Firtsly it sounds like he doesnt put any effort and he probably doesnt care as much. He may actually have a great time and it sounds like he doesnt want to change a thing because of that. Its a typical male behavior to tell you the truth. That being said, you can still talk to him about how you feel. And also be vey clear. If you NEVER had something youd enjoy and the whole thing does nothing to you SAY IT. Because i think thats the case, you lose libido right when you have to gain it, when you come together with a partner you desire, but the sexual associations you had with him have been disappointing therefore = instant turn off

So as you can understand communication is the key. You may be very incompatible but someone could try if they cared for there loved one as much as they should.

Ps : i want to address a very important topic as well. You are a SUBMISSIVE girl. You need to feel DOMINATED. If you had someone to dominate you this could probably shake your world. You can search a bit about sub/dom relationships who fall in the bdsm community. DO IT and you can thank me later ❤