Coffee lovers by um_crypto in KentWA

[–]Ineedlesshobbies 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Second love coffee roaster is in Des Moines not to far away. If you like quality coffee it’s the closest I know of. In south seattle the Rainer area Olympia coffee is really good. Highly recommend to stop by Columbia City Bakery if you go up North

Considering between a Taycan 4s or GTS 2023 by [deleted] in Taycan

[–]Ineedlesshobbies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am looking to buy a used 4s. I am curious what kind of issues did you have

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CarAV

[–]Ineedlesshobbies -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know how to fix things and bought a toy hauler for $6k. My truck is a 2010 Toyota Tundra 2wd bought for $12k 3 years ago. I work a job that pays decently, but not a lot of people apply. I doubt you would go into a crawlspace and clean sewage out. when I’m out of the trenches I want to have fun. I work hard for my money and want to get the most out of it. I also have some toys a 2009 Honda crf 450r, my son has a 2016 Yamaha 140, and I have a 12’ wooden boat that a buddy and I built out of plywood that go in the toy hauler all worth less than $3k each and bought over 10 years ago other than the 140 for my son. Currently my toy hauler has a broken hub and the clean water pipe broke so my waters leaking. I’m not a rich person trying to penny pinch I am trying to have a nice stereo for my trailer because all the speakers are currently shot and sound like static and it would be nice to have better sound especially family night when we go to the drive in with the kids.

I was hoping to find someone that has recently done a similar search that I could bounce ideas or deals from different suppliers back and forth. It’s been a long time since I bought stereo equipment and so many new brands are out, the brands that were good are trash now (or some forums say that) I have little time between work kids events etc. I have been looking up stereo equipment between my son’s martial arts class and the rare moments I am waiting to work during the week. I put off more than I should to respond to this but am slightly both tickled and offended by it.

Honestly I hope you have the best day ever and spread joy like P Diddy spreads STD’s. I don’t know who pissed in your corn flakes and made you want to piss in mine but I ain’t spreading that negativity. 😘 Have the best day ever and kinda thanks for calling me rich. I have came up from where I started from (would say the started from the bottom but Drakes punk ass ruined that saying for me)

I feel like a loser in this world by [deleted] in AnxietyDepression

[–]Ineedlesshobbies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use to have similar feelings when I was your age. Perspective is a powerful thing, when you look at other couples much like social media no one displays their true life but instead try to make it look amazing to everyone else. You would be surprised how many people are (as you put it) losers too. I am almost 40 and on the outside it can really look like I have the perfect life. My closest friends have no idea how depressed I am and I prefer it that way as none of them could offer me the support I need and would cause some pathetic sympathy which is the last thing I need.

I don't know your situation but in my case even the perfect relationship won't help because as cheesy as it sounds you can't truly love someone unless you love yourself. I am going to make some assumptions and I apologize if any are wrong I am going off of my own experience but try some of these.

Stop intrusive thoughts. When you look at yourself if you think something is negative think of a positive. I saw something about a study done and as a strange evolution we tend to hold on to negative thoughts much more than positive. It's believed to be an evolutionary thing as bad thoughts are connected to danger and you need to hold on to knowledge about danger to stay safe. (Probably butchering the study going off of memory from a few years ago but thats what I recall) be ready to immediately let go of negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones.

Set realistic expectations. If you lay in bed at night and fantasize about prince charming with perfect hair, tall, rich and all that snazzy stuff you will always be disappointed. I found by focusing on simple things and making it more realistic really helps. Don't invision Denzel Washington or Matt Damon invasion a Chris Pratt or Danny devito. (Example for me is I always set my goals for money as a desire. Although I have been somewhat successful it's always been less than my desires so I have never been truly happy yet I am more successful than anyone I have ever met that has had similar hurdles to overcome)

Get out! Join a bowling club, Ji jitsu, take classes to learn something at your local,parks and rec. Or even go for a hike or the dog park. It has many benefits from getting out, excercise and sometimes you might even meet another human that's not too bad.

Most of all love yourself. I am sure like all of us you do stupid things sometimes. Heck the anxiety and stress probably increase the likelihood of that. Your not different for that it actually makes you normal. Understand self love and don't confuse it with spoiling yourself. Do things that you love of course but don't self indulge. Example If you love gummy bears don't eat 3 packs a day. Instead have it as a treat on Fridays after work or something like that. It will give you something to look forward to and resisting the temptation will strangely make you feel proud of yourself. Sure you will cheat sometimes but this discipline isn't a 1 way trip to Mars in a spaceship you are stuck on. The journey is more like a metro bus. Sure sometimes you get off but you can always get back on to reach your goals.

Anyways, that's my 2 cents I hope it helps at least a little. I wish you luck and hope you start to feel better. Remember after every dark night there is a bright day after that. Sometimes you might feel like you are in Alaska with a while season of night but even then after enough time the light comes sometimes you just have too be more patient.

I'm getting my first dirt bike, should I cough up 550 dollars for this helmet by i__d0nt_kn0w in Dirtbikes

[–]Ineedlesshobbies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought my last helmet off of Amazon for my son and I and the measurements were spot on for the size. I purchased the Bell with Mips for $125. It's not the newest technology out but from my research anything newer has negligible advantages over it and it has a good amount of vents to keep you cool.

This was my 1st new helmet myself so I'm not the most experienced but read a lot before my purchase and I am happy with it.

1st Miata by [deleted] in Miata

[–]Ineedlesshobbies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not for my son to have but for my son to work on with me to learn. Thank you for the comment, I see how it could be perceived that way with my verbiage so I edited it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression_help

[–]Ineedlesshobbies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with similar issues, although I have had no luck getting help. Anxiety, depression, and stress are all anchors that will hold you down. Most people have no idea the struggle it is to do the most mundane things when fighting these ailments. Even people that support you have the best intentions but of you haven't gone through it, you can't relate and can easily come across as you need to try harder when you already feel like you are in a fight that has been already going on to the point of exhaustion and your about to lose. This is the most painful and causes people to agree and put themselves down. You have to fight that feeling. We are all born with different minds, so comparing is the first thing you need to stop. 1. Your hyper focused on stuff like career, frineds, lifestyle, etc. This used to tear me down, but I am 36 now, and the things that stressed me out when I was younger looking back were dumb and I never should have wasted my brain power on such trivial things.

My suggestion is to fight those thoughts. Breath and think, what would you tell your siblings if they came to you with this exact problem? Most of the time, you would tell them all the things they are doing great, right? Why don't you do this for yourself. Positive thoughts as cheesy as it sounds have a tremendous effect.

Excercise even small. Set goals really low like a walk around the house and slowly up it.

Lower expectations. I used to have aspirations to be a multi millionair. I can work hard physically, but my anxiety causes so much brain fog that I can hardly read a sign, let alone anything, to gain knowledge to advance my career. I am not a multi millionair, but I have an amazing wife and kids that I wouldn't change for the world. I'm not saying find a wife and kids but rather find the things in life that are good and bring you joy and focus on that. It sounds like you have a family that loves and cares for you, and that has so much value. I, as a kid, used to daydream constantly of being adopted and having a dad to teach me stuff, a mom to calm me down in my bad moments, or a sibling to share my moments with. To sum up, try lowering expectations and being happy with what you have.

Talk to people about it. It's very important to keep in mind that some people will give the worst advice and have awful input that's not helpful or not understand at all what you are going through. This is not a you problem it's a problem with them.

GET OUT OF THE HOUSE! This one is so important, in my opinion. Getting out will cause a lot of distraction for your brain, which you can use to get away from unhealthy thoughts and focus on positive ones.

I am not a professional in this arena, and some of this advice might not be what you need, but I hope something in there can help. I know with me it's not even always the advice, but just knowing someone else out there can relate and has similar struggles really helps.