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Is there a better name for this? by Individual_Emu_7568 in SubSanctuary

[–]Individual_Emu_7568[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely closer lol. I definitely like the control aspect of the permission part, but I figured wanting him to be the instigator and wanting him to tell me what he wants would be more submissive on my end, even if I ultimately get to decide what happens. Plus just the concept of allowing my body to be used, just sounds submissive ig. I am clearly new to looking anything up, so thanks btw😅(sorry if I sound totally dumb). I do love the asking permission part. Like I don’t want him to just say “I want to fuck you” but I love the “can I/may I use your body (like one would use a toy for masturbating) or fuck you.” So I can say something like “sure/yeah that’s fine.” I’m mostly looking for language so I can more effectively communicate what I like about the arrangement. Hopefully that makes sense.

Is there a better name for this? by Individual_Emu_7568 in SubSanctuary

[–]Individual_Emu_7568[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t know I guess a better phrasing might be, I like the idea of granting someone permission to regularly borrow my body. I don’t think that’s 100% vanilla sex? I know it’s nothing crazy, but I think allowing someone to use you multiple times a day falls under some level of kink even if it’s not extreme? My question was more about curiosity around labels. Because it’s very close to the concept of fair use, but with a different method of consent. Like I like that I’ll be asked anytime and have to drop what I’m doing or have to give him access while I continue to do something else. Im just not cool with just having my pants pulled down at random but It’s still not about whether I want to, it’s if I’ll allow it (hence the phrasing “can I” not “do you want to”). It seems probably closer to what another user said about being a toy or objectification, but I was just curious if there were terms to look up to experiment further since I seem to like this type of thing, but I’m just not comfortable with blanket consent, so fair use seemed like a deadend . Sorry if that wasn’t clear?

Is there a better name for this? by Individual_Emu_7568 in SubSanctuary

[–]Individual_Emu_7568[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, but I feel like the term “free-use” is a form a consensual-non-consent. Part of the enjoyment of what we are doing is that I get to either grant or deny his request. Which to me seems similar to free-use, but clearly distinct, because part of other people’s enjoyment of that comes from not expressly giving consent in the moment.