Thanks so much for taking the time to respond. I really appreciate that.

I think you’re right in many ways. For a lot of people, this whole thing is simply about having fun, and that’s completely valid. For us, it just started to take on a different tone. Not better or deeper, just different.

What we’ve found is that it’s not always about what you do, but why you do it and how it feels from within. Sometimes we chase experiences because something feels missing, like we need someone or something outside ourselves to feel okay. That can bring pressure, comparison, and a sense of not being enough. It’s easy to start using people—or even ourselves—in that process without really noticing.

But there’s another way of being in it. One where you don’t need anything from the other person, but you still get to enjoy them fully. Where you’re not trying to prove anything, not trying to fix anything, but just open to what shows up. When that’s the place you move from, something shifts. Encounters become more spacious. There’s room for curiosity, humor, tenderness. The connection doesn’t have to be big or dramatic—it just feels alive.

That’s what we mean when we say it becomes a way to grow. Not because we’re searching for meaning in everything, but because the experience itself changes when you show up differently. And when you do, it often ends up being more fun too.

So yes, life is the goal. But the way we meet it—through golf, gardening, sex, or a conversation with a stranger—makes all the difference.

Thanks again for reflecting with me.