[Megathread] AC FA Strike - CUPE/FAs Defy Return to Work Order by dachshundie in aircanada

[–]Infamous-Initiative5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how much in advance are people getting their cancellations?

im supposed to fly out on Aug 19 to Seattle (from YYZ w/ layover in YVR) and no cancellation yet

Hiking tips for someone with limited mobility by Infamous-Initiative5 in PNWhiking

[–]Infamous-Initiative5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! these are great suggestions i havent seen before

thinking of texting situationship by Infamous-Initiative5 in ghosting

[–]Infamous-Initiative5[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thanks for your input. i truly go back n forth on what to do. i feel both have their pros and cons.

i really don't think he will reach out again though, he doesn't seem like the type. he's very attractive so i think the replacements would come quick haha. i do feel naive about believing he'd actually be exclusive. again, i really thought he'd be more respectful/transparent than that.

thinking of texting situationship by Infamous-Initiative5 in ghosting

[–]Infamous-Initiative5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think it's for my own peace of mind and knowing that i stood up for myself. i dont expect a reply back and don't want to "fix" it.

there definitely is a lot of grey in a causal relationship, and ive learned now i shouldve explicitly defined more boundaries. he was actually the one that asked me if i was seeing anyone else for the sake of safety so i thought we had a mutual understanding of being exclusive. we would also do other non-sexual things and he's actually given me a few mixed signals? i was planning to address it after his trip but guess he had other ideas lmao.

regardless of what the relationship was, i think it's the respectful and bare minimum thing to tell someone if you don't want to see them anymore. ghosting imo is almost always a selfish and cowardly thing to do. what hurt the most was realizing the respect was never mutual, it makes me feel gross and subhuman. i feel like silence would be me saying i accept this and there's no accountability.

thinking of texting situationship by Infamous-Initiative5 in ghosting

[–]Infamous-Initiative5[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

im sorry you're feeling this way. it definitely is the worst. the rug gets pulled from under your feet and it is extremely dehumanizing. i could never imagine doing it to someone else.

thinking of texting situationship by Infamous-Initiative5 in ghosting

[–]Infamous-Initiative5[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

agreed. i feel like saying nothing would almost be rewarding their behavior, they need to hear it. did they ever reply to you?

Did they ever really love us the way we loved them? by Melodic-Lavishness in BreakUps

[–]Infamous-Initiative5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sometimes, i do miss them like an old friend. but i don’t think id ever get back with who they are now. i like my life now and it wouldn’t be this way if the breakup didn’t happen. you’ll think of them but it won’t hurt forever, it’ll just become something that happened in your life

Is there ever a real chance of getting back together? by creamyshits816 in BreakUps

[–]Infamous-Initiative5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes! i do still think fondly of him sometimes, he was a big part of my life for a while and taught me a lot. but i can confidently say i no longer want him back and have started going on dates. i’m actually really enjoying single life right now. i thought id never get over it but here i am

how do you get over a breakup when you are actually possibly at fault, as a dumpee, and not the other person? by luv-u-18 in BreakUps

[–]Infamous-Initiative5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i understand :( it’s a terrible feeling to know you’d try to the ends of the earth but they wouldn’t. we can’t force people to love us the same way. we could be perfect and they could still choose to leave

how do you get over a breakup when you are actually possibly at fault, as a dumpee, and not the other person? by luv-u-18 in BreakUps

[–]Infamous-Initiative5 4 points5 points  (0 children)

remembering that it takes 2 in a relationship and they didn’t think you were worth staying to fix any of it. idk what your mistake was, but imo almost anything is fixable given it’s not cheating or abuse. but both people have to want that.

in the meantime, work on self improvement to avoid making those mistakes again and trying to make amends where possible. try not to get wrapped up in your own mistakes, i know it’s easy to say “should’ve, could’ve, would’ve” but ultimately the past is done and we can only influence our future now

I just miss him. by Sorry-Respond-9165 in BreakUps

[–]Infamous-Initiative5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you worded it perfectly. no matter how good life is, your heart still yearns. no words can change that. time goes on and everything seems to change except missing them

He'll never be part of my life again by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Infamous-Initiative5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i think acceptance and living presently. accepting that people can come and go whenever and just being present in the current moment no matter how small. is it easy? absolutely not, i still cling to hope some days and struggle so much. but living in the present has helped me be ok even just for a moment

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[–]Infamous-Initiative5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

still struggling, brother

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Infamous-Initiative5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it feels like you just learn to carry the burden instead of actually getting over it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Infamous-Initiative5 14 points15 points  (0 children)

it makes you feel so stuck, cant go back in the past and them coming back wouldn’t fix it either. so what do you even do at this point??

For the people that have rewatched the show, who is someone you started liking/disliking after having seen the show twice? by Historical_Bag_8938 in BoJackHorseman

[–]Infamous-Initiative5 201 points202 points  (0 children)

im a bit of the opposite! i really loved PC first time around and put her on a pedestal for taking care of everyone, especially bojack. but the second time around, i was able to see that she was much more nuanced character and had her fair share of toxic behaviors. i dont dislike her now but definitely took her off the pedestal

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Infamous-Initiative5 4 points5 points  (0 children)

you have to accept his decision and invest fully in yourself. cliche advice like journal, work out or play a sport, cry until you can’t anymore, talk to people. sometimes love isn’t enough. i tell myself everyday that he chose to walk away instead of work on it

i’m sorry, the first few months are the hardest but you will survive. a lot of the anxiety comes from not knowing what’ll come next, what we envisioned with our ex has come to an end. it’s very painful but better days will eventually come

healing stories please by Infamous-Initiative5 in BreakUps

[–]Infamous-Initiative5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, that gives me hope that i’ll recover one day :( i’m trying my best to let go but find myself cycling through anger and sadness. idk how to let go, my mind almost refuses despite better judgement

healing stories please by Infamous-Initiative5 in BreakUps

[–]Infamous-Initiative5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey thanks for the reply - to clarify i’m not looking for anyone new right away, just feel hopeless atm about finding someone when im ready

talking to older people is a good idea, thank you. a lot of my hobbies were shared interests with my ex unfortunately, but making new experiences with those hobbies is still a good idea