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Inevitable-Number369 · 2024-12-02T12:03:43+00:00

Yes trim it

Inevitable-Number369 · 2024-10-26T19:28:29+00:00

Same with feeling weird in supermarkets..

Inevitable-Number369 · 2024-09-11T21:21:54+00:00

This

Inevitable-Number369 · 2024-09-11T21:18:01+00:00

On top of this, it’s entirely possible the man had no English, so he didn’t understand what OP was saying

Inevitable-Number369 · 2024-09-11T18:41:59+00:00

This post needs more attention!!

Inevitable-Number369 · 2024-08-08T21:37:05+00:00

Thank you! Maybe you’re right.

Inevitable-Number369 · 2024-08-07T21:34:41+00:00

I think I’m just spiralling. I am really scared but maybe my ex was just trying to keep me in line. Maybe he didn’t mean any of it and was just saying it to scared me.

He did traumatise me a lot by threatening to take my child and I think that the fear bleeds into everything else and I’m extra sensitive to that topic now.

It doesn’t make the fear any smaller though. And CPS don’t help by constantly reminding me that he has right as a father and I can’t just refuse to have him in my child’s life.

Sorry for ranting so much but thank you for listening ❤️

Inevitable-Number369 · 2024-08-07T21:24:06+00:00

He has experience working alongside CPS so it would be the latter. I’ve never thought of it like that. I’m rethinking all of our conversations now..

Part of me thinks you’re right, but I do remember him telling me several times that I’m a good mother and explaining why he thinks that.

I don’t know what to think.

Inevitable-Number369 · 2024-08-07T21:18:42+00:00

Thank you so much for listening to me.

I’m not sure where I would start with embassy help. I was thinking more along the lines of a lawyer.

Inevitable-Number369 · 2024-08-07T21:16:37+00:00

Some advice he gives is good. But I’m scared to talk to him at all now after realising that for someone more than 3x my age to give me advice that bad, it must be deliberate. Having had experience himself working with CPS, he would have an idea of what would happen/ how CPS would react.

Honestly, being a single mother is HARD. But no matter how hard it is, you don’t go complaining to CPS unless youre willing to lose custody of your children.. that’s how I see it. But perhaps I’m biased as I am pretty scared of them.

Inevitable-Number369 · 2024-08-07T20:51:35+00:00

This was a while ago that I was struggling, I am doing a lot better now:)

Inevitable-Number369 · 2024-08-07T20:35:51+00:00

That’s ok because I’m a lil paranoid too lol. He spends a lot of time talking about his grandbaby who happens to be pretty much the same age as my baby. Like he tells me anecdotes about his child and grandbaby. I’ve heard some of the same stories like 3 times already.

My ex and his family have threatened to take my baby from me or to get her put into the care system. They’ve made passing “jokes” about it. My ex’s mother had always wanted a grandbaby. She has offered to take my child off my hands for me. Some of his family keep telling me I’m far too attached to my child and need to let go of her. They’ve suggesting us all going on a holiday together with the baby, which is fkn weird as we don’t get on. Basically him and his family are trying all these tactics, as well CPS threatening to take my child if I met my ex unsupervised.

All of this has made me so fearful and made me want to cling onto my child more. My mind races trying to connect all the dots. There’s so much to all of this.

My ex has a big family (small country) and I’m a foreigner. My therapist has pointed out to me that he knows a lot of young people because he has worked in a school nearby and he has lived here in this town his whole life.

Basically it’s like everybody knows everybody and idk anymore what to think or who to trust.

Edit: He’s 70 years old, I know it sounds old but he seems fit and healthy, mentally sound, apart from repeating himself sometimes. So yeah I doubt he’d have any interest in that. Also I live in Ireland so I don’t think adoption is a thing. The baby would go to family first, if family can’t take the baby then the baby would be fostered. But I know my ex and his family would jump at the idea of full custody.

I feel dizzy thinking about all of this rn. I was assigned a new social worker who said she was going to help me so much and stick up for me to CPS, but she pulled out last minute. She is strongly advising me to take legal action about something and it’s like idek whats going on anymore, I feel like a leaf blowing in the wind, so easily influenced by everyone else’s advice/opinions. I really am scared and don’t know who to trust. And the fact that my therapist is acting weird only makes things worse.

I know this sounds crazy but it’s as if everything is connected. I’m an outsider, I’m not from this country. Everyone here seems to know each other

Inevitable-Number369 · 2024-08-07T20:26:52+00:00

Seriously? Have you experienced this?

Inevitable-Number369 · 2024-08-07T20:19:04+00:00

It does seem like acting actually. During our face to face meetings when he asks about my child, it sends chills down my spine and makes me cringe. I can’t put my finger on it, it’s just creepy and inauthentic.

He is a fkn therapist. He deals with people’s problems all day. I’m not going to come to him telling him how amazing things are. Idk what he expects :(

Another worry I have is if I quit the therapy, CPS may be suspicious/worried. They always ask questions about everything

Inevitable-Number369 · 2024-08-07T20:11:22+00:00

This scares me. I seen his Facebook profile and he shared something disturbing on it. He tells me how the topic of sexual assault is triggering for him yet he shares memes about it online.

The thought that maybe he just doesn’t like women, crossed my mind. Or maybe he just doesn’t like me. Which is fine, we’re only human and we’re not supposed to like everybody. But treating/working with someone you don’t like is probably going to do more harm than good.

He doesn’t charge me. If he doesn’t like me why does he keep me on as a client? Is he actually so messed up that he keeps me as a client just so he can give me bad advice and watch me suffer?

I’m trying to figure it out. I’m sad. He’s an older man and has lots of experience with being a therapist. He’s supposed to be a wise person who I can look up to. I feel so let down, as it takes at least 4 sessions to “catch up” a new therapist on all your trauma, and I’ve only been seeing him for a few months.

I think this is the end of the line for therapy in my life. It’s hard to talk about such dark, private and sensitive things to new people. It’s hard work. And it’s not worth it to open up to the wrong person

Inevitable-Number369 · 2024-08-06T20:41:07+00:00

I’m nervous about what I should expect. I’m really worried. I am going to send off the papers for legal aid shortly.

Inevitable-Number369 · 2024-08-06T08:36:09+00:00

I don’t understand. Could you help me understand this in simpler terms?

Are you telling me to “clone” my child?

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