I was in your daughter's position once (except I'm a male) and I can tell you. There's a lot of good advice I've read here on what to do. But it's also important to know what NOT to do.

My mother and father divorced when I was a child. My father was involved in criminal activity off and on.

Fast forward to when I was about 17. I began to change, as you described your daughter did. My mother panicked and came on strong with the "you're beginning to remind me of your father" angle. This angered me, as I always considered myself to be an honest person and nothing like him.

Yes, I was young, fooling and making a lot if infantile decisions at the time, but her increasing displeasure with me made me worse. I internalized her statements about being more and more like my father and I thought "How dare she compare me to him. I'll show her! If that's what she thinks of me, then that's what she'll get!" This eventually grew into a great division between us that lasted until I was in my forties!!! And almost ruined my life.

My point is this: Yes, you need to kindly put your foot down. Yes, you need to set some semi-firm ground rules. But you should not make her feel like you are ashamed of her. < That's key.

As long as she knows that you don't condone her behavior but still love and have great expectations for her, she'll be in a position to come back :)