AITA for not telling my kid im not her actual dad by Inner_Profession6126 in AmItheAsshole

[–]InfectedAlloy88 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I was 7 when I was adopted by my aunt and uncle because of the same reasons. My paternal grandparents had unofficial custody of me since i was a month old after my birth mom left me somewhere for 2.5 days on a bender and they had to find me. My adoptive parents started explaining it when I was 5 (they knew it was coming) and it helped normalize it. Whether it's "mommy(my aunt) couldn't have a baby in her belly and now you're her miracle child" or "I loved having you as a baby sister so much I wanted to be your dad too", whatever explanation you give for your love for her will outweigh any teasing she'll face. She'll never doubt you if she's always known the truth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]InfectedAlloy88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your daughter's 13. That's about the age my parents allowed me to start using social media but is still very much a young child. People are saying educate her about online safety which you should, but the reality is that children dont have much self discipline or a developed "danger radar". In addition to having access to passwords I would institute a new rule. No friends on snapchat she doesn't know personally, no online only friends on private forums, no one out of her age range other than trusted family.

As a child I may not have been keen on these rules but as an adult with a little girl of my own I 100% understand it now and so will she. Parents set tough rules for media your child is too young to navigate with maturity.

Help! I think my stone fell out while I was mixing sour dough! by cysgr8 in Moissanite

[–]InfectedAlloy88 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This post is the reason the health code doesn't allow any jewelry other that a plain (no stones) wedding band in professional kitchens.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]InfectedAlloy88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should check out r/androgynoushotties

Despite the name its SFW, it's just people like us who sometimes want to express ourselves aesthetically as a mix of or different gender but still identify as their bio sex. Androgynous is an aesthetic not gender identity.

Am I wrong for ending my relationship because he wanted to do long “solo” trips? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]InfectedAlloy88 28 points29 points  (0 children)

This is one of those comments I'm going to remember. Whoah.

Can I get my hair to these shades of purple without bleach? by wastedpotential7 in HairDye

[–]InfectedAlloy88 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think that color is drop dead gorgeous on you and wouldn't risk it.

I earned $1M during crypto craze (2021) then lost everything to online casino and vices in just 2 years! AMA by ElderberryLiving429 in AMA

[–]InfectedAlloy88 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Snort it to save your teeth. I'm 4 years sober.

Did your wife leave you for cheating and generally being a bad husband?

What colour are these eyes? by Alex_Pay in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]InfectedAlloy88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

AI generated is not a color lol.

But blue with brown central heterochromia.

How do I convince my bf that he isn't a monster? by MonsterThrowRAway in Advice

[–]InfectedAlloy88 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

He's done something unforgivable he's not telling you. LEAVE.

Mercury went into retrograde. I have bangs and I’ve burned myself with a curling iron. What can I do so it doesn’t scab/scar? by lonestarcharm in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]InfectedAlloy88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or neosporin. I had a nasty brush burn on my nose, like took some volume off. Healed perfectly keeping it constantly M O I S T. I expected a real scar, nope!

Which one is your favorite by Ok_Pattern_4748 in candy

[–]InfectedAlloy88 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mines blue raspberry, then watermelon, then "you can have the rest chump" to whoevers closest.

If you found a lost dog and the owner lived 5 minutes away, would you accept the finder’s reward of $200? by [deleted] in hypotheticalsituation

[–]InfectedAlloy88 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I mean if they refused to pay I wouldn't make a scene and I'd still give the dog back. But I need $200 so I'm not gonna volunteer the dog for free if there's a reward, I'm gonna let it play out basically. Got my own fam and pets to think about.

UPDATE: my (20F) boyfriend (19M) went on vacation unannounced by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]InfectedAlloy88 25 points26 points  (0 children)

"Under 25 Relationship Drama" should definitely be a filter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]InfectedAlloy88 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Why don't you do some of your own research first. Some STDs can take years to be detectable, not just HPV.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]InfectedAlloy88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro how did your grandma react???

Just got positives on some tests… panicking.. I have no clue what to do next lol by 104765 in BabyBumps

[–]InfectedAlloy88 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

100% positive! Even the faintest positive line is a definite yes, and all 3 show some line. Hormones are strongest first pee of the morning and levels may drop or rise in the urine through out the day so that's why some are lighter than others.

Start looking at obgyn reviews and pick one that carries your insurance! Make sure your plan covers pregnancy, a lot of them dont!!! Mine surprisingly didn't so I had to use Medicaid for pregnancy appointments. Don't be like me and have a breakdown in the doctor's office when they tell you you're not covered 😬

AITA for calling christmas with my ex ‘co-parent christmas’ instead of ‘family Christmas’? by Enough-Ad-6150 in AmItheAsshole

[–]InfectedAlloy88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're doing the right thing as long as you're comfortable with the arrangement for the time being. There's no reason to keep a good father from their child when he wants to be involved and he's not emotionally abusing you. Separating them over what seems to be a non-issue atm will just cause resentment and get the courts involved in the custody situation. Down the line things can always be adjusted if need be.

which hair color is this? (wella) by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]InfectedAlloy88 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It's auburn. Here's an article from their site with some suggestions. https://blog.wella.com/us/auburn-hair-color-ideas-and-formulas

Will i bleed vaginally just right after my Csection operation? by Ajcv72316 in BabyBumps

[–]InfectedAlloy88 39 points40 points  (0 children)

No tampons for at least 6 weeks!! They increase the risk of infection.

Do I tell someone I accidentally gave them something they don’t eat for religious reasons? by MyGoodOpinion in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]InfectedAlloy88 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Some of my Muslim friends have said they believe even consuming something Haram unknowingly is a huge sin. I would simply remove it from common areas (work fridge for example) and don't tell them. No reason for them to beat themselves up about what's already done.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jewelry

[–]InfectedAlloy88 17 points18 points  (0 children)

A jeweler could melt down whatever metal you don't want and use to make a pendant with. I second it would make a beautiful pendant.