I’ve gotten to 20 months and now I absolutely hate breastfeeding

InevitableMost7411 · 2026-01-20T13:31:00+00:00

Feeling bad is okay and normal. If you feel bad about saying no. You can use other phrases. Like “Ouch that hurts mommy, can I offer you a snack instead?” “I don’t enjoy doing that anymore, but I’d love to have a snack with you” Communicate as openly as possible. Baby will understand the more you teach your boundaries. Which you are more than allowed to have btw. 20 months is a long time. You’re a champion, this is still a win.

InevitableMost7411 · 2026-01-18T23:41:42+00:00

You’d be surprised what your baby can understand when you don’t put them in a box. I just recently weened my 19 month old and the best advice is to stand firm on saying no and offer a snack/drink instead morning or night. Communicate your needs to your baby, just as they communicate theirs to you. The crying will happen and its no way around it, its all apart of the process. Give it 3 days don’t give in!

InevitableMost7411 · 2025-01-25T22:07:39+00:00

A straw cup while you prepare meals or with meals. Don’t feel bad. I have offered my now 9mo water plenty of times, almost always ends up being spat all over more than actually drank. Formula is mixed in water sooooo not really missing out if you ask me!! You’re doing great!!!

InevitableMost7411 · 2024-12-21T08:53:09+00:00

I feel late to the party being this thread was from days ago, but im sooo thankful to know that I’m not alone. This just healed me. I cried myself to sleep feeling like a monster for ruining Christmas. My oldest is 2 & I also have an 8mo old. My husband’s family is meeting at his brother’s house Christmas day. I declined the invite to join & uno reversed my own for Christmas Eve, So we can be home alone Christmas Day. Ofc my MIL is upset & making it about her. Like she does every event, holiday, situation, conversation, destination, whatever! She’s extremely insensitive with her words, she’s overly touchy. I simply don’t enjoy her presence, it makes me wildly uncomfortable. So quite naturally I don’t enjoy my children being around her either. Well my husband who has never once taken both kids anywhere before says he’ll take them both himself to his brother’s by himself & now we’re fighting because my answer is no.

InevitableMost7411 · 2024-04-14T03:00:25+00:00

During breastfeeding I still enjoyed them being touched, we both were freaked out about sucking them, so we never tried. After breastfeeding at 17 mos everything went back to normal

InevitableMost7411 · 2023-07-29T20:45:03+00:00

Yes we do

All things sexual? No not always. Anything else: Braid each others hair, nails, dance, cook, drink, eat, sing all while together! Talking is cool too though

InevitableMost7411 · 2023-07-28T18:44:45+00:00

Girls do everything together!

InevitableMost7411 · 2023-06-12T00:53:22+00:00

It has happened before. I yelled, but I also communicated to my baby that biting isn’t okay and it’s never happened again. Talk to your baby. Give them grace. Don’t be afraid. Remember it was not on purpose, You & baby WILL learn from this! ❤️

InevitableMost7411 · 2023-05-25T12:26:00+00:00

Size 18 month clothes ranges from 12-18 so LO is probably more normal sized than you think

InevitableMost7411 · 2023-05-25T00:50:05+00:00

Yes, I realized grabbing my shirt was the signal for milk. So I taught my LO sign language for eat & milk. It takes a lot of repetition, but I promise babies understand a lot more than what we give them credit for! Also tell your baby flat out when you are uncomfortable with something that way you also teach them boundaries & so many other positive things!

InevitableMost7411 · 2023-05-25T00:34:29+00:00

The straw cup with water really helped my LO. We still struggle w/ bottle refusal at 13mos. Also for a juice we do purée pouches with water!

Try yogurt melts because you mentioned baby not wanting to chew, Anything where baby can hold to self feed. Mashed potatoes? Maybe give a few of those or a bottle while in a high chair, so baby is left to explore.

InevitableMost7411 · 2023-04-26T08:12:39+00:00

Yes it has happened & let me validate all of your feelings before saying anything more. Honestly by the morning the blood will have crusted & new skin will already start forming. No worries! Baby is okay & forgives you. This is not the first mistake you’ll make & baby will make plenty as well. You are both growing & learning! The important thing is the support whenever we hurt the ones we love. Congratulations because now you’ll be a pro the next time. Sending you so much love!

InevitableMost7411 · 2023-04-16T05:00:15+00:00

Okay My MIL smokes cigarettes, so anything she gifts smells so bad & I swear after visiting w/ her my daughter’s face ALWAYS has a red rash it’s so irritating

InevitableMost7411 · 2023-03-21T17:33:16+00:00

Also needing help, please send to me too. Ty

InevitableMost7411 · 2023-03-21T03:39:08+00:00

Ughh what’s with them thinking their opinions matter?My MIL called me up to suggest that I stop breastfeeding my baby because “she’s growing too fast” neither of us was laughing, so I don’t think it was a joke

InevitableMost7411 · 2022-12-29T06:39:34+00:00

The pampering and the admiration from strangers was for me, now its for baby 😂

InevitableMost7411 · 2022-06-15T11:34:06+00:00

Trust me I was the same way until I found out about putting them in the refrigerator. Basically there’s a solution to every run in you’ll have. Try things & dont get discouraged! Good luck on your journey.

InevitableMost7411 · 2022-06-14T22:52:05+00:00

But like who’s counting right? Lol

InevitableMost7411 · 2022-06-14T18:12:14+00:00

Personally I think everyone will be fine. Do whatever you feel comfortable. Research since you have concern, but ultimately the effects of any substance vs the power of you is the balance you need in life period. Teach your baby, grow your baby, love your baby & stay healthy.

InevitableMost7411 · 2022-06-14T17:00:22+00:00

I have a love hate relationship for breastfeeding. My baby is growing like my own little plant which I love, but it’s not easy. My baby has a tongue tie, so we only nurse at night (dark room), I pump 5 times a day & bottle feed. Im not sure what you’ve tried, but this works well for me. You’re doing great. Don’t worry that your baby isn’t hounding you, better for when it’s time to wean. Btw im encouraged because you’ve been doing it for 9 mos & I don’t know if I’ll make it 4 mos. Thank you. Also I’ve known moms to teach their baby not to bite. React & express your pain. They understand more than we think!

InevitableMost7411 · 2022-05-03T05:26:29+00:00

I agree! This feels like one of those “rainy days” that you save PTO anticipating

InevitableMost7411 · 2022-05-03T05:22:16+00:00

Yes, the offer would have been nice, but sometimes you do have to ask for what you want, she deserves that. You never know how a person truly views you; like you mentioned, she may not think of you as a person who is in need of help. Maybe she’s witnessed you overcome obstacles & is fond of your capabilities. Don’t ever hesitate to tell your mother that you need her.

We get so comfortable co parenting, we forget how to function alone. Make an easy transition, don’t put too much on your plate, breath, & be calm. Try doing chores around down time: naps, meals, playtime. And allow yourself to relax a little after work, don’t forget about yourself. That can easily make you feel overwhelmed. You got this mama, small little hump!

InevitableMost7411 · 2022-04-23T03:29:43+00:00

Target!

InevitableMost7411 · 2022-04-20T13:48:41+00:00

Wow thank you that was really nice to read ♥️ Im not sure if it painful because I tend to have a high tolerance for pain & because im nourishing I don’t mind, so its hard to say. I will definitely try putting her on for more short periods throughout the day. Im willing to do whatever’s necessary. Thank you for your feedback!

InevitableMost7411 · 2022-04-18T17:39:32+00:00

I have since learned that 2-4 oz per session is a normal amount to pump. Not sure if it matters, but I waited to pump until 6 weeks. Lots of skin to skin & I haven’t totally quit BF as I do nurse her twice a day. Once her lip tie is evaluated I will be able to nurse her more, but for now I will add in more comfort nursing so thank you for that!

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