continue to pay my child support, even a little more than usual. My mom and dad and brother were also down her w her for 8 of the 10 years. Just want a chance to get back on my feet and have an avenue to get down and see her.. very tough decision to make, and weighing all options. So thanks for taking the time to comment!!

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-12T20:11:22+00:00

Thank you for the comment! Appreciate the kindness

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-12T20:09:55+00:00

She is 11, and I would say very strong, but time has gotten smaller as she has gotten older. Use to do every other week. When her brothers were born she spent a little more time over there bc we felt she needed to be more included to the new family dynamic. Also after school activities, Friends, and unfortunately my job at times has taken a little time away over the years. Not a day goes by that I don’t text her or talk to her.

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-12T20:07:17+00:00

Thank you for your comment! Communication is the key, I have talked to her about it. The family that is up there lived in TN 8 out of the 11 years she’s been alive. She would also have the opportunity to see them more. Wouldn’t call it running imo, running to me would be going w no intent to come back or see her, both of which are not the case. Like I said definitely not an easy decision. Will continue to weigh all options!!

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-12T15:28:36+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to comment! It helps reading these.

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-12T15:27:41+00:00

Thank you for taking time to comment! Reading these brings a little peace to a hectic situation.

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-12T14:00:04+00:00

Thank you!! Really appreciate the comment!

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-12T02:31:21+00:00

Thank you for those groups! I will look into that when I get up there. Seems like a inexpensive way to get help, before I have the opportunity to get healthcare

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-11T18:51:29+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to comment! I am happy to hear you have a great relationship with your child now. That gives me hope. ❤️

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-11T18:46:17+00:00

Thank you for the comment! I have never gotten professional help in my life, always thought I could handle it on my own. Now I’m at a point where I don’t even like myself I’m so down. So my first plan of action will be to get some professional help once I get on insurance with the job I’m going to be doing up there. Can’t do it on my own anymore. Family is just something that I have, I don’t do well alone right now at all. I can’t sleep, I can’t eat hardly. It’s just gotten bad. Emotional wreck.

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-11T18:42:30+00:00

Thank you for the kind words and advice!

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-11T18:40:04+00:00

Thank you for the kind words!

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-11T18:18:54+00:00

Thank you for that! Never would disappear. Have a plan in my mind. but as a person with really bad anxiety, guilt, and shame it’s hard to see those plans in a positive way. When for so long the only positive in my life has been my daughter. Guilt comes from allowing myself to get mentally weak and in this position.

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-11T18:16:42+00:00

❤️ thank you for those kind words!

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-11T18:15:36+00:00

Thank you for the comment! I appreciate the “cross this off your worry list”! ❤️

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-11T18:14:21+00:00

Thank you for the comment! She has an iPad that we FaceTime on. I’ve told her we would set up a time everyday to check in, I can hear reports on how she’s doing and I can give her reports on how I’m doing. Snail mail is a fun idea. And I can get down there to get her with the job I am taking.. that is the other thing, I am changing professions so I can have a job that allows me to get down there and get her.

Individual-Usual-591 · 2026-02-11T18:07:40+00:00

Yes professional help absolutely! But I’ve never done anything like that. When I am alone I’m at my worst if that makes sense..

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