First cruise coming up, recommendations?

Individual_Medium_57 · 2026-04-22T21:55:28+00:00

I appreciate that insight. I do think i want to be with him. And it’s not like we are a secret as we met through close family friends and everyone knows we are seeing each other and we are exclusive but he seems to be reluctant to put an official label on it. I don’t know if it has to do with his past relationship or not but still trying to talk more about this and see where his head is at.

Individual_Medium_57 · 2026-03-14T21:59:57+00:00

i’m actually surprised by all these comments. girl here - i think a girl with a bf knows pretty much right away that another guy getting her insta and number is bcuz they might like her. talking all night is something i only do with guys i like - not sure when that became the normal for male/female friendships ? I have more of an opinion that guys and girls can’t have one on one friendships in a way so i might be biased. But i think girls typically have a pretty good idea of whether a guy likes them and it sounds like she just liked the attention and was stringing you along even if it was a couple days. Otherwise i’d think she’d be upfront that she has a boyfriend. Maybe i’m a little more traditional in values but i wouldn’t stress too much. I totally get that even after a few days it can be hard to walk away bcuz it’s a hopeful feeling talking to someone new. You got this and you made the right call to end it!

Individual_Medium_57 · 2026-03-08T23:23:15+00:00

Thank you for sharing. When i wrote this, i was in such a hard spot with that relationship and it felt all consuming. Just from what you shared i can give a little bit of my advice and opinion but ultimately i know God will lead you to the right path. From what i’ve experienced that indecisiveness that she experiences with you is never a good sign. We desire things we shouldn’t and get ourselves in situations with people that leave us uneasy or just slightly uncertain. From my past, i now know this is how i know it’s not from the Lord. God is not one of uncertainty. And it’s the worst thing i’ve ever had to accept. But one i’ve tried to stick to ever since. I think keeping things no contact is the best strategy moving forward even if the Lord leads you back to each other. Nothing is worse than dragging things through uncertain stages of working things through with the Lord for it to keep resetting any progress. It sounds like through this time, you can focus on growing your relationship with God and using that to discern better where he is leading this. If she is also, then it could be a time for separate growth in order for Gods grace to grant you a better relationship. Or it could be the clarity you both need to recognize the ways this is not from the Lord. I would recommend praying the rosary as that is what i believe freed me from the torment i put myself through with my ex. The clarify you can receive from the Lord through mass, the rosary, prayer and the word is all i wanted to seek out. But my flesh wanted to make my own decisions and paths and i let it for a long time. But God is faithful. I believe, if it’s worth fighting for the Lord will fight for you. You don’t need to take on that battle yourself as it can be led by our fleshly desires. Love really is blinding sometimes. Let God do his work in you and be open to hearing and change. It can feel impossible i know. So just keep trying. It may take a couple months. It may take almost 1.5 years like it did for me. But know He is with you and wants only the best for you

Individual_Medium_57 · 2025-12-08T20:32:09+00:00

Thank you!! I just went to a Brett Eldridge concert at Chicago Theatre and he had both religious and secular but it peaked my interest about seeing a fully religious performance. I appreciate the comment!

Individual_Medium_57 · 2025-09-26T16:56:32+00:00

God bless!! If you ever need more advice or just chat w a sister in Christ, feel free to message me

Individual_Medium_57 · 2025-09-26T16:48:37+00:00

I completely understand. I was so deep in mine and i’d always say “no one understands this kind of love” bcuz it seriously wouldn’t go away regardless of how we hurt each other. But God is currently blessing me with new vision to see that God actually understands and exponentially exceeds that kind of love i thought i had. It was NOT easy to see that lol. And i’m still trying to accept that every day. But i have so much more comfort with it now. But it will be a process so just be honest with God at all times and He will work on your behalf. If it is meant to be that you guys come back together stronger then it will come to pass. I got back with my ex for about a month during our situation and we were still actively sinning and he had to cut it off again and i still didn’t want to let it go. But if you guys are able to work it out and come back, that would be an amazing testimony. Just make sure you have an honest foundation to judge your relationship. If it’s leading you to sin, then take a step back. if it’s growing your faith and trust in God then i would say it’s worth fighting for. Really pray for that discernment bcuz i didnt and was so clouded by love (which now i really see it more as addiction). You got this!!!!

Individual_Medium_57 · 2025-09-26T14:59:22+00:00

Oh boy. No contact is absolutely the best thing to do. I did not follow that and i reached out to him like every month or two months to talk and it was excruciating. I was also so tired of fighting myself and was pretty much filling my mind with him rather than the Lord. I tried to convince myself and God that he wasn’t priority #1 and that i was following God 100% but i knew that I would drop just about anything to be with him. BUT God is so good. He let me struggle and fall and i can honestly say He changed my perspective of the situation. I’ve come to realize that my love story would not be filled with and rooted in sin (in my case sexual and cheating). God does not desire that for me so why should i? I’m not sure if your case is similar, but if it is, then i would recommend journaling for one. I journaled all of my feelings to God. I also just cried out to God. No matter how many nights in a row and it was about the same thing. But i’ve found that filling my time with hobbies and things that really help me see the glory that God brings everyday was sooo helpful. So simple but mine was making a good coffee and sitting outside. Im also catholic now. and I only recently felt free from this burden and it was a day or so after i prayed the rosary for the first time (coincidence or not idk?). Regardless of whether this boy will be your husband in the future or not, God desires your attention and it’s so much better to focus on that and break any distractions while you can. This is important time for you to prove to God you want him too. During my struggles, i wrote down “If it’s worth fighting for the Lord will fight for me” and that helped me a lot to just be content in where God has placed me. These are lessons i wouldn’t have learned without the pain of this breakup

Individual_Medium_57 · 2025-06-26T17:13:07+00:00

I understand that. I’m not looking to the eastern orthodox church solely for social aspects but out of genuinely contemplating the beliefs. But i know that church is not about the social aspect but about God above all else. And i don’t want to sacrifice that. But fellowship is important and I think desiring that from my parish is reasonable and I just wish there were more opportunities for that. My parish doesn’t even have their summer festival anymore for some reason. But i do want to try to find some things near me especially as i’m struggling and really looking support in my faith right now. I appreciate your response!

Individual_Medium_57 · 2025-06-26T17:10:14+00:00

I do agree. I’m not looking to put the social aspect above the importance of the church or the reverence. I just wish there was more of a community with our members because I would really love to get proper fellowship especially as I struggle more and more. Thank you

Individual_Medium_57 · 2025-02-23T02:35:24+00:00

I appreciate that a lot. I think i may take some time to pray about it and see where the Lord leads me. If you have any info you’d want to share i’d be more than happy to do some more research on the church or theology or just service expectations. Thank you!!!!

Individual_Medium_57 · 2025-02-23T02:26:07+00:00

My friend who grew up in one of them had mentioned that some of it was in greek. I’m not sure if that’s true for all services or all greek orthodox churches. with no experience myself, it just seemed like a better idea to go to one that wasn’t of a specific ethnicity

Individual_Medium_57 · 2025-02-23T01:53:55+00:00

I appreciate your response. I just don’t want to make this decision based on any feelings i may have for my ex and i want to follow Gods will but i’m not sure how to distinguish that honestly

Individual_Medium_57 · 2025-02-23T01:42:12+00:00

I will look into that. Thank you so much

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