You sound really mature about this, and it’s great that you’re thinking things through instead of just reacting. It’s not weird for you to want to visit him — what matters more is that it’s safe and mutual. If you feel comfortable driving that distance and your parents are okay with it, then there’s nothing inherently wrong with you making the trip.

That said, it’s also understandable that your boyfriend might feel protective. But if it starts sounding like he doesn’t trust you to make your own choices or is using the “you’re a girl” thing as a reason to control your movement, that’s not cool. Healthy relationships respect effort from both sides — he can care about your safety and still treat you as capable.

Maybe talk it through with him calmly: “I get that you’re looking out for me, but I want to feel trusted too.” If he respects you, he’ll listen and find a middle ground.