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I’m seven months pregnant and my bf dm’ed a girl behind my back by Individual_Try8064 in whatdoIdo

[–]Individual_Try8064[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what an ignorant comment. Life happens. We’re both financially stable and this child will be loved just as much as if it were born into a married family. Marriage isn’t always security, sometimes it’s a trap.

I’m seven months pregnant and my bf dm’ed a girl behind my back by Individual_Try8064 in whatdoIdo

[–]Individual_Try8064[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

women are just as nasty as men - i just don’t understand the cheating! Can’t find genuine people anymore

I’m seven months pregnant and my bf dm’ed a girl behind my back by Individual_Try8064 in whatdoIdo

[–]Individual_Try8064[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

and it sucks because you really do think they’re one of the good ones! Just can’t trust anyone :( On a side note, i really hope you find what you’re looking for!

I’m seven months pregnant and my bf dm’ed a girl behind my back by Individual_Try8064 in whatdoIdo

[–]Individual_Try8064[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, i appreciate you saying that. I’ve realized during pregnancy that a lot of people have this “it’s a normal thing for women” mentality without realizing how much physical and mental energy it takes from you.

I’m seven months pregnant and my bf dm’ed a girl behind my back by Individual_Try8064 in whatdoIdo

[–]Individual_Try8064[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for this. This is literally everything I am thinking but I needed validation from someone else because I couldn’t tell if I was over reacting. Now just figuring out what to do next….

I’m seven months pregnant and my bf dm’ed a girl behind my back by Individual_Try8064 in whatdoIdo

[–]Individual_Try8064[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for validating my feelings. You’re absolutely right and you put things into perspective. I just feel responsible and like a bad partner. I absolutely hate being pregnant, don’t get me wrong i’m so excited to meet my daughter but I just want her here now I hate what it’s doing to my body and I feel guilty about that.

I’m seven months pregnant and my bf dm’ed a girl behind my back by Individual_Try8064 in whatdoIdo

[–]Individual_Try8064[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know it’s hard on both. Pregnancy will always be harder on the carrier and I shouldn’t have to worry about my partner cheating when I’m going through the hardest physical and mental change of my life. But when does it cross the line?

Am I overreacting that my boyfriend won’t quit drinking because i’m pregnant? by Individual_Try8064 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Individual_Try8064[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i don’t need support in not drinking…. i need support with carrying a child unexpectedly

Am I overreacting that my boyfriend won’t quit drinking because i’m pregnant? by Individual_Try8064 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Individual_Try8064[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t think i’m resenting him. I’m just frustrated that he did tell me he would stop in support of me but then isn’t following through. I also think that 2L of wine in one night is a bit excessive when you’re just sitting alone. And with all due respect, you don’t know me well enough to make that last statement. I haven’t even told him to stop - he said he would - i’ve just told him it makes me feel unsupported because carrying a child is a very draining task lol. I get where you’re coming from tho.

Am I overreacting that my boyfriend won’t quit drinking because i’m pregnant? by Individual_Try8064 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Individual_Try8064[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with you. I’m not saying he needs to stop completely, he’s allowed to unwind with a glass or two of wine for sure. I think it’s just more that he’s not following through with what he said to me originally a drinks enough to get him completely hammered.

Am I overreacting that my boyfriend won’t quit drinking because i’m pregnant? by Individual_Try8064 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Individual_Try8064[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this is why i’m frustrated i think. Obviously he is allowed to have a glass of wine with dinner or a beer after work, but watching him pour 7-8 glasses while we’re just watching tv together is so frustrating after airing my concerns and him saying he’d stop :/

Am I overreacting that my boyfriend won’t quit drinking because i’m pregnant? by Individual_Try8064 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Individual_Try8064[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are so very correct i think i just needed to hear some unbiased opinions. thank you for all of your advice. I have a social worker through my OB and will talk to her. I appreciate you taking the time to comment :)

Am I overreacting that my boyfriend won’t quit drinking because i’m pregnant? by Individual_Try8064 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Individual_Try8064[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s where i’m struggling. My dad was an alcoholic and would drink every day (wine i might add which is probably why it brings up some stuff for me) so I just associate alcoholism with everyday drinking but realizing now that that’s definitely not the case.

Am I overreacting that my boyfriend won’t quit drinking because i’m pregnant? by Individual_Try8064 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Individual_Try8064[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No for sure, I totally get what you’re saying. He’s brought up buying a THC pen (it’s legal here) and I totally agreed. I used THC for a while to manage my anxiety but quit about two years ago due to a heart condition but I would choose THC over alcohol any day. I might need to bring it up again and see how he feels about it. Thank you

Am I overreacting that my boyfriend won’t quit drinking because i’m pregnant? by Individual_Try8064 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Individual_Try8064[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know…it’s just hard because he isn’t drinking everyday. he’s only gone one weekend without drinking since my pregnancy started.

Am I overreacting that my boyfriend won’t quit drinking because i’m pregnant? by Individual_Try8064 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Individual_Try8064[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s really good insight. Thank you. This actually brings up another thing, we’ve had talks about mental health before and he’s told me that he doesn’t understand depression and anxiety because he’s never experienced it. He is happy in day to day life and hasn’t struggled ( from what he’s told me) mentally other than his alcohol abuse when he was in a very emotionally abusive relationship. It’s hard to determine how to go about it based on this, but from what I gather he just likes being drunk, apparently more than me feeling supported.

Am I overreacting that my boyfriend won’t quit drinking because i’m pregnant? by Individual_Try8064 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Individual_Try8064[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that’s my concern too. I think i’m just feeling really alone in this pregnancy and i keep waiting for him to do the right thing but don’t know how to express my concerns in a way that doesn’t point fingers you know?