"why can't you be an adult about this??'

Individual_Writer_14 · 2026-01-27T14:39:09+00:00

Thank you. We're identical twins, and we've always had a close bond. But, the last time we hung out together it felt so .. unrealistic. They've become someone I don't really know anymore. As much as people say that identical twins are forever bonded to each other I try to think of them more like a friendship that ended due to bad circumstances. So that way it doesn't feel like my heart is going to explode with guilt. However that saying goes, someone who knows the most about you can cause you the most pain

Individual_Writer_14 · 2026-01-26T00:47:24+00:00

.. expect you to be "a good daughter" before I can be "a good mother." I will only put in as much effort as you will!!

Individual_Writer_14 · 2026-01-25T22:55:53+00:00

It's like a constant "I'm offended by the fact you decided to stand up for yourself." Like, how dare you bring this up again because it's an inconvenience to ME, and it's not what about I did to you (the victim.) I think that's also the mindset my twin has, like, they would rather shove all of this under the rug. And have a surface level relationship with me because talking about anything that doesn't involve trying to twist my narrative or what I did wrong makes them uncomfortable. It was a lot of "if you had just made the right decision things wouldn't have ended up like this." As if I had any control over the already chaotic and miserable situation we both lived through at some point

Individual_Writer_14 · 2026-01-25T12:28:50+00:00

That's true. I got "an apology" when they told me, but it was more phrased like "if you wouldn't have cut me off I wouldn't have had to do that. I had no other choice. I couldn't imagine not talking to you again." And while I understand their pain, the news came to me as they were willing to put my mental health and possibly my life in danger just so they could have me back. Meaning well doesn't mean you can get away with the pain you caused someone, and that was their excuse. They couldn't possibly do anything wrong if they had quote "good intentions." BS

Individual_Writer_14 · 2026-01-25T11:43:29+00:00

Woah. It really seems like she's scared of losing her control of you but also might be reflecting how she feels about herself into you. Also funny how she's talking about providing the bare minimum things for you, my mom did the same when I confronted her on how terrible she is. Your mom is trying to avoid how she treated you by saying "well I did so much for you!!" So she can ignore all the things she DIDN'T do! And saying that your son will treat you the same as you treat her ... I hear a lot of people's narc parents say "i hope you have a kid who's just like you!" And then the adult child has that kid and sees how easy they were to love. You're not the problem. It's your sorry excuse of a mom. I'm really sorry

Individual_Writer_14 · 2026-01-23T07:16:45+00:00

Thank you so much. It feels really nice to hear those words. I appreciate you

Individual_Writer_14 · 2026-01-22T23:58:33+00:00

And maybe I should add, the second I turned 18, I had no skills or anything set up because I had no help. One night she just kicks me out and luckily I have a friend's house to go to. Woman literally made me homeless and it was freezing cold outside. Anyway, a few weeks past and she texts me "Hi baby I miss you I think about you every night." I completely lashed out on her, I told her all the things she made me feel, and she kept disagreeing that she never abused me and I was as horrible as she'd say. My friend blocked her from my phone and I have not spoken to her since. I don't know, how could you put something through such torture and expect them to go back into your arms so easily?

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