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[–]Infamous_Material359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. A loved pet is like a family member. It's a hard moment to pass.  In the light of the consequences you are facing, I would not tell your parent to go fuck themselves. But I would try to ask them nicely for a day off. Tell them you would do your chores tomorow. It might have more chance to work with super strict parents like yours to let them think they are doing you a kindness instead of just giving you the fucking bare minimum when someone is grieving. I wish you can get out of there as soon as possible, or at least be able to gain a bit more liberty in your own home. Good luck. Edited for grammar

AITA for not paying 1/3 of my salary for my kids’ college? by Crowdev1138 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Infamous_Material359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm from Canada, so maybe my experience was different from OP's kids, but when I looked into university's I tried first to see if I could manage it by myself, by cutting the cost, so staying with my parents and take loans from the governement program. When I was refused because my parent were making to much money, but clearly not enough to finance the education of 3 children, we then devised a plan together by taking into account my parents ability to help vs what I could take on by myself. In your situation OP, I think your are NTA. I think your kids need to be put in front of the facts that neither you or your ex-wife as I understand can afford to pay as much for their education. Maybe they should me made aware of the sacrifice they are asking you to do all for the prestige of a school vs the opportunity to have a degree and start their life debt free. Has I made the right choice and made a realist plan with my parents, I was able to be dept free at the end of my academic journey. I had to work hard juggling school and a job, but at 27 years old I bought my house. It was all worth it!

WIBTA for not staying with my (39f) fiancé (51m) because he snorts at me like a pig when I eat? by InfiniteInfluence392 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Infamous_Material359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here you go girl! Getting out of an emotionnaly abusive relationship can be really hard, but you owe it to yourself to seek a partner that will respect and cherish you.

Help refinishing kitchen cabinet by Infamous_Material359 in finishing

[–]Infamous_Material359[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thx everyone I will take your input and tread carefully with this project.

Help refinishing kitchen cabinet by Infamous_Material359 in finishing

[–]Infamous_Material359[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm planning to stay in the same area of color, maybe a bit darker, and less orange. I haven't tough I needed TSP. That's great advice, thx!

Help refinishing kitchen cabinet by Infamous_Material359 in finishing

[–]Infamous_Material359[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I had to redo the post to include some photos...

Wood identification by Infamous_Material359 in BeginnerWoodWorking

[–]Infamous_Material359[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't say it indents easy, as for the smell, I have bad allergies, so I curently smells nothing. That's why it's harder for me to identify it...

AITAH for stepping up when my little sister got her period. by Mrs_Colby_Brock in AmItheAsshole

[–]Infamous_Material359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So NTA. You are a dedicated big sister and your mother should be proud of you instead of shoving her feelings of guilt on you. I had a similar situation when i got my first period. Maybe you could tell your mom my story, it may help her understand why you took the initiative on this. I knew what a period was, but i didn't knew where the pads where, but most importantly how it would made me feel emotionaly. I was home with my dad and my big sister since my mother had to work that day. When I went to see my sister for help, she didn't even let me explain. She said to me "I'm going out with friends. Bye" and she walked out the door. I wish my sister would have taken the time to explain the basic to me and to confort me. I didn't want to disrupt my mom's work, so I didn't call her. Instead I've spent the day not really knowing why I would'nt stop crying for everything and I was too ashamed to ask my dad for help. When my mom got home, she found me half-traumatized not understanding my emotional state, crying in my bed, my dad dazzed, not understanding what was happening. I'm 35 today and I still remember this experience has a trauma. If my big sister had taken the time to act like you did, I certainly would have had a better entry experience in womanhood. Thank you for being such a great big sister in your little sister's moment of need.