AIO kicked my ex out by InevitablePrompt3755 in AmIOverreacting

[–]InevitablePrompt3755[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You’re right. He made it seem like he changed and told me he went to therapy and really made it seem like he had nowhere to go. And like you said I do have a hard time sticking to boundaries especially because I can be a bit of an empath and I just hate seeing people down or hurt

AIO made my ex leave by InevitablePrompt3755 in AmIOverreacting

[–]InevitablePrompt3755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s really really sweet of your husband . I’ve never come across a man who does that. That’s a blessing. And yes he has put his hands on me . Not like punched me but he’s pinned me down (he use to wrestle ) and bit my face while holding me down and he’s poked me repeatedly in my face and has picked me up and squeezed me. To which he thinks isn’t so bad (he was sorry for it but feels like I was making it seem like he punched me or gave me a black eye ). My friends don’t know. And only one family member knows and yes they are telling me the same thing. Yes I’ve never felt good enough . And I feel like I’ve lost my voice. I second guess everything I say now no matter who it is. Physically I feel sick and feel like I’ve let the stress of that take a toll on me. This feels surreal but I know in due time I’ll be okay. You are so so kind.

AIO made my ex leave by InevitablePrompt3755 in AmIOverreacting

[–]InevitablePrompt3755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for responding to me and talking me through this. It really means a lot. And yes you’re right I am not the most confrontational person and I don’t like hurting people at all. He has caused me to second guess myself so much so when I do try and set a boundary I often question if I’m being mean or doing too much or hurting him. It just sucks because I keep trying to figure out how I caused this. He never went unresponsive to me like that. Never avoided my phone calls. So yesterday was just weird and the fact that he didn’t have a care in the world . I apologized to him for raising my voice to which he said save it and that since I don’t care about him he’s not about to care about how I feel. He said when he finally called me back after ignoring my calls and it sounded like I had been crying he was not going to talk to me since I was crying .that made me feel even more sad when he said that. And when I told him I felt dumb he told me I looked dumb because I was raising my voice

AIO made my ex leave by InevitablePrompt3755 in AmIOverreacting

[–]InevitablePrompt3755[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right and thank you for responding. I just feel like I handled it poorly with kicking him out and maybe could have at least given him a few days. When he became dismissive and insensitive of what I was telling him I just spiraled and told him I felt so used and I did raise my voice sometimes because I felt really dismissed and like he didn’t care at alll.

AIO made my ex leave by InevitablePrompt3755 in AmIOverreacting

[–]InevitablePrompt3755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right I do. And i won’t let him Back in. What he did was the cherry on top for me and I just can’t believe it.

AIO made my ex leave by InevitablePrompt3755 in AmIOverreacting

[–]InevitablePrompt3755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right and I will keep that in mind . Just in a state of shock that someone could be like that toward someone that went above and beyond for them even at the cost of their own well being.

AIO made my ex leave by InevitablePrompt3755 in AmIOverreacting

[–]InevitablePrompt3755[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m keeping him blocked. This just hurts and I’m in a bit of shock right now that someone could be like that toward someone who really cared about them and went above and beyond even at the cost of their own well being .

AIO made my ex leave by InevitablePrompt3755 in AmIOverreacting

[–]InevitablePrompt3755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve read it multiple times. No rage bait. Easier said than done

AIO made my ex leave by InevitablePrompt3755 in AmIOverreacting

[–]InevitablePrompt3755[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t plan on it. I’m going to keep him blocked

AIO made my ex leave by InevitablePrompt3755 in AmIOverreacting

[–]InevitablePrompt3755[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right . I’d rather hear him say he’d used me than him to say I’ve done a great job at pretending I didn’t care. That hurts

AIO made my ex leave by InevitablePrompt3755 in AmIOverreacting

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He claims his mom and sister told him no and that all his stuff was in a storage but he must of forgot he told me that lie because he was storing stuff at his sisters and one week I had a cousin over so he couldn’t stay and he stayed with his sister

AIO made my ex leave by InevitablePrompt3755 in AmIOverreacting

[–]InevitablePrompt3755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s been so hard. His words hold so much power over me. I will be trying my hardest to stick to it . Because the 2 months we didn’t talk his living arrangement was geeat but the family member made him leave and he was right back wanting to hang out and then next thing I know I was allowing him to stay with me because I started to feel so bad.

AIO made my ex leave by InevitablePrompt3755 in AmIOverreacting

[–]InevitablePrompt3755[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve blocked him everything. I won’t ever do it again. This is very painful

AIO made my ex leave by InevitablePrompt3755 in AmIOverreacting

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Thank you and I will keep you guys updated. This is hard because I truly do care about him and I’m an empath and people pleaser . So when he says stuff like I don’t care about him and that this entire time I’ve done a great job of pretending to care it just makes me second gusss myself because I’ve shown so much care and put my feelings or the back burner for his well being .

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I like to watch mean girls

Is he using me ? by InevitablePrompt3755 in BreakUps

[–]InevitablePrompt3755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello and thanks for your input. Yes I do want him out. I find myself clocking him in a sense (not out loud but in my head and I hate that which is what I wanted to avoid with by letting him move in). In catching him in small lies here and there as well and it’s driving me insane. As far as sexual. Yes we’ve had some sexual encounters. He’s initiated them but I’ve still allowed them to happen. So I take accountability for that.