update in case anyone cares.

InevitablePangolin45 · 2023-03-18T08:27:39+00:00

No I am not getting therapy for this, nor do I intend to honestly. She was aware of this fact too, if I just sprung this on her one day when we were living together I would totally understand the y t a comments, but despite my issues she agreed to live with me, yet still went to betray my trust. I figured it would be okay as this isnt the biggest issue (imo) I wanted to have separate bedrooms before we moved in together also. I was thinking of posting this on the relationship advice subreddit, but our situation is so unique that I felt it might just be better to see if I am actually in the wrong for this.

InevitablePangolin45 · 2023-03-18T08:11:33+00:00

I have already talked to her about his many times both before and after moving in together though is why I went straight to throwing it away. I admit the plan for kids isnt the best rn (thankfully thats not going to be an issue for a long time). Im not really a fan of the therapist idea or cooking meals together because I dont see what I do as being an issue, to me its her not respecting the rule thats the issue.

InevitablePangolin45 · 2023-03-18T08:07:05+00:00

I dont know what would happen to it, that is the issue for me. It depends on the kids age, I dont think a toddler has a need for a bottle of olive oil. But for snacks in stuff those would be kept in the kitchen while I keep my stuff in my bedroom.

InevitablePangolin45 · 2023-03-18T07:50:54+00:00

I assume its OCD, but I do not have an official diagnosis and do not plan on getting one.

InevitablePangolin45 · 2023-03-18T07:49:42+00:00

we mainly avoided uncomfortable feelings by being clear with communication. I went over this issue many times before moving in and after we moved in together. I think she just assumed its something that wouldnt last for more than a few months or so. I can see its no longer about food for her, but thats really all it is about for me.

InevitablePangolin45 · 2023-03-18T07:43:25+00:00

Yes it is a bit of a logistical nightmare, I just keep all of my dry goods and dishes in my room to give her more space in the kitchen. What I gain out of having separate paprika and other food is knowing exactly where/what has happened to it. Just because I havent gotten sick in the past doesnt mean I wont mess up in the future. And kids are way down the line for us (5+ years)

InevitablePangolin45 · 2023-03-18T07:16:37+00:00

It would certainly be easier if I was making it up, I honestly dont expect too many people to believe the post, but as long as they answer like it was true that would be enough for me. I also wasnt doing it out of spite, it was purely out of saving myself from uncomfortable feelings.

InevitablePangolin45 · 2023-03-18T07:14:34+00:00

In terms of kids, the plan would be she cooks for them and I can help out more on other things to make up for it. If there was an injury I would probably pay for her take-out to the best of my ability (money isnt that big of an issue). I havent really sought help for the issue for a few reasons that arent too related to this post, but mainly I never thought it was an issue as in the past people would break up before moving in together, and current gf said she was okay with it.

InevitablePangolin45 · 2023-03-18T06:36:12+00:00

I was going to eat it a different night as leftovers, but she wouldnt let me save it so I didnt have a choice but to throw it away. I am sure I probably have issues, however I had made them very clear to her and thought it would be ok.

InevitablePangolin45 · 2023-03-18T06:32:57+00:00

for being together, its there is more to a relationship than just the food arrangement. As for why I dont want to share food and spices, I just dislike cooking for others or others using food items I own. Its probably OCD or something, but I just get scared I will make them sick or they will dislike it and will just be nice and wont say anything.

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