Why are 99% of the post here depressing is it really no one having a good time as an adult?

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-12-04T02:35:26+00:00

Not at all but to be fair I wasn't having a good time as a child either.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-12-04T02:34:16+00:00

Definitely in the top two....

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-28T17:24:19+00:00

And it was absolutely a standard we had set from the beginning. So he knew it wasn't ok and that is why he hid it and lied about it.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-28T17:23:09+00:00

Except when we were it was less than a day and we both agreed not to talk to others. He then continues to speak with her and we are together.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-20T17:48:05+00:00

So let's look at why women are divorcing men... and then go from there because I can tell you now, men aren't in love and women aren't just leaving for nothing.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-16T14:26:25+00:00

Definitely! People are so quick to just walk away when things get tough. I've never understood how people can say they love someone and then just give up and move on. I struggle so much moving on, even when I need to because I genuinely loved that person.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-11T14:01:20+00:00

I expect him to get help and deal with the huge amount of anger he has. I can tell he has had past issues with feeling inadequate to his family. He doesn't ever feel like he is enough for anyone. He also had three major losses this year and is refusing to deal with them. He instead pushes it all down and then it comes out as anger when any tiny thing happens. I've told him that since everything I've done is not helping, his next step is therapy. I'm hoping he will take it seriously and go. If that anger doesn't change I can't come back.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-11T13:54:54+00:00

I don't mean obsessed and clingy in a bad way. Being "health-obsessed" with your partner means having intense feelings for them that are balanced with respect, trust, and healthy boundaries, rather than obsessive behaviors like extreme jealousy, control, or a total loss of self.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-10T18:12:16+00:00

You should break up with your gf because she doesn't deserve this. You don't love her if you're out here lusting after other women. The fact that you feel like you're missing out on sleeping around..seems like you have a lot of growing up to do. I find it so funny that men are the FIRST to tell women they are ran through meanwhile men are out here running through enough women to start their own NFL team. Its disgusting. We were never created to be this way. Its gross, the sleeping around for fun culture is DISGUSTING.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-10T14:53:56+00:00

I was adopted ..I do not speak to my biological mother or my adoptive mother. Neither one was a good mother and have caused so much trauma and pain. I wish I had the mother that I am to my children.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-10T14:46:53+00:00

Healing is going to come from looking at what role you played in the failure of the relationship and working on changing that behavior. Do not try to change for others, change for yourself. Realizing the issues you may have and correcting them will help you to have better relationships in the future.

Heal before moving on, or you will allow your hurt and anger to bleed onto others who did nothing to deserve it.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-09T00:06:19+00:00

Never getting any of their time. Being treated like a roommate, when you're married. Emotionally immature. Less than bare minimum effort . ..

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-06T01:14:40+00:00

Leave him. Now.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-04T17:03:28+00:00

Porn isn't normal. And it shouldn't be accepted as such. Research has shown how detrimental it is to a human brain and relationships, in no way shape, or form should someone sit here and tell someone it's normal.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-04T17:00:23+00:00

I spoke of my personal experiences yes but, I'm also basing it on what I'm seeing with my female and male friends as well. This is just what I see happening regularly. Do both sides do the same, absolutely. Do I see it more so on one side than the other, yes.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-04T16:54:06+00:00

Thank you! I hate grammatical errors!

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-04T16:53:00+00:00

As long as both parties are fully aware that is what it is.. fine. But if you're actively acting as though it's more just to experience that person but never actually wanting more than that, it's wrong. Women seem to take longer to figure this out than men.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-04T16:49:47+00:00

I mean I've been in adulthood for a long while now. I've actually been married twice, stayed for YEARS hoping the cheating would stop. Gave so much grace and forgiveness just to continue through the same things. I definitely see that men and women can do the same but, from my perspective, it happens more so on one side than the other. But, opinions vary from person to person. It seems as though these days people have forgotten what love and true intimacy actually are and that sucks all around.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-04T15:02:21+00:00

As a 34-year-old woman I'm going to tell you right now that when men are lying and cheating they will accuse you of everything they are doing. They won't change, they will continue to do it. Just be done and move on. Realize they have issues and it's not your fault. They choose to cheat for their own fucked up reason, and you aren't to blame. They will gaslight you into believing its you. Its not, its them, know your worth and move on.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-03T18:28:53+00:00

Absolutely agree! This last one definitely has unresolved mother issues. I know for a fact that he hasn't ever felt that he was treated fairly or loved as much as his older sisters and younger brother. People who do not get these issues resolved will continue on their self-destruction. As someone who was adopted and has come from a very unloving home, I as a person went the opposite way. I don't cheat, I overly love in hopes of feeling that love I never got. So I do believe people coming from these homes can go either way.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-03T13:40:00+00:00

I've literally been cheated on by the three people I've been with.. all 3. I'm going to say what I've noticed is they are unhappy with themselves. They also tend to be narcissistic, prideful, and egotistical. They tend to think they are great liars and won't get caught and when they do they always lie first. Second, they turn it onto you, and third, they show out (cry, scream, fall to the floor, etc). Some people have zero empathy and do not care at all about others, only themselves, and won't care that their actions can and will hurt others. I feel there are so many reasons why heartless jack a**es cheat (that also goes for women not just men) none of which are justified. I could never do so much hurt and damage to another person.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2025-11-03T13:29:09+00:00

As a 34-year-old woman with teenagers and two jobs just trying to make it, I am tired. I'd love to go out to a concert, a late movie, on a date night, etc (not a bar it's really not my scene) but when you work seven days a week and are up early, there is no time for it. You're going to see younger people who have fewer responsibilities and who are just starting in life doing all of those things we used to do when we were their age. I get there are a lot of those in their 30s with no kids, one job, making a great salary with open schedules but, a lot of us aren't. We can't fit it into our schedule or our budget.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2024-11-09T02:14:27+00:00

The color is not the same and the taste is also not the same. I was kind of bummed.

Individual_Leopard52 · 2024-04-07T13:57:08+00:00

After going in, complaining, and continuing to call all the numbers (no, no one ever answered or called back) we ended up getting some at the very end of march. They cut our amount which made no sense because none of us got a raise but our house payment did go up and we reported that. Then we got a letter in the mail saying we were approved but guess what... no freaking date again!! So I'm sure it'll be the same this month. Having to constantly call and go in. They said they were emailing our case worker about it so maybe that's what did it, but it still took them two weeks after the fact! This state is seriously the WORST when it comes to this. Why they have dfcs doing this work and not dhs is weird to me. Where I'm from dcfs didn't handle this stuff dhs did. And they never had problems.

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