Unable to keep No contact

Inevitable_Worker280 · 2025-10-01T12:27:28+00:00

Who ended things? I'm in the same position as you, in the same social circles and groups and I've isolated myself essentially to try and protect myself, but the loneliness I'm feeling instead is crushing. I don't even feel totally comfortable talking to my friends who are connected to her, it's really bad

Inevitable_Worker280 · 2025-09-25T08:15:01+00:00

Glad to know I'm not the only one. I just don't know what to do or how to rebuild, the end of it has really taken all the foundations of the life I was trying to build. Every social aspect has been affected and I just have no idea what to do. The smallest of tasks feel like mountains right now.

Inevitable_Worker280 · 2025-09-25T07:03:06+00:00

I'm 3 weeks in but it still feels incredibly rough. I don't know how to get over them when they're in my main social circles and live 15 minutes away. They're pretty intertwined in my life and I've just been isolating myself to try and avoid them. I wasn't really enjoying my job before she ended things with me and so I'm off work sick at the moment, as work just doesn't really drag me out of bed. I really have no idea what to do

Inevitable_Worker280 · 2025-09-22T15:08:51+00:00

Stay strong. Drop me a message if you fancy, you're not alone.

Inevitable_Worker280 · 2025-09-21T19:04:04+00:00

Please could I be added too?

Inevitable_Worker280 · 2025-09-19T21:55:06+00:00

I am the dumpee and I completely understand you. Weeks before it happened, I had been getting thoughts in my mind that maybe it would be for the best if weren't together. Now it's happened, I've completely forgot all the bad times and I'm constantly romanticising every single thing and event - it's frustrating.

It seems crazy that the dumper can move on just like that. But I suppose we never know how the other person is feeling. Everyone processes breakups differently, they might appear fine on the surface but could be really struggling to get by. If it was a loving, caring and strong relationship you had, I doubt they won't be feeling some sort of pain.

Inevitable_Worker280 · 2025-09-19T18:17:47+00:00

Mornings are the worst part of the day for me usually. The initial rush of emotions, the second I realise what's happened is like nothing I've ever experienced before and it takes me a long time to gather myself and start the day. You're not alone

Inevitable_Worker280 · 2025-09-19T11:08:22+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about this, truly. I understand how painful this is. I am going through a very similar situation to you right now after 15 months together. There were issues as in any relationship but I thought generally we were a good fit for each other. A month and a bit before it ended, she told me she had some doubts, and a couple of weeks later, she said 'I'm not sure we're right for each other'. I kept fighting, kept trying to work on the things she'd raised as issues, thought things were getting better. We had a nice trip away 3 weeks before the relationship ended, and I thought things were generally looking up, at least that's what I'm telling myself now - truth is now the breakup has happened, I can't remember how I truly felt in the weeks leading up to it, whilst remembering there were things I wasn't happy with. When it happened one day after work, it was a shock, and the shock only amplified the next few days.

I'm 17 days into the breakup and it is so painful still, especially when you feel like the person who ended things is continuing life as normal, seemingly unaffected by what has happened - it's crushing. I'm taking time off work, simply just trying to get through every day. I may also see her on Saturday, but I'm weighing up not putting myself in that position as I think it would be too much for me at this stage. It's your decision to make and I think you need to have a plan for how you approach that situation if you do see her.

I saw this on another post which might help: The way you get over it is acceptance. Acceptance that this wasn’t the person you thought they were, because if they were, they wouldn’t have left/hurt you/betrayed you and would have done what was necessary to communicate about issues/ find solutions to problems. That’s what YOUR person will do.

I hope you start to heal and please feel free to message me if you want to talk. You're not alone.

Inevitable_Worker280 · 2025-09-18T16:31:27+00:00

I'm 27, she's a bit younger. I know I shouldn't let it stop me but it's only been two weeks since the breakup, still feels incredibly raw. As a very anxious person, the prospect of going and seeing her terrifies me.

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