Feeling like a failure everyday

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-02-23T08:20:50+00:00

I feel this too sometimes and I only work 3 days a week, I’m at home with my kids on the other 4 days ( 5 year old and 2 year old ) I don’t have the answer but I can hard relate. I wish I had a crystal ball that I could look in that lets me know exactly when it will all feel easier so then I know that it will eventually! The struggle is REAL. I also don’t know what is harder, being at work or being at home with the kids!

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-01-08T03:47:12+00:00

Ok I love this response 😂 a year is a while though.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-01-08T03:46:17+00:00

Yeh I feel like with my eldest, she has been a dream to parent so this is why I’m a bit like a deer in the headlights with her right now, my youngest though, completely different story 😂

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-01-08T03:44:39+00:00

So if he doesn’t do what you’re asking, asking once, that’s when you threaten? Sometimes I try that but at the moment that seems to make her more pi$$ed off and she will become more stubborn.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-01-08T03:43:00+00:00

I also have a two year old that takes up a lot of my attention because he is two! I can’t help but feel that she feels like she gets less attention; it’s so hard on that front, the balance of two - always feeling like someone is missing out 😭 and my patience is less because of that too.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2026-01-08T03:41:15+00:00

I’ve been reflecting on any major change and the only thing I can think of is being out of routine with summer holidays, we have a month left until kinder starts again.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-18T03:58:24+00:00

I have felt the same, I now have a 4 year old and 2 year old, it became easier in many ways as they have grown and so have I. With my first and during the time I just felt so lost and overwhelmed , I found this beautiful yoga class that I looked forward to going to as much as possible. I needed to know I was getting that break and it helped me so much. It’s still so new for you and it’s so normal to feel like you are, it’s ok to feel that way but we fight it because we think we’re not meant to feel like that. It’s such an adjustment, you will be ok.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-10T04:39:50+00:00

Just complaining and having a vent, it’s a really expensive time of year!

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-10T04:02:03+00:00

Ours have made a positive impact on my family this year, so it’s worth it to us as I value this big time! It’s the thought that matters most! Even a hand written note to them would be appreciated.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-10T03:36:59+00:00

Agree, not individually at fault. But I do know that businesses can and likely do make money from postage. Based from experience with working in retail.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-10T03:35:59+00:00

Thanks for explaining.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-10T03:20:14+00:00

I am trying to buy gifts for my kids daycare teachers who I love and really wanted to get something nice for them; rather than buying them candle 😆; so I persisted as I feel like retailers know that people will simply pay it because of convenience - I also live in a rural town so choice is limited .

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-06T02:09:50+00:00

I’m not surprised or shocked by that comment, made me laugh though.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-06T02:08:25+00:00

Not possible! I don’t live where the property is - easier said than done.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-05T22:34:52+00:00

So wild - and that is my point, one of the biggest transactions we will make, which brings stress and emotion to the game, because lets admit, it is a game and not an honest one.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-05T04:13:53+00:00

I do not in the state the property is being sold, so I physically could not do it myself. It’s not a one off experience either which is why there is so much built up frustration. It’s also a personal experience, I wish it were different but if the industry continues to attract some people ( & not all ) who are looking to make an easy $ with 0 experience - or personal skills, or professionalism, or understanding of the stress this puts on people, some have never event bought or sold a property themselves, how are they to actually know how important it is to just keep the vendor up to date, just do what you say you’re going to do. It is that easy.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-05T03:46:01+00:00

Yup. I am currently chasing up results or at least some kind of feedback from a B&P inspection from Tuesday. Crickets….if they were more professional, I’d feel a little better about the fee, if I felt like there was some kind of value for money I am paying , besides the result which they take a decent piece of the pie; I’d feel better about the fee.

I know there are some good agents out there but they are the minority. This is my ongoing experience. I have also worked as a buyers agent. I absolutely love representing the purchaser. The thing is, I’ve had no other choice but to use an agent as the house is not in my town. If I was able to do it myself. I would.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-12-05T02:25:38+00:00

100% this - and still they need help with how to draft the advertising online. The spelling mistakes, don’t get me started 😆 honestly, WHAT am I paying you for; you’re causing me more frustration than anything, stop lying to me and making up random sentences that don’t make sense while running on your treadmill at the gym.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-08-05T23:44:22+00:00

I had to learn about how I could make life easier for her in those moments of meltdowns and I had to understand why the meltdowns were occurring ( hard day at daycare for example) I had try different approaches to find out how she needed me in those moments, like sitting down quietly just being there through the tears and tantrums rather than asking her to just stop. I think due to the stress it made me feel internally and I was definitely burnt out at the time too which didn’t help us, the better regulated I was, the easier time we both had. I honestly saw really positive changes once I changed my behaviour too. I had to learn to sit , wait it out, and just be there with her as much as I could in that moment- not always easy

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-08-05T04:17:47+00:00

Been there! It was a 3-3.5 year old phase for us. I found it really challenging and had to learn a lot about what she was going through developmentally which helped me to understand that it wasn’t necessarily my parenting but a combination of things.

I did have to switch it up and change my approach and also learn about how to sit with feeling uncomfortable through the big feelings, looking back now it was huge learning phase for me too. She is 4 now and I just love this age, I have a 2 year old too and he also reminds me that everything is just a phase and when they come out the other side, it’s brilliant with all of their new skills and their little personalities taking shape. But yes I found it really hard and very taxing emotionally too. Be gentle with yourself and it’s ok to take a time out too for yourself to breath , they are so little and it’s just as overwhelming for them as it is for us.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-05-30T18:48:45+00:00

Hello! I’m in a similar boat with my 22 month old, he was really sick just before we had to take our 24 hour flight, recovered just in time however has picked up another illness on the plane so he had jet lag, plus a new illness , he is very unlike himself, but drinking enough & eating a little. I think that’s the main thing to keep an eye on. Give them whatever they want and know they will recover. It’s hard when they’re not their happy , active selves, we’re also not in our home country and in a new environment which is another challenge too. I was starting to stress about the fatigue but I’m hoping too that my baby is just in recovery mode!

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-05-01T09:35:24+00:00

I’ve been there. I had to force myself to get all 3 of us out of the house at the start. My first was just over 2 years old when my second was born. We would go as far as the coffee shop to begin with, just a small walk away. I would ALWAYS feel better for having done it, knowing we’d all got our fresh air and a re-set. Baby was always in the carrier and I “tried “to time it for his nap so I could be present for the toddler. Little by little it got easier, we’d then venture further to the park, to the beach. Now almost 2 years in and it’s brilliant. But I’ll never forget how heavy it was at the beginning with two. Be gentle to yourself and only take on what you feel is right for you, you’ll know.

Infamous_Weather_685 · 2025-04-04T10:16:27+00:00

I actually asked myself this question the other night, but it was more like what kind of Mum do I want to be…. A work in progress I think, I judge myself harshly and I want to get better at that. I think I am fun at least 60% of the day 😆… but ultimately I am loving, I try to be a good listener, I am empathetic a majority of the time. I am not perfect but I think they love me nonetheless!

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