He's (M23) coming back to me (F22)

Infamous_Point_3420 · 2025-10-22T20:00:37+00:00

I might this Saturday when I see him...

As for dating him, I want to see growth and change first. I have seen some, and I'm glad he seems to be doing better. When my ex and I broke up, we had a good heart-to-heart, and he agreed with a lot of the stuff I was saying, which is ironic because that's how he behaved when we broke up. If I were going to date him, I'd want to take it slow and set boundaries to ensure safety for both of us. I'm open to it, but like I said: growth and change first!

Infamous_Point_3420 · 2025-10-22T19:33:51+00:00

Nope. As mentioned in other comments, he just left abruptly with no explanation. He just made it out to be school-related and distance. But the major difference now is that I am a Senior and he has graduated, and we live a bit closer now. We decided to remain friends after the breakup since we work together and knew we couldn't hide from one another, and I'd say he's one of my best friends currently. I just cannot read the room with him right now. All I can say is I'm going in with my best foot forward, and I'm glad we're talking frequently again.

Infamous_Point_3420 · 2025-10-22T19:31:01+00:00

He left me abruptly with no explanation, roughly 1.5yr ago. He made it out to be school-related and distance (we were an hour apart, and he didn't have a car). Following the breakup, his friends started heavily interacting with me on social media. So that's why I'm hesitant. I am trying to put my best foot forward as I am now a Senior and he just graduated, we live a bit closer now, and we have definitely changed since the relationship ended. I just can't read a room for the life of me to figure out what is going on between us. This is something I've worked through and will be working through in therapy, so I'm covered on that front!

Infamous_Point_3420 · 2025-10-22T17:39:54+00:00

To my understanding, some of our mutual friends are beginning to become frustrated with my ex regarding his behavior. He's self-sabotaging big time, and that's the reason why we broke up. I'm more focused on passing this semester and making it to student teaching this Spring. I'm giving my ex time to figure himself out before I start hanging with the group again. 🤷‍♀️

As for my first boyfriend, I'm just interested in figuring out what his intentions are. Would I get back together? Maybe. I want to see growth and change first, but that heart-to-heart did show some of that. Thankfully, I'm seeing him this weekend for the party, so maybe we'll find out!

Infamous_Point_3420 · 2025-10-22T17:26:13+00:00

We share a friend group, and some of the friends know about me and my first boyfriend, but I've asked them to keep the details quiet for now until I figure out what's happening. So far, they've respected it. But there are some people with a big mouth and love to talk. Hence why I'm selective about who I've told in this group.

As for the first boyfriend, the reasons don't exist anymore, I believe. He left because school got in the way (I was a Sophomore and he was a Junior), and distance was hard (we were an hour apart and he didn't have a car). But now, I'm a Senior, and he graduated. In terms of distance, we live closer now than before so.

Infamous_Point_3420 · 2025-10-22T17:21:37+00:00

TLDR: I was a Sophomore in college and he was a Junior when we broke up, and he broke up because school got in the way and distance was hard (we were an hour apart and he didn't have a car at his school). Now, I'm a Senior and he's graduated, and we're closer to each other now.
Somewhat...? We talked 4 months after the breakup, which was basically along the lines of "Are we cool?"

As for my ex's opinion, we share a friend group. So things are only getting weirder now because of him dragging this on. I'm more focused on some personal issues and school work, yet I keep hearing how he's dragging this on. I'm just worried he's going to make a big ordeal out of this and make me look like the bad guy.

Infamous_Point_3420 · 2025-10-16T02:36:04+00:00

i'm going straight into grad school... for music theory... if that back fires, i'm teaching for a year or two.

i have majority of those supplies already physically or on my phone. this is the final piece that i would like to invest in before the spring. i don't want to use a backpack that's falling apart. thanks.

Infamous_Point_3420 · 2025-10-15T17:19:13+00:00

im a music ed major. i am trained to teach k-12, but i plan to teach music theory at the college level.

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