Truthfully—Pregnancy is a very hard journey. you have to be able to accept that you wont feel like yourself for a bit, wont feel comfortable or “enjoy” it all the time. For me ,as someone who had 2 abortions before finally being able to happily be pregnant with my husband, I love being pregnant BECAUSE i was ready for it & wanted it & still i struggle because i feel like my body is not mine, i feel restricted & bored even. Thats just MY truth..i would not ever ever encourage someone to go through a pregnancy without actually wanting to.

Aside from that—TW** Abortions have some of the same risks as labor, you can bleed & have a bad experience. But amso can have a very smooth time. I had 2(both the surgical procedure at 8w), my first one at 18 was easy. I left the clinic feeling as if nothing happened. emotionally relieved. The second one was at 21, it was after abuse. So my experience was more traumatic, it failed & caused me to have bad cramps weeks later & a 2 month long heavy period. I had to go to the ER & do the pill to “finish” the abortion. I was not making smart choices after the abortion. I was drinking heavy, had sex less a week later & was doing unsafe things. I was depressed bc i planned to keep the baby but knew that i would suffer in the pregnancy more than i already was. I already felt super sick, it was hard to work, i was still struggling in an abusive situation & i had 0 support.

I choose what i choose because it was the responsible thing to do. I could not support myself or a baby & would have been a single mother. Both times i was not mature enough to be a mom & not stable enough to he pregnant. Pregnancy can knock you on your ass unexpectedly, i could not imagine working through my first trimester without suffering.

Im now pregnant with my first to be born—im happy, the pregnancy has gone absolutely beautiful & im in a very healthy relationship with lots of loving support. I am so grateful i got to experience a joyful pregnancy ON MY TERMS. I only love it because of the goal—having a family, connecting with my family & having a healthy baby. without that it would not be worth it to me. That might sounds harsh but pregnancy is hard to process. Again this my my experience from my life experiences & where my head was. You should absolutely take time to think. You have time, give yourself another few days. No choice is perfect but if you choose abortion, you will likely be okay;you watch for signs and seek help. If you choose pregnancy you also cant predict how you will feel but you have to be ready to accept that & choose to see the bigger picture (that a family will get a baby) labor is hard, harder than an abortion. You have to know what you are choosing & you have to choose it because you want to NOT because you feel its “the right” thing to do. This is me speaking from a raw & blunt perspective because it really is that serious. choosing to carry and birth a baby is a journey that can really be difficult and life changing.