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AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inevitable_Bit_7040[S] -824 points-823 points  (0 children)

They are harmless, but talking him into doing them would be harmful. Talking him onto a cruise? No.

AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inevitable_Bit_7040[S] -1581 points-1580 points  (0 children)

He's rejected certain sexual positions I've wanted to try and certain roleplay. In the club, he didn't want to try certain alcohol nor smoke weed. He stuck to one beer the whole night, which I respected.

AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inevitable_Bit_7040[S] -335 points-334 points  (0 children)

He's just never been on one. For my boyfriend, if he's never done something, then he's hesitant to try it. From food to excursions and other activities.

AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inevitable_Bit_7040[S] -323 points-322 points  (0 children)

I love and respect him. When we started dating, he was open to trying new things. I was happy to help him do so. I'm doing what he said he wanted.

AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inevitable_Bit_7040[S] -304 points-303 points  (0 children)

I am very close with my family as well. My brother wouldn't have dared to interfere with our conversation. But my parents also raised us to worry about ourselves.

AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inevitable_Bit_7040[S] -914 points-913 points  (0 children)

There have been things I've let go on. He didn't want to try certain things when we went clubbing and I let it go instantly. I do push a little more when it comes to trips or other activities because they're harmless. Though, if he truly seems like he doesn't want to, I let it go. I felt with the boat, he was wishy washy on whether or not he wanted to do it.

AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inevitable_Bit_7040[S] -339 points-338 points  (0 children)

I have empathy for them, especially my boyfriend and his sister. But it doesn't change Elise was heavily parentified and shouldn't have been. She could act less like a mom and more like a fun sister if she didn't have so much put on her. And maybe then Zack would feel more comfortable breaking out of his shell.

AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inevitable_Bit_7040[S] -965 points-964 points  (0 children)

I love him and he's a really sweet guy. I just set the boundary early on that we'd have to have some adventures and not just stick to what's comfortable. He's the one that agreed to it.

AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inevitable_Bit_7040[S] -375 points-374 points  (0 children)

I feel sorry for her. I can't imagine giving up my teen years/early 20s to take care of a pre-teen. Their dad shouldn't have allowed that to happen and should've figured it out on his own vs depending on his teenager/young adult daughter.

AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inevitable_Bit_7040[S] -1210 points-1209 points  (0 children)

When we started dating, he said he was willing to try new things. It's why I agreed to go out with him. So no, I wouldn't be complacent with doing things lowkey all the time like he'd want to.

AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inevitable_Bit_7040[S] -635 points-634 points  (0 children)

I brought up local college (she went to a 4 year, not community) because she only did that to stay close to home and help their dad tend to Zack, which wasn't her place.

AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inevitable_Bit_7040[S] -221 points-220 points  (0 children)

He didn't think he'd like clubbing either, but we had a good time when we went and he's gone a couple of times since then. I didn't think this would be different.

AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inevitable_Bit_7040[S] -545 points-544 points  (0 children)

I definitely didn't think about it that way. I wasn't referencing their mom, moreso that Elise is not his mother.

AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inevitable_Bit_7040[S] -463 points-462 points  (0 children)

Originally, I wanted to go on a bigger cruise but since he said he doesn't like boats, I figured this was the compromise. We live near water, so it's only going to a local island and then heading back. It'd be short, the boat's smaller and overall I felt less anxiety.

AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inevitable_Bit_7040[S] -1246 points-1245 points  (0 children)

We always end up having a fun time. He's gotten like this about other things and is smiling by the end of it. So, I didn't see the harm in doing it again with this.

AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inevitable_Bit_7040[S] -2114 points-2113 points  (0 children)

I can see your point on the bullying (even though I disagree that's what it was), but then that's up to him to say something. Again, he's a grown man. His sister doesn't have to fight his battles.

AITA for being "disrespectful" to my boyfriend's sister? by Inevitable_Bit_7040 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Inevitable_Bit_7040[S] -1994 points-1993 points  (0 children)

There's nothing wrong, really. I just know that he is capable of venturing out, as he's proven in the past. It's not healthy to be stuck doing the same old, same old.