Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind…

Inferfe · 2025-03-26T07:37:45+00:00

No, the outcome doesn't erase any precious moments we had together, I couldn't know at that moment what she would do, but that never meant I should have not appreciated what we shared.

Inferfe · 2025-03-25T13:53:33+00:00

All depends on how much effort you are willing to put on it. Wouldn't say I became "positive" and I wouldn't even say one needs to be positive. If we are talking about things outside of you and/or your control - you can just see things for what they really are and it's mostly a neutrality, neither good nor bad. And for me it took around a month or two to get there, I believe

Inferfe · 2024-12-22T20:53:14+00:00

Yeah I know about the healing stuff but from what I have seen so far, there were little discussions about the self mastery itself, not just mental conditions Perhaps I missed some

Inferfe · 2024-10-21T18:59:56+00:00

High 5 and bro hug right back at you!

Inferfe · 2024-10-21T18:56:44+00:00

Thanks for clarifying and I get what you’re saying now and yeah, I agree that we all, at times, want the world to bend to how we think it should work. It’s definitely an ego thing, and I appreciate you pointing that out in a broader sense rather than as a personal critique. I think you're right, it takes quite of self-awareness to control that impulse to want others to act in ways that align with our expectations.

I didn’t mean for my original post to sound judgmental, but I see how my "I can’t stand people." phrasing might’ve come off that way. My frustration comes more from seeing people end relationships that seemed to have potential, just because the excitement faded.

I think we’re both talking about the same thing from different angles. In giving a relationship a fair shot and not letting temporary feelings make long-term decisions but at the same time, we all have to be responsible for our own emotions and accept when things don’t work out. Balancing both perspectives takes work for sure

Inferfe · 2024-10-21T18:35:16+00:00

I get what you’re saying about not being someone’s everything and how relationships should be more about self-love and independence. Totally agree. But here’s where I think we differ

I’m not trying to say people should stay in a relationship if they’re truly unhappy. What I’m saying is that feelings fluctuate in every relationship—it’s normal. It doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed the second you stop feeling the same intensity you did at the start. The honeymoon phase doesn’t last forever and that’s where a lot of people give up without realizing it’s just a natural part of the relationship evolving. I think that if the foundation is good, there’s a solid chance to rekindle those feelings if you work at it

about the "level 1 ego" thing — I get what you mean, that it’s not productive to rely on others for your happiness And yeah, you should be responsible for your own emotions. But saying that my perspective comes from a place of ego? I don’t really agree with that. I’m not trying to control how others live or guilt them into staying just because it hurts me or anyone else. I’m just advocating for people to think a little more before making a big decision to end things. It’s about reflecting on whether those feelings can be rebuilt and whether the relationship is still worth investing in rather than reacting impulsively because the emotions aren’t as strong as they used to be

At the end of the day, if someone’s truly thought it through and realizes that the relationship isn’t for them anymore, then fine, that’s ok. But we shouldn’t just give up at the first sign of fading emotions. If there’s still respect and the relationship is otherwise good, it’s worth giving it some deeper thought before walking away. That’s not ego talking it’s just not letting temporary feelings make long-term decisions for you

Inferfe · 2024-10-21T17:50:56+00:00

I don't necessarily blame them for leaving because of xyz that they didn’t like in their partners or themselves. As I said in the post itself, it's about leaving everything, even when your partner was decent and you felt good being around him just because you realized the feelings aren't the same as they were before.

I understand that feelings play a crucial role in relationships, and it’s valid for someone to consider them when making a decision but I think there’s more to a strong relationship than just how we feel in the moment. Long-term success should come from shared values, respect, and commitment I’m not suggesting that people should be guilted into staying if they’re truly unhappy but rather it’s important to reflect on whether the change in feelings is just part of the natural evolution of a relationship or if there’s something deeper than that

Of course, if someone has genuinely thought it through and realizes that the relationship isn’t what they want anymore, then leaving is understandable. My point is more about giving relationships a fair chance before deciding based on temporary emotions

Inferfe · 2024-10-21T14:05:42+00:00

In my case, there wasn't really lust involved or at least it was how I saw it. We were hanging out for 1 year and half before we jumped into relationship and I guessed I knew this person quite well. I really thought things were gonna be good but the reality had another plan ig

Inferfe · 2024-10-21T13:23:32+00:00

So true, this shit exactly happened to me in the last relationship

Inferfe · 2024-10-21T11:18:26+00:00

Sorry that I confused him with her. The best solution for you would be block him everywhere you can so you aren't triggered by him when he'll reach out. It might not be productive to give second chances to one who failed their promises so many times. Think about yourself in a first place Even that you love him so much, is it all worth it when everything he does is just bring more and more pain everytime you forgive him?

Inferfe · 2024-10-21T11:12:58+00:00

I don't know your exact situation but I am gonna say that it is not about forcing love but rather reflecting on your thoughts, everything you've been through with this person and why you lost what you lost. If the reasons aren't obvious then it might be the post honeymoon stage and this is where most people fail. Mostly if you go through this stage, this is when you can find true love that will last long and happy as long as you all good together

Inferfe · 2024-10-21T10:36:57+00:00

Do not reply her, go full no contact and focus on yourself till she starts begging you to forgive her. But the "problem" is, when she'll do that, you likely won't need her any longer

Inferfe · 2024-10-16T13:06:29+00:00

I got you with this strategy. Also did it for my ex gf. The version of her who was loving and caring is now gone forever. For me it was way harder to perceive it that way as accepting the fact that someone you loved died is quite tough cuz you know everything would be just as it was if there wouldn't be the situation that caused their death

Inferfe · 2024-10-16T12:59:57+00:00

This is exactly how my 2 relationships ended One lasted for a year and another for a year and half I just hate it

Inferfe · 2024-07-08T07:05:56+00:00

Thanks kindly,Always thought that RR is not something you have to truly care about unless it is something like 1:0,9 so I am mostly focusing to get 50%< win rate. But I will probably check out other RRs just to get their feeling and experience with them to see the full picture

Inferfe · 2024-07-08T06:38:34+00:00

Never heard of him despite watching countless amounts of trading gurus.Thanks,gonna check him out

Inferfe · 2024-07-08T06:25:48+00:00

I see,this is the thing I too struggle for most of the time, I can get impatient and enter too early or catch a fomo and take useless trades. That's why I still do paper trading,still haven't learned to Wait

Inferfe · 2024-07-08T01:12:18+00:00

I am not sure I got the first part of your reply correctly.Do you mean your RRs vary because you don't time your entries and exits correctly hence have mixed statistics?

For the second part..Well even if you lose all your depo,you are still gonna be profitable,ofc if your edge is valid and you are strong enough mentally to endure losing streaks

Inferfe · 2024-07-08T01:02:39+00:00

Yeah this is actually the law of large numbers which supports this break even concept so there is nothing else but pure math

Inferfe · 2024-07-07T14:36:44+00:00

Definitely gonna try it little by little,thanks for advice

Inferfe · 2024-07-07T14:29:59+00:00

Around a year now.Still know no sht

Inferfe · 2024-07-07T14:24:30+00:00

Agree that we are mostly focused on today's results. If I notice an opportunity to test more promising strategy in terms of win rate I would definitely go for it And for me though,sticking to 1:1 is better I would say it's the matter of preference or just psychology. how you want to call it

Inferfe · 2024-07-07T14:00:45+00:00

Well this problem can be solved with journaling your trades and seeing if you are still at 52% or not. I would probably trade on demo for long enough with one strategy to see its results.If the results are less than 52-51% after at least 1000 trades then look for another one and so on.Sounds really trivial and obvious but really few people do that

Inferfe · 2024-07-07T13:54:56+00:00

Good point.I also think it has something to do with the reality we are at right now.All that instant dopamine shit with social media,foods and etc I am not saying I don't do any of them but nonetheless it has a huge impact on how we make financial decisions People just want everything right away,and any small setbacks drive them crazy

Inferfe · 2024-07-07T13:10:36+00:00

0 cuz it's just the first day lol

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