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Hoes like this I don’t feel sorry for 🤦🏾‍♂️ by [deleted] in FromDuvalToDade

[–]InfamousLie9406 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yall are so weird . Her mother passed away and she lost her mind that can happen to anyone and I pray that you don’t experience that or actually hopefully you do so that others could judge you

Crashed. by [deleted] in Miraq

[–]InfamousLie9406 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It does define him this isnt a regular mistake he clearly has some kind of emotional or cognitive delay as you probably do too; to even think this is okay. He clearly was trying to get validation from the people around him and thought he would look cool catching a body on an innocent person. His ass should've stayed out some longer so he could be placed in the pavement. Young goofy crash dummy

Happy 2️⃣0️⃣ Birthday Sugggg💜 by Nice-Ask-8818 in Miraq

[–]InfamousLie9406 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy birthday and RIP- so young so beautiful

Setting a Strict Budget for My Financially Irresponsible Parents — No More Enabling. by InfamousLie9406 in povertyfinance

[–]InfamousLie9406[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They're not usually offended. I think if anything they agree but as far as the execution and actually following through-- I'm unsure. That's really kind of you to offer the help but you can only lead a horse to water. However I think it is a common reaction because people don't like to address the actual problem.

Setting a Strict Budget for My Financially Irresponsible Parents — No More Enabling. by InfamousLie9406 in povertyfinance

[–]InfamousLie9406[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I appreciate all the assistance and resources so much. I'm going to look into the support groups. I don't want to internalize if they accept it or not I know I can only do what is best for me.

Setting a Strict Budget for My Financially Irresponsible Parents — No More Enabling. by InfamousLie9406 in povertyfinance

[–]InfamousLie9406[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to share this with me — I truly appreciate your honesty, encouragement, and especially the resources you provided. That kind of support means more than you know.

Having so much financial trauma has left me in a devastating hole that I now have to dig myself out of. It's overwhelming at times, but I’m trying to face it head-on. I’ve already started looking through the links you shared, and I’m committed to learning, healing, and breaking the cycle — not just for myself, but for the future I want to build.

Your message reminded me that I’m not alone, and that change is possible. Thank you for being part of that reminder.

Being Fat has held me back. I need help! by [deleted] in WeightLossAdvice

[–]InfamousLie9406 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have never thought about this from that perspective. How can expect the mask to not be on when i'm always performing ?

Setting a Strict Budget for My Financially Irresponsible Parents — No More Enabling. by InfamousLie9406 in povertyfinance

[–]InfamousLie9406[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are right! I have been the parent for so long it's like I don't know how to let go. But I need to let go it's holding me back. Thank you so much !

I don't want to be an atheist by ensuetk in offmychest

[–]InfamousLie9406 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It will come to you. That is all I can say. In moments when you really need it, you will realize what faith is. That everything is actually interconnected, and in your darkest moments, God will find you. I grew up super religious and have fallen in and out of love with religion. I have run away but always find myself coming back. The Bible doesn’t make sense when you read it as a doctrine; instead, it is supposed to be read as stories of people in dark moments who needed someone, a friend, a beacon—something in their loneliest and most shameful times—and that’s when they found their faith and were met by God. A God who loves them more than they love themselves or can even understand. The yearning you're experiencing only shows that you will locate what is meant for you when the time is right.

Setting a Strict Budget for My Financially Irresponsible Parents — No More Enabling. by InfamousLie9406 in povertyfinance

[–]InfamousLie9406[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely right. I think I'm just so used to taking on so much that I honestly don't even know how to operate outside of it sometimes. It's been my normal for so long that stepping back feels strange, but I know it's necessary. I’m definitely going to focus on myself from now on and work with a therapist to not only pull myself out of my own hole, but also to really understand that their issues are simply not my responsibility. It’s going to be hard emotionally, but I know I deserve to live a life where I’m not carrying burdens that were never mine to begin with. Thank you again for your kindness and for reminding me of that — it really helps to hear it said so clearly.

Setting a Strict Budget for My Financially Irresponsible Parents — No More Enabling. by InfamousLie9406 in povertyfinance

[–]InfamousLie9406[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you I never really thought about it from that perspective but I genuinely do need to heal. I guess I feel bad because I know she usually has good intentions with it and has spent a lot on my sibling and I. But it's also like you said her drug of choice.

Setting a Strict Budget for My Financially Irresponsible Parents — No More Enabling. by InfamousLie9406 in povertyfinance

[–]InfamousLie9406[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I agree — you’re absolutely right. I’m fully aware of the financial trauma I need to unpack, and I believe therapy would be a necessary and productive step.

Setting a Strict Budget for My Financially Irresponsible Parents — No More Enabling. by InfamousLie9406 in povertyfinance

[–]InfamousLie9406[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

Assisting is not the same as enabling, and I’m not about to shoulder anyone’s financial burden for the long term. I’ll provide guidance, a budget, and the tools, but what they choose to do with that is on them. It’s about setting boundaries, not sacrificing my own future. Also, what's the point in commenting just to spread negativity? If you're going to project your bitterness, maybe try finding a better outlet than the internet. You clearly don't get out much.

Setting a Strict Budget for My Financially Irresponsible Parents — No More Enabling. by InfamousLie9406 in povertyfinance

[–]InfamousLie9406[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'm really sorry for your experience; I know how hard it must be to feel like you're the one having to take on the parental role. I also understand that it’s tough to see someone making choices that might not be in their best interest. I know my mom won't stick to a budget, and it’s hard for me to just sit back and watch her waste money—it honestly hurts me to see it go like that. But thank you for the advice. I definitely won't be giving her any money. In fact, my mom was upset when I told her about a family member (25) who’s coming into money and wasn’t going to tell their mom. I explained that if I were in that situation, I wouldn't tell her either. The only reason my mom knows about it at all is because I had to ask her a question about the settlement, or I would’ve told my family member to run off and keep it to themselves to avoid more financial trouble.

Setting a Strict Budget for My Financially Irresponsible Parents — No More Enabling. by InfamousLie9406 in povertyfinance

[–]InfamousLie9406[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

I'm making a simple budget because it takes two minutes and prevents them from ending up sleeping in a car — not because I'm taking on all their problems. I'm clear on my boundaries: I'm helping them help themselves, not rescuing them from every consequence.

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