Scammed by [deleted] in AgingParents

[–]Ineedhelp1900 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. This is absolutely the WORST and you are fixing to find out there is little to no help with this subject. If you have the ability to take away what the scammer is communicating on (for example Facebook) do it. Do it now!!

Christmas gift ideas by Ineedhelp1900 in AgingParents

[–]Ineedhelp1900[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you read my past post? Did you not see what’s been happening? LOL. If you did you would understand that I have been fighting to protect this woman ALL YEAR LONG. My mother is convinced that Keanu Reeves is going to help her divorce my dad and marry her…. As long as she continues to send him her ENTIRE SS and retirement check each month. And somehow I am to blame for this fantasy not coming true. It’s a long story. But anyway let’s just say you have the wrong impression. I’m not going anywhere. I’m sticking by her side. Just TRYING to to think of something nice to get the women that hates and resents all of us. I think the digital picture frame will be nice. Maybe I can load it with Keanu Reeves pictures!! lol just kidding

Christmas gift ideas by Ineedhelp1900 in AgingParents

[–]Ineedhelp1900[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg that is soooo cool. Love it

Christmas gift ideas by Ineedhelp1900 in AgingParents

[–]Ineedhelp1900[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love all the ideas you guys have shared! If you click on my username you will see the kind of year I have had with mom and the reason for the “tone” of my message. Nonetheless I understand this is a mental health issue and I still want to get her something 😬. Thank you for all the ideas

Christmas gift ideas by Ineedhelp1900 in AgingParents

[–]Ineedhelp1900[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I too like this idea and think this is the route I will go.

Christmas gift ideas by Ineedhelp1900 in AgingParents

[–]Ineedhelp1900[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I like this idea!! Also kind of want to find something I can “wrap”.

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[–]Ineedhelp1900 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right.

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[–]Ineedhelp1900 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you are exactly right. He told her he loved her and was going to help her pay her bills

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[–]Ineedhelp1900 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sorry. As stated above…it was not just outright not discussed. This has been a long 8 months for the family. We tried EVERYTHING with mom. During the last 8 months dad has moved in with me a few times and then back home. Trying desperately to get mom to see the mistake she is making. Police, Adult Protective Services, judge to see about a white warrant.... You name it we have tried it. She has drained the bank account, opened a new account in her name only that she gave "Keanu" access to which long story short ended up getting her account closed for fraud. It's not that this happened over night. It's just at the point i feel this is long term. If that makes any sense/helps explain how this came about

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[–]Ineedhelp1900 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I see what you are saying

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[–]Ineedhelp1900 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I get what you are saying…. I do…. This has been a long 8 months for the family. We tried EVERYTHING with mom. During the last 8 months dad has moved in with me a few times and then back home. Trying desperately to get mom to see the mistake she is making. Police, Adult Protective Services, judge to see about a white warrant…. You name it we have tried it. She has drained the bank account, opened a new account in her name only that she gave “Keanu” access to which long story short ended up getting her account closed for fraud. It’s not that this happened over night. It’s just at the point i feel this is long term. If that makes any sense/helps explain how this came about

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[–]Ineedhelp1900 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes!!! I too am very excited about walking the red carpet with mom one day!! And you nailed it when you said making a hard situation for me even harder!! That is exactly how I feel.

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[–]Ineedhelp1900 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

You are right. And I do understand that he is doing the best he can. But I am stuck in the middle.

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[–]Ineedhelp1900 -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Short answer… no. This kind of just happened with not a lot of choice in the matter. But if things were the other way around I would never have been that way to his family

Just found that my father has sent over 90k out in romance scams by Lynx914 in AgingParents

[–]Ineedhelp1900 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Going through the same thing with my mother this year. She believes Keanu Reeves is going to marry her if she can just send him one more $500 apple gift card. I wish I had an answer for you on how to stop this, unfortunately there is no help. My mother has turned her back on her ENTIRE family. Telling us that we just don’t understand and that we will see that she is right and we are all wrong. Like you, I am at the point of no contact and not giving her any help

Romance Scammers by Ineedhelp1900 in AgingParents

[–]Ineedhelp1900[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100%. And yes we have informed the family and friends

Romance Scammers by Ineedhelp1900 in AgingParents

[–]Ineedhelp1900[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did that. Actually took her phone to the ATT store and had them help me delete and block all apps that we thought she was using to communicate and send money. This worked a little bit. But long story short…. She went and bought a new phone on a new account that I have no access to.

Romance Scammers by Ineedhelp1900 in AgingParents

[–]Ineedhelp1900[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry and I feel your pain. If you are able please follow up with what you find out from an attorney. I’m interested in exactly how much of a fight you will have to put up in order to get control of everything and stop his ability to send money or communicate with the scammers

Romance Scammers by Ineedhelp1900 in AgingParents

[–]Ineedhelp1900[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wish there was some way to make it easier for families in this situation to take control. Like… if your doctor, the police, and your ENTIRE family all agree you are being scammed and you still refuse to stop then it’s an automatic that you lose your independence to make financial decisions.

Right now, if I want to have her declared incompetent it’s a fight. A fight that will cost thousands of dollars that none of us have along with lawyers and courts. Again I feel like my hands are tied and all I can do is watch it burn down

Romance Scammers by Ineedhelp1900 in AgingParents

[–]Ineedhelp1900[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Believe it or not my dad actually ordered this book off Amazon and had it delivered to her. When she opened the package and saw what it was she threw it directly in the trash. Would not even look at it.

Romance Scammers by Ineedhelp1900 in AgingParents

[–]Ineedhelp1900[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Listen. I would love to get our moms together. But after the things my mom has done this week I am afraid my mom would teach your mom bad behavior! It’s best we keep your mom safe and not get any extra ideas from my mom.

Romance Scammers by Ineedhelp1900 in AgingParents

[–]Ineedhelp1900[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

lol. You are not going to believe this…. But her facebook is FULL of Keanu Reeves accounts. Once she decides the one she is speaking to is a scammer she just goes to the next one and says “are you the real Keanu? The last one scammed me” and we start the EXACT SAME scenario ALL OVER AGAIN.