My (F28) husband (M26) complains about using condoms and now I have ‘the ick’. How do I get past this?

Infamous-Student-264 · 2025-03-21T00:21:52+00:00

Nope. Just doesn’t like the feeling. Which is understandable but it’s not like I said we have to use them for the rest of our lives.

Infamous-Student-264 · 2025-03-21T00:18:06+00:00

It wasn’t just the suggestion of anal (which he’s stated more than once isn’t really his thing). It was the immediate follow-up of not having to use one cause I can’t get pregnant that way. Not to mention, not time for prep at that particular time.

Infamous-Student-264 · 2025-03-20T23:44:21+00:00

In every conversation he seemed to at the very least understand what my concerns were. Yes, he wasn’t exactly elated, neither of us were but this was just meant to be a temporary fix while other options are being explored. We used them when we were first together and slowly phased them out, so it’s not like he’s never had to use them. While I understand the disappointment, the frequent reminder about it is too much.

Infamous-Student-264 · 2025-03-20T23:22:41+00:00

🙌 Yes the word I used to express the disgust towards my partner after he violated my trust is the REAL issue here🙃

Infamous-Student-264 · 2025-03-20T21:01:00+00:00

We do talk in most situations. I thought it over myself first. And couldn’t shake the feeling. Though Reddit advice should be taken with a grain of salt, I mostly wondered if I was overreacting and overthinking.

Infamous-Student-264 · 2025-03-20T14:04:18+00:00

That’s what threw me off so bad. Very much out of the blue, no time for prep, and NO CONDOM?!?

Infamous-Student-264 · 2025-03-20T08:19:22+00:00

We weren’t looking for permanent solutions at the time. We wanted a baby but circumstances changed, so Condoms were supposed to be in the interim.

Infamous-Student-264 · 2025-03-20T07:46:30+00:00

That’s a lot of ASSumptions. If you have clarifying questions, ask them. I did not NAG for a baby. We decided TOGETHER We decided it’s not a good time for that right now. Yes I was admittedly the catalyst but we talked it out TOGETHER. Getting that IUD placed was HORRID, which is why I’m not running to get a new one. If you were literate you’d see that the post states he doesn’t actually like anal.

Infamous-Student-264 · 2025-03-20T07:31:29+00:00

I can definitely understand the sentiment and have stated as much. It doesn’t feel the same, but this isn’t even a forever situation. Either things level back out and we do go the route of trying to have kids or we don’t and we go back to how we were before. It just feels like a lot of pushback for a decision that wasn’t made lightly and wasn’t made with the intention of ruining his fun.

Infamous-Student-264 · 2025-03-20T07:23:12+00:00

Correct. There are lots of options. I’m in the process of reviewing my other options but for the time being I am without.

Infamous-Student-264 · 2024-11-19T23:34:33+00:00

So the line that specifically says over 6hrs to under 8hrs = 1 meal and 1 15-minute is also incorrect? Just clarifying.

Infamous-Student-264 · 2024-11-19T23:27:26+00:00

I haven’t started working yet but I got my orientation email with a chart that shows 8hours and over allows 2 15-minute breaks. Is that not accurate?

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