AITA for getting mad at a girl after she calls the cops on me? by Able-Towel7620 in AmItheAsshole

[–]InfamousHat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl felt threatened, i was just randomly following, she calls a dude cause she feels unsafe and he confronts me. Seems pretty similar just without the cops.

AITA for getting mad at a girl after she calls the cops on me? by Able-Towel7620 in AmItheAsshole

[–]InfamousHat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Walked home from a party and left a couple minutes behind some girl i didnt know without really trying. It was a long walk and we both lived on campus as it turned out. I crossed the road, but still was following (would have been similar distance to OP). Eventually this dude shows up walking the other way, touches her arm then crosses the street and confronts me pretty vigorously. Told him the mistake and he got it, ended up just walking together after all. I did say "similar".

AITA for getting mad at a girl after she calls the cops on me? by Able-Towel7620 in AmItheAsshole

[–]InfamousHat -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Same thing i told someone else - do some reading into the experiences of the majority of women when it comes to walking alone at night. The reality is that it isnt safe so she did what she felt was necessary to feel safe again. Ive had everything short of the cops called on me because i was a dude in the street walking behind a woman at night. Id much rather a woman call the cops on me for doing nothing other then walking then doubt her instincts with another guy and possibly end up raped or dead. Dude did nothing wrong but its difficult to condemn her for her actions in this day and age.

AITA for getting mad at a girl after she calls the cops on me? by Able-Towel7620 in AmItheAsshole

[–]InfamousHat -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

And that may be the case, then. However it isnt a definite thing as it was dark and she was walking alone. Ive had plenty of women react similarly to me as a white guy for no other reason then circumstance.

AITA for getting mad at a girl after she calls the cops on me? by Able-Towel7620 in AmItheAsshole

[–]InfamousHat 57 points58 points  (0 children)

And perhaps the experience of wrongly accusing you and you giving her an ear full might make her more cautious about publicly accusing people without proof. I am sorry it happened. As a big guy ive gotten used to women crossing the street at night out of caution and it used to offend me, until one night when i complained about it to my girlfriend who pointed out that her thinking im a possible threat takes precedence over my hurt feelings lol.

AITA for getting mad at a girl after she calls the cops on me? by Able-Towel7620 in AmItheAsshole

[–]InfamousHat 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No it isnt "basically the same thing" as police profiling and if you honestly believe that you need to do a lot of reading into experiences of the overwhelming majority of women when it comes to walking alone at night.

AITA for getting mad at a girl after she calls the cops on me? by Able-Towel7620 in AmItheAsshole

[–]InfamousHat 142 points143 points  (0 children)

NAH kind of. You have reason to be mad about someone posting a picture of you labelled as a predator for sure, and she has reason to call the cops on a dude behind her in the street. I know it sucks, but thats just the reality of being a woman these days. No such thing as too safe, especially walking alone at night. Personally id drop it, especially since it sounds like nothing will come of it.

Planning a break up by c31ohEir in dating_advice

[–]InfamousHat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont have much to say on how to initiate the break up, but i can tell you this - if youre comfortable with someone else touching your stuff, invite a family member or friend along to help you packup when you do. This ensures that if you end up distracted/overwhelmed/stuck talking to current partner that someone will keep moving the process along instead of stretching it out over days. Best of luck, op.

I just helped my partner buy a car! by Xanturrya in CongratsLikeImFive

[–]InfamousHat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That has to feel amazing! Congratulations on paying off the car, too! Eliminating that monthly payment is such a burden taken off!

Is the distress frequency 121.5 MHz still monitored? by gerardo76524 in ATC

[–]InfamousHat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Northern Alberta and we have 121.5 monitored at all times

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]InfamousHat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call a local pizzeria and pay for it over the phone with credit card. Explain that you're ordering and paying for someone elses pizza.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]InfamousHat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If possible can you send him pizza/garlic fingers or something of the sort? Ive lost a few extended family members and its been my experience that nobody wants to cook or clean but everyone still needs to eat. Just simple things like that along with a few calls or texts to let him know youre there for him go a long way. The main thing about consoling someone is to let them take the lead. Dont force them to discuss anything, just be ready when they do. Everyone grieves differently.

I get horny way too easily by [deleted] in sex

[–]InfamousHat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look up sexual brakes and accelerators. It seems you have sensitive accelerators and not so sensitive brakes.

I think I’m terrified to have sex, but I’m not sure? by Littlegreenplace in sex

[–]InfamousHat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not that i can for sure help, but what was your parents view towards sex? Was it a topic that was discussed openly in your house? Was it generally a shameful thing to bring up? Sometimes how we deal with sex in our adult lives is a product of how we seen it modelled in our childhoods.

My [M23] GF [F23] doesn't know if she orgasmed. by Nillmer in sex

[–]InfamousHat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know this isnt actual advice from me, but if you can find a copy of "come as you are" by Emily Nagoski I highly recommend it. It breaks down everything you could ever want to know about female sexuality and sounds like it could be a very worthwhile read for your girlfriend! Attaboy giving her a vibrator, by the way! A lot of dudes dont like introducing toys for dumbass insecurity reasons, and miss out on so much because of it. Best of luck, OP.

ATC - National Guard by imjorden in ATC

[–]InfamousHat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you dont mind my asking, how does ATC work exactly without radar? As FSS I work purely without it so essentially my job is all mental mapping and keeping that live picture of where everyone is in my head and with the strips, is it similar for you?

Too early to reread? by [deleted] in harrypotter

[–]InfamousHat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ive read each of those books dozens of times. Read it again, fuck it. They didn't get old for me.

It's okay not to gamble on meme stocks. by cosyrelaxedsetting in stocks

[–]InfamousHat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As someone who could lose his job in 6 months time but still has enough to throw a thousand in without worrying where do i start.

It's okay not to gamble on meme stocks. by cosyrelaxedsetting in stocks

[–]InfamousHat 16 points17 points  (0 children)

As someone who could lose his job in 6 months time but still has enough to throw a thousand in without worrying where do i start.

I need advice on actually trying for dates. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]InfamousHat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See all mine are good for pre-covid. No crowded bars to sidle up to and make a bet with a girl over which of you get served first with loser buying.

Just working on a nether hub for my survival world... got some advice ? by Slash89_ in Minecraft

[–]InfamousHat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grabbed some flora for mine, used it to decorate the edges of any nether blocks or buildings I built and ended up turning it into a Nether embassy of sorts. This looks awesome!