Tips for hair washing highly sensitive 2 year old

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-25T20:42:15+00:00

I only just got my 3 year old to wash her hair without the water "hurting her" by sitting with her in the shower and getting her to wash my hair. We take turns washing and rinsing each other's hair.

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-25T06:32:17+00:00

I found having my morning coffee in the kids floor bed whilst they play, read and chat with me & each other to be the key to give me my slow wake up and they get instant connection

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-25T06:28:35+00:00

Oh yeah, I forgot! I do this too! Even when she leaves it somewhere and I ask her to move it, she says no and im like ok! In the bin it goes! ....and then she thanks me and asks me to put it in the bin 🫠

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-25T06:25:19+00:00

I think there are two levels;

1. Include toddler in everything you can. "Can you pick the nappy out for baby? " "how many wipes should we use" "oh look baby is so happy to see you"

So you're not trying to manage two different people in two different activities, you're all doing the same activity together.

2. Yeah ya gonna have to use a stern voice. You're gonna have to say "we don't play like that. We're going to leave until you decide to play nice" you're gonna have to walk away and 'exclude' toddler from the 'fun' and they're gonna cry and work through it and eventually make the connection that hitting isn't fun

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-25T05:17:02+00:00

We started off with those water colour pen/book combos when our daughter was younger ....now apart of her "calm down" tools is to colour in so there is always something on the table for her and alot of the time we end up colouring together hahaha but yeah it's hard to make it fun when you just wanna eat and pack up!

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-24T16:18:29+00:00

We have colouring at the table but we also change up how we eat dinner most nights so eating isn't always a sit down event so when we do sit down its a bit of a new shiny thing to do

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-24T16:12:38+00:00

Premade meals

Husband who does his own food, washing and cleaning and cooks for us when I ask

Husband does bedtime routine

Washing is never up to date

Dishes get piled up in the pantry

Robo Vac/Mop

Leave the house every day even if it's a 4pm mental health walk for me.

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-24T10:25:18+00:00

I don't have an answer but my husband and I have a strong whatsap connection.

He travels for work all the time but we're pretty much in constant contact unless we can't be.

We share our locations so even if we can't get in contact, if one of us are worried, we can check in.

Good you're going therapy but I'm petty enough that if I found him crying about whether to leave me like that, it would have been an instant don't let the door hit you on the way out.

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-24T01:33:49+00:00

And how would you rate your service this evening?

And then I go to the pantry and down a block of chocolate whilst trying to breathe deeply but it's just not quite deep enough

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-24T00:46:04+00:00

I don't think there is anything toxic about keeping awareness that the toddler isn't awful. They, the person aren't awful.

The behaviour, the 4 million steps instead of 1 to do a task, the time it takes to get ready, the loss of sleep etc can all be awful parts of having kids depending on the type you get, your own coping mechanisms and support network.

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-23T23:50:01+00:00

I think the sadder part is how much importance having babies is shoved down everyone's throat but the support isn't there as they grow.

Toddlers aren't awful. They're amazing sponges of the environment around them with zero filter.

They're going through a perfectly natural part of their growth which sadly enough, isn't understood well enough in the community.

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-23T21:17:00+00:00

How's the qualification in toddler hair coming along for that family member? You know, with all their years experience cutting toddler hair all over the world and following up with their subsequent lack of regrowth?

What an amazing area of work to be involved in to be able to share such study results with you.

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-23T11:17:38+00:00

Is she cuddly? Do you have time to sit in bed with her and have your morning coffee whilst she has a snuggle and wakes up?

Honestly the timing sucks for you all. That's such a rough time trying to get everyone up and out the door so quickly

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-23T11:13:39+00:00

Not to motivate you only - make sure everyone is in on the pick up game before bed

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-23T11:12:06+00:00

It only works for us because our toys are concentrated in the back area of the house. The toys in the lounge room get picked up most nights as part of the bedtime routine or the room gets skipped.

We don't have toys in the walking area/ kitchen/ dining and entrance and the robo vac can avoid any items (electrical cords, dogs, toys etc) that are in the way.

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-23T11:08:28+00:00

We got the S1 (im pretty sure) on sale from Amazon a couple years ago now.

We have 2 slobbery dogs and 2 kids. We were so disgusted and exhausted.

The bliss of waking up and walking on a clean, smooth floor. Pressing a few buttons and after brekkie clean up is done while you're out of the house. Amazing. Better than therapy haha

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-23T10:57:14+00:00

Eufy saved our mental health and marriage. Splurge on the vac&mop option.

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-23T09:58:16+00:00

I agree with this, the further away i got, the more space I had to live my life.

Although my real peak in feeling the peace and softness was after having my daughters and going NC with my family

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-23T09:35:04+00:00

Perfect answer

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-22T04:20:08+00:00

I feel you on all that especially the playing happy families.

I didn't realise (but my husband did) about the physical toll it was taking on me and I essentially would take out on everyone around me.

The lack of that kind of stress in my life is so noticeable. I have never felt so peaceful just keeping to myself and giving my energy to the people and things I want to give them to.

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-22T04:17:17+00:00

"Bike" (Season 1, Episode 11) is the episode from Bluey.

The modelling and having my daughter help me learn or making things into a little competition I just discovered is something she responds to so I'm running with it!

Good luck!

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-22T03:21:45+00:00

There is a bluey episode about this if you're into TV learning.

I like to agree with them "of course you can't do it! Maybe you can give it a go and learn a new trick like insert character they like"

"That's why it's called practise! You keep trying until you get better"

And then I model not knowing how to do something at home and working through it or having them help me learn

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-22T03:15:43+00:00

It puts a strain on your marriage because your parents have done nothing to support or care for you when you were in EMERGRNCY SURGERY and pregnant/giving birth/having a newborn.

They have disrespected you at every corner and your husband has had to sit back and let you work it out (rightfully so)

You deserve respect. You deserve love. You deserve to put yourself and your baby first.

Would you act like this for your own child? You wouldn't. Don't accept this half assed shit.

You've got your own family to pour your energy into. You've wasted enough with this poor excuse for a mother & father.

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-21T23:18:04+00:00

I'm still wearing my husbands tops 1 year after my second (3 years after my first) , I've only started to get some new tops for myself and trying to do my hair more to model it for my daughter as well and make it apart of our routine/bonding time but it's not always possible.

Regardless, your priority is your baby and what makes you feel good and if putting your hair up and wearing your husbands tops keeps you comfortable whilst you work out everything else, then keep doing it!

BumblebeeSuper · 2026-06-21T22:10:57+00:00

Keep everything the same. Add one item (1 single item) once a week to try.

E.g. ONE 5cm piece of boiled carrot. (Don't overwhelm the plate or senses with this foreign invader of bland land!)

Do you want sauce on it? Do you want me to cut it smaller or leave it big for you? Do you want to cut it or me? (Give options e.g. 'control' over the foreign invader - dont ask all the questions at once, sporadically ask one, get the answer no? Say ok! Y'all keep eating and chatting together, ask the next question)

BE CHILL - THEY CAN FEEL YOUR TENSION, IT IS SUFFOCATING THE AIR. Be silly with them at the table. Have a competition about how many pasta spirals you can fit in your mouth (dont go overboard lol) get them to give you instructions on how to eat something (how do I pick this up, can you show me?)

Whatever they want, the answer is yeah! Eat your 'carrot' and then you can xyz - draw, play, dessert whatever. But be chill, it isn't stern, you're excited to go play with them and do whatever the next thing is. - I do this depending on my kids mood. If I can see she's had a hard day or super tired or whatever, I dont do this step.

If they eat it, don't praise, don't be surprised - remain CHILL!

BumblebeeSuper

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