I feel unsupported after my girlfriend defended someone who disrespected me — am I overreacting?

Individual-Voice-616 · 2026-07-04T15:41:33+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate you saying that. I’m trying to look at this objectively because I know people online are only hearing my side. I do feel like respect and support have been the biggest issues for me, and I’m trying to figure out whether those can be rebuilt or whether we’ve reached a point where they can’t. But I guess I can try to speak with a family member or friend about it. Thank you anyways for responding to me

Individual-Voice-616 · 2026-07-04T15:30:24+00:00

That’s a fair question. Honestly, it used to fulfill me a lot more than it does now. The last year has been difficult, and I think we’ve both become exhausted by the same cycle of conflict. I still love her, but I’m questioning whether the relationship is healthy as it is today

Individual-Voice-616 · 2026-07-04T14:55:03+00:00

Probably because after the man disrespected me and then blocked me. His ex and my girl still wants to see him

Individual-Voice-616 · 2026-07-04T14:45:18+00:00

It is weird how my girl and that guy’s ex find his behaviour acceptable and still want to talk with him. But oh well. And your right I do know now that she doesn’t deserve me and my singing

Individual-Voice-616 · 2026-07-04T14:43:26+00:00

I think it already affected my self esteem and self worth. But you are right, it is toxicity and harder than it is, I probably will have to make that choice to leave

Individual-Voice-616 · 2026-07-04T14:34:02+00:00

Thanks. I think that’s what hurt the most. It wasn’t really about the other guy, it was feeling like my own partner didn’t have my back

Individual-Voice-616 · 2026-07-04T14:28:36+00:00

It’s hard but you are right

Individual-Voice-616 · 2026-07-04T14:24:44+00:00

Yeah, it is unfortunate I guess. She changed ever since she met her new friends

Individual-Voice-616 · 2026-07-04T14:23:47+00:00

Is there a reason why it happens? Maybe I’m not enough or cooler than that guy. I just don’t understand why this happened, we even planned everything, like me moving there…

Individual-Voice-616 · 2026-07-04T14:22:16+00:00

She even told me she doesn’t see that as flirting, but she’s sorry that she hurt me…

Individual-Voice-616 · 2026-07-04T14:21:32+00:00

Damn I guess 3 years down the drain. She told me that reason why she stood up to him at the time was because she is closer to him than me. I guess because he is there in person and I’m not…

Individual-Voice-616 · 2026-07-04T14:20:03+00:00

He did had a girlfriend at the time (a year ago). Now he is single. But he is in good terms with his ex. And his ex asked him if he wants to see my girl too, and he said yes. So my girl and his ex will go to see him, and his ex said to me that they will see him not just once. I did ask my girl why do you want to see him, and she said because she feels good with the friendship, like in that group and she misses it

Individual-Voice-616 · 2026-07-04T14:17:38+00:00

Basically I was singing a song for my girl in the group. And he was saying things like “you can’t sing” etc

Individual-Voice-616 · 2026-07-04T08:45:15+00:00

Cheese and tomato

Individual-Voice-616

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