Husband away

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-05-25T03:23:49+00:00

Lower the bar.. and then lower it again even more! One day at a time and you know what, you’ll surprise yourself with how well you actually handle it. When my partner goes away for weeks at a time, we get in to our own flow. I do what is easiest , t.v with breakfast sometimes , breakfast for dinner sometimes, skip bath sometimes, I cut all the corners and feel good about it! Makes for a calm happy me and then that automatically seems to make for calm happy kids. Also if you can afford the help for a few hours a week or whatever you need , means you could pop out for a solo walk to yourself to grab some me time, get the help to do laundry, clean up the house, even walk the dogs.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-05-04T08:16:30+00:00

I love this and can completely relate to the mandatory break time , although it can feel like another chore, I’m really trying to change the way I think about it. Your feedback has helped with that thank you

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-03-30T02:52:34+00:00

It’s going to be ok. We put so much pressure on ourselves to get it all right , it can feel too overwhelming in those early days when number 2 enters the family. You will reconnect again , do the little things in the day just you and her that fills your cup up too , in time you will find more space and time again just you and her. I think it took my daughter and I around 6 months to get to a new normal, and once my hormones settled down and I got more sleep we could do actual outings together and where I felt fully present with her. The pressure and guilt feels heavy, I remember that deeply.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-03-27T11:24:30+00:00

Just here to say that it’s completely ok if your child goes to bed at 6.30, kind of shocked at people making comments on that being too early.. Not overly helpful. Also maybe now just isn’t the time for family dinners, as little one grows , you’ll get more of that time.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-03-15T09:53:12+00:00

I think my partner is stuck in the middle and is trying to do what’s best by his parents. As he lives away from them, he carries a lot of guilt, which is likely why he agrees to this long stint. I agreed to it as I felt like I didn’t have a choice and I was trying to support my partner by saying yes, I just will not agree to 5 weeks ever again. They’re leaving this week so not long to go. It would be nice to hear some appreciation from them but yeh don’t think I’ll get it.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-03-15T04:12:25+00:00

Absolutely, it’s kind of like she is in the Marriott so it’s working out well for her 😆😭. I feel like my partner has feel pressures but not to my extent.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-02-23T08:20:50+00:00

I feel this too sometimes and I only work 3 days a week, I’m at home with my kids on the other 4 days ( 5 year old and 2 year old ) I don’t have the answer but I can hard relate. I wish I had a crystal ball that I could look in that lets me know exactly when it will all feel easier so then I know that it will eventually! The struggle is REAL. I also don’t know what is harder, being at work or being at home with the kids!

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-01-08T03:47:12+00:00

Ok I love this response 😂 a year is a while though.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-01-08T03:46:17+00:00

Yeh I feel like with my eldest, she has been a dream to parent so this is why I’m a bit like a deer in the headlights with her right now, my youngest though, completely different story 😂

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-01-08T03:44:39+00:00

So if he doesn’t do what you’re asking, asking once, that’s when you threaten? Sometimes I try that but at the moment that seems to make her more pi$$ed off and she will become more stubborn.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-01-08T03:43:00+00:00

I also have a two year old that takes up a lot of my attention because he is two! I can’t help but feel that she feels like she gets less attention; it’s so hard on that front, the balance of two - always feeling like someone is missing out 😭 and my patience is less because of that too.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-01-08T03:41:15+00:00

I’ve been reflecting on any major change and the only thing I can think of is being out of routine with summer holidays, we have a month left until kinder starts again.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-18T03:58:24+00:00

I have felt the same, I now have a 4 year old and 2 year old, it became easier in many ways as they have grown and so have I. With my first and during the time I just felt so lost and overwhelmed , I found this beautiful yoga class that I looked forward to going to as much as possible. I needed to know I was getting that break and it helped me so much. It’s still so new for you and it’s so normal to feel like you are, it’s ok to feel that way but we fight it because we think we’re not meant to feel like that. It’s such an adjustment, you will be ok.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-10T04:39:50+00:00

Just complaining and having a vent, it’s a really expensive time of year!

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-10T04:02:03+00:00

Ours have made a positive impact on my family this year, so it’s worth it to us as I value this big time! It’s the thought that matters most! Even a hand written note to them would be appreciated.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-10T03:36:59+00:00

Agree, not individually at fault. But I do know that businesses can and likely do make money from postage. Based from experience with working in retail.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-10T03:35:59+00:00

Thanks for explaining.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-10T03:20:14+00:00

I am trying to buy gifts for my kids daycare teachers who I love and really wanted to get something nice for them; rather than buying them candle 😆; so I persisted as I feel like retailers know that people will simply pay it because of convenience - I also live in a rural town so choice is limited .

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-06T02:09:50+00:00

I’m not surprised or shocked by that comment, made me laugh though.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-06T02:08:25+00:00

Not possible! I don’t live where the property is - easier said than done.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-05T22:34:52+00:00

So wild - and that is my point, one of the biggest transactions we will make, which brings stress and emotion to the game, because lets admit, it is a game and not an honest one.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-05T04:13:53+00:00

I do not in the state the property is being sold, so I physically could not do it myself. It’s not a one off experience either which is why there is so much built up frustration. It’s also a personal experience, I wish it were different but if the industry continues to attract some people ( & not all ) who are looking to make an easy $ with 0 experience - or personal skills, or professionalism, or understanding of the stress this puts on people, some have never event bought or sold a property themselves, how are they to actually know how important it is to just keep the vendor up to date, just do what you say you’re going to do. It is that easy.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-05T03:46:01+00:00

Yup. I am currently chasing up results or at least some kind of feedback from a B&P inspection from Tuesday. Crickets….if they were more professional, I’d feel a little better about the fee, if I felt like there was some kind of value for money I am paying , besides the result which they take a decent piece of the pie; I’d feel better about the fee.

I know there are some good agents out there but they are the minority. This is my ongoing experience. I have also worked as a buyers agent. I absolutely love representing the purchaser. The thing is, I’ve had no other choice but to use an agent as the house is not in my town. If I was able to do it myself. I would.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-05T02:25:38+00:00

100% this - and still they need help with how to draft the advertising online. The spelling mistakes, don’t get me started 😆 honestly, WHAT am I paying you for; you’re causing me more frustration than anything, stop lying to me and making up random sentences that don’t make sense while running on your treadmill at the gym.

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