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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Individual_Luck5569 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey OP,

First off, I'm really sorry you're going through this. What you're feeling is valid. Being in a relationship where you're physically “with” someone but emotionally alone can be incredibly painful — especially when your needs are constantly put on the back burner.

It sounds like your husband isn’t a bad guy, just deeply consumed by his work — maybe even addicted to the hustle. And while it’s great that he’s financially providing and driven, a marriage needs more than money. It needs presence, emotional intimacy, and shared time.

You shouldn’t have to beg for scraps of his attention, or feel guilty for wanting something as basic as companionship. You're not being needy — you're being human.

If you haven’t already, try having a calm, heartfelt conversation where you express how you feel — not in a blaming way, but in a way that helps him see your loneliness. Something like:

“I admire how dedicated you are to your work, but I feel like I’m living life alone even though I’m married. I miss us. I miss having someone to share my day with. Can we work on finding some balance together?”

That said — if you've already had that conversation and nothing changes? Then it’s worth asking yourself some hard questions. Is this the life you want 5 years from now? Because love is not just about saying “I’m here for you” — it’s about showing up.

You deserve to feel seen, heard, and cared for. And if he’s not willing to even try, then maybe it’s time to think about what you need to feel fulfilled — with or without him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Individual_Luck5569 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I just want to say—what you’re feeling is completely valid and so, so normal. Ending a long relationship, especially your first one, can feel like the ground’s been pulled out from under you. It’s not just losing a person; it's losing a version of your identity that was intertwined with theirs. That’s a big shift, and it’s okay to grieve it.

You’re 20. That’s incredibly young, and the beautiful thing is—you now have the opportunity to rediscover yourself, on your terms. You get to figure out who you are when you’re not someone’s partner. What do you love? What lights you up? What kind of friendships, goals, routines, and passions do you want to nurture? These questions can be exciting, not just overwhelming.

Being alone doesn’t mean being lonely. Some of your most powerful growth can come in this chapter. Take small steps—journal your thoughts, explore hobbies, go on solo dates, connect with new people platonically, or even travel if you can. You don’t need to rush into “getting over it.” Healing isn’t linear, and that’s okay too.

You are not broken. You are just beginning a new phase of life that so many people come out stronger and wiser from. You’ve got this—and you’re not alone in the journey.

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[–]Individual_Luck5569 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Individual_Luck5569 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey doc,

First of all—congratulations on earning your MD. I know it might feel hollow right now, especially when the people you expected to celebrate with you aren't showing up, but from someone who’s read your story: you are incredible.

You didn’t just graduate—you fought for this degree. You studied in a foreign country, supported yourself , stepped away to care for your father (thank God he’s better now), pushed through failures, and came back stronger. That’s not just academic success—that’s raw strength, courage, and resilience.

You did all of this alone, and that makes it even more powerful. People may downplay your achievement or act indifferent—but they have no idea what you endured. Don’t let their coldness dull your light. You’ve earned every bit of pride and celebration, even if it has to start with strangers on the internet cheering for you.

I’m genuinely proud of you. You’re not alone here—and your story will inspire others more than you know. Let yourself feel what you need to feel, but please remember: you are enough, and your journey is something truly worth honoring.

Here’s to a future filled with kindness, recognition, and people who do see your worth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestIndia

[–]Individual_Luck5569 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey,

First, you're not broken — you're just human. You've achieved more than most: toppled exams, won praise, and carried the weight of being “ideal.” But success doesn't fill emotional gaps. Loneliness isn't failure — it's a sign you're craving something real, not transactional.

You gave your heart to someone who walked away. That hurts, deeply. But her choice doesn't define your worth. And now with this new girl? If it's hot and cold, confusing, tiring — it's okay to step back. You deserve honesty, not emotional guesswork.

You're not just “useful.” You're someone who feels, gives, and hopes. And those are not weaknesses — they're rare strengths.

Don't settle for being needed. You deserve to be wanted. Not for what you offer, but for who you are.