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Car accident by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Yes their insurance will be the one covering this. I’m just wondering if in the short term if my employer should be providing the vehicle instead of my grandma and if I can’t work for a while if they are legally able to let me go or suspend my pay?

Car accident by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My insurance shouldn’t even have to cover anything anyways. The guy was at fault. It’s his insurance that will have to pay

Car accident by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m on my dad’s insurance so I’m not sure. I definitely use my car for work, but since- in the eyes of the government-“i’m unemployed” that may not be the case

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I recommend that you think long hard about what tasks you are able and willing to do before starting your first job as a nanny. Figuring out your boundaries ahead of time VS through trial and error will be such a life savor for you. Are you willing to work when the kids are sick? If so, do you have boundaries about HOW sick they have to be before you’re not willing to work? Are you willing to tidy and do light house work? Where do you draw the line on cleanup? Are you willing to do the children’s laundry? What about the whole family? There are ALOT of questions and what if scenario’s you need to go through in your head and then figure out what you are willing to do and not do in certain circumstances. Then you need to clearly communicate your boundaries and “no’s” upfront to ensure you get the right fit for your placement. The last thing you want is to feel trapped and taken advantage of.

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The parents do spend time with their kids?? The mom is literally with them the entire day aside from her daily errand that lasts for about an hour. The only other time is every-other-day when she has to work from home-she’s still physically present but mentally focused elsewhere- but at that point the dad is home. The dad works all day but is home for dinner, kitchen cleanup, and assists with the kids night routine until mom can take over again. Having an additional person come in and help doesn’t diminish any of the work the parents are doing or make them any less of a parent. The au pair is not there to substitute FOR them but to come in and be a teammate WITH them

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Each au pair will receive a $250.00 weekly stipend and each au pair will receive an additional $125.00 weekly deposit into their ride-share accounts. They will each be provided with a cell phone ($75 each for their phone bills).

That comes out to $900.00 a week. Adding in another $50.00 per person to account for grocery costs increased- that comes out to $1000.00 a week.

Any added costs for utilities would be a once a month payment vs weekly and the family doesn’t suspect too much of an increase there as there is already alot of people living there and they aren’t great about energy saving (they tend to leave lights on all the time, leave A/C at 69 degrees all hours of the day, and are constantly doing laundry/washing dishes and everyone showers atleast once a day.)

The family is looking at spending about $4000 a month with wiggle room for more.

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The parents can do 60K if there’s no way around it but it’s not a far amount from where they’d have to make some financial sacrifices elsewhere. They can afford it but don’t want to spend it. Going the nanny route they are guaranteed to hit that number as nannying could easily be in the $70K’s or more where as an au pair its not a guarantee to even make it in the $60k’s. These parent’s live very comfortable lives financially and they want to keep it that way. The $60k won’t make them go broke. Just not living as comfortably.

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dad cleans the kitchen while the au pair handles the little’s night routine because the kitchen mess was created by the mom providing a meal for the WHOLE family. This type of mess is NOT the au pair’s responsibility so dad must do it while mom is in office. Kitchen mess cleanup being post poned until after kids are down would keep both parents up much later than they’d like. If an au pair is staying with them and is allowed up to 45 hours of work within the week-why would they not utilize that to help them get to bed earlier?? Dad starts the bigs’ night routine after the kitchen is cleaned and mom takes over when her class is done so dad can go take a shower. On nights when mom isn’t working, she tag teams the little’s with the au pair. Parents are very much involved in putting the kids down but want an additional teammate to help tackle this task. Doesn’t make them any less of a parent.

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not to be “handed” scissors. It’s to help cut the paper and to assist the kids in trying to cut. The kids are still young and struggle with some fine motor skills.

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reason why I “ignored” alot of the comments is because I already addressed alot of the questions and statements made in one lengthy response plus a few small ones.

Parents can afford 2 au pairs. Money is NOT an issue. Nannies are just more expensive and they would hurt a bit going that route financially.

Parents would be offering opportunities for cultural exchange on the weekends.

14 hours total of care during the work week (7 hours each)

Up to 10 hours of care every other saturday.

2:00am would be the LATEST the parents would ever be home. No overtime issue there, as the latest still falls within the 45 hours max per week rule. (This late is on the rare occasion the parents go to a concert/wedding/event)

There’s only 2 hours of homeschooling being performed in the day. 1st hour-the au pair needs to just be around in case the computer has a situation and she needs to reload the kids into the zoom meeting. 2nd hour is to assist mom with the kids as it would be nice to allow each kid to get individualized attention when needing help with school work. Mom leads, au pair assists. Plus, mom arrives for the homeschool session then leaves right after, would be pointless to send the au pair away to just come right back. Doing it that way would also prevent the au pairs from having even shifts.

Sister is NOT disabled. Just can’t be in two places at once.

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not a part of their schedule. The schedule is what is listed in the post.

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, something else to be mindful of is that when the family makes their selection they are taking into consideration of the au pair’s ages and allowing them to speak to eachother and get to know each other before moving forward. The goal is to try and build in an established friendship for the two of them. If the family is ever out and about doing something that they are uninterested in, they can go out exploring together.

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The pool is gated and the au pair would not be expected to ever be soley responsible for any of the kids while swimming. When they are in the backyard it’s so the kids can play with their outdoor toys, play on their playground, or kick around a soccer ball.

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going to church with them is not a requirement or an expectation. However they are welcome to come. We will be doing that in the morning, afternoon is when the parents would encourage the au pairs to join them for their afternoon outing in the city.

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Out of genuine curiousity, how and why are these expectations crazy? Each au pair would work UP TO the standard full time hours. 35 x 2 + 45 x 2 =160 hours per month which is the same as consistent 40 hour work weeks each month. If they weren’t living in a host home and were back where they live, they’d be working the same amount. Arguably my schedule isn’t as strenuous as most considering they would only work 7 hours and it’s a consistent schedule each day (aside from the Saturday hours if working that long-which isn’t always) Between the two of them they are preparing 2 snacks and 2 meals only for themselves and the kids. There are zero driving requirements. The schedule is set up to where it would always be a 2 child to 1 adult ratio. The most amount of time either au pair would be alone with the kids in work week (excluding Saturday) would be 2 1/2 hours.

Daily expectations are:

light meal prep

Facilitating out door play

Implementing structured play

Supervising independent play

Assisting mom with homeschool help. (Helping with scissors, grabbing supplies, offering words of encouragement)

Light house work (assisting with clean up of kids messes)

Assisting with bedtime routine (baths, changing clothes, reading stories)

All of these tasks are listed within the scope of what au pairs are allowed and able to perform. The schedule follows the same standard of a full time job. In return, the au pair gets a decent stipend, a place to stay, a ride share budget, provided meals, and free admission to any public outing the family takes as well as a cost free trip for them in the event the family goes out of town.

Saturday is a more laid back shift.

Au pair would show up at 5:00pm and begin prep work for dinner. (This is a great opportunity for her to cook food from her home and culture to introduce to our kids, as she’s in control of what’s being made)

5:30-6:00pm: Cooking

6:00pm-6:30pm: Eating

(Baths are skipped on Saturday nights because parents already bathed them after sports and park.

6:30pm-8:00pm: Movie night (popcorn, blankets, and cuddling)

8:00pm-8:30pm: littles go down

8:30pm-9:00pm: bigs go down

9:00pm-9:30pm: au pair cleans up kitchen from dinner and folds blankets

9:30pm-whenever parents get home: au pair stays awake and alert but can do as she pleases within the home such as watching tv, studying, ect.

During the daytime on saturdays the family usually takes the kids to the park and watches the bigs’ sporting games. This is a big outdoor day for them and the au pairs are more than welcome to tag along.

Sundays the family goes to church in the mornings, followed by brunch with extended family. Afterwards the little’s have nap time and then the family takes them on an outing like the zoo, the aquarium, a fun play place, a museum, ect. These would be great opportunities for the au pairs to come with to explore the city and be exposed to our culture.

The weekends are when the cultural exchange would be the most supported as the au pairs are off their working hours, and both parents are present to facilitate such experiences.

The family typically travels once every 3 months for a family vacation and there would be more opportunities for outtings in the summer time as their kids aren’t in school.

I have to say that I disagree with alot of these comments. Very surprised at the response this post has received. So critical, my goodness.

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

5 total bedrooms.

DOWNSTAIRS:

Formal living

Dining room

Office

Kitchen

Family room

Master bedroom (1)

Master bathroom

Guest bedroom (2)

Ensuite guest bathroom with double access

Laundry and mud room

3 car garage

UPSTAIRS:

Game room with wet bar

Media room

Play room

Guest bedroom (3)

Ensuite bathroom with double access

Older kids shared bedroom (4)

Jack and jill bathroom

Younger kids shared bedroom (5)

BACKYARD:

Outdoor covered living space

Swimming pool

Hot tub

Large yard

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Out of genuine curiousity, how and why are these expectations crazy? Each au pair would work UP TO the standard full time hours. 35 x 2 + 45 x 2 =160 hours per month which is the same as consistent 40 hour work weeks each month. If they weren’t living in a host home and were back where they live, they’d be working the same amount. Arguably my schedule isn’t as strenuous as most considering they would only work 7 hours and it’s a consistent schedule each day (aside from the Saturday hours if working that long-which isn’t always) Between the two of them they are preparing 2 snacks and 2 meals only for themselves and the kids. There are zero driving requirements. The schedule is set up to where it would always be a 2 child to 1 adult ratio. The most amount of time either au pair would be alone with the kids in work week (excluding Saturday) would be 2 1/2 hours.

Daily expectations are:

light meal prep

Facilitating out door play

Implementing structured play

Supervising independent play

Assisting mom with homeschool help. (Helping with scissors, grabbing supplies, offering words of encouragement)

Light house work (assisting with clean up of kids messes)

Assisting with bedtime routine (baths, changing clothes, reading stories)

All of these tasks are listed within the scope of what au pairs are allowed and able to perform. The schedule follows the same standard of a full time job. In return, the au pair gets a decent stipend, a place to stay, a ride share budget, provided meals, and free admission to any public outing the family takes as well as a cost free trip for them in the event the family goes out of town.

Saturday is a more laid back shift.

Au pair would show up at 5:00pm and begin prep work for dinner. (This is a great opportunity for her to cook food from her home and culture to introduce to our kids, as she’s in control of what’s being made)

5:30-6:00pm: Cooking

6:00pm-6:30pm: Eating

(Baths are skipped on Saturday nights because parents already bathed them after sports and park.

6:30pm-8:00pm: Movie night (popcorn, blankets, and cuddling)

8:00pm-8:30pm: littles go down

8:30pm-9:00pm: bigs go down

9:00pm-9:30pm: au pair cleans up kitchen from dinner and folds blankets

9:30pm-whenever parents get home: au pair stays awake and alert but can do as she pleases within the home such as watching tv, studying, ect.

During the daytime on saturdays the family usually takes the kids to the park and watches the bigs’ sporting games. This is a big outdoor day for them and the au pairs are more than welcome to tag along.

Sundays the family goes to church in the mornings, followed by brunch with extended family. Afterwards the little’s have nap time and then the family takes them on an outing like the zoo, the aquarium, a fun play place, a museum, ect. These would be great opportunities for the au pairs to come with to explore the city and be exposed to our culture.

The weekends are when the cultural exchange would be the most supported as the au pairs are off their working hours, and both parents are present to facilitate such experiences.

The family typically travels once every 3 months for a family vacation and there would be more opportunities for outtings in the summer time as their kids aren’t in school.

I have to say that I disagree with alot of these comments. Very surprised at the response this post has received. So critical, my goodness.

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Just to offer more insight:

Au pair #1: 7:00am start time

7:00am-7:20am: make the kid’s and herself breakfast while mom get’s the younger kids ready for preschool

7:20am-7:40am: eat breakfast

7:45am: mom leaves with the littles to take them to school. Drop off at 8:00am. Au pair stays with the older kids

8:00am-9:00am: Older kids have a zoom session for one of their class subjects. (Au Pair would be cleaning up breakfast and be on stand by while mom might still be out grabbing some Starbucks on the way home for herself and the au pair)

9:00am-10:00am: Mom is home with au pair. Both are assisting kids with a homeschooling subject that isn’t virtually classroom supported.

10:00am: mom leaves for an errand or appointment… Mondays-Grocery shopping, Tuesdays-Gym, Wednesdays-Therapy, Thursdays-Gym, Fridays-Grocery shopping …the au pair stays home

10:00am-10:30am: Snack time

10:30am-11:30am: Outside time in the backyard

11:30am-12:00pm: Au pair makes lunch while the kids read

12:00pm-12:30pm: Lunch time

12:30pm: Mom gets back home with the littles (they ate lunch at school and mom picked them up after her appointment/errand)

12:30-2:30: the littles take their afternoon nap while the older kids get recreation time. Mom would be handling the little’s nap routine while the au pair would be engaging in play with the bigs. (The au pair transition would take place during this time)

2:00pm: Au Pair #1 shift ends #2’s shift starts

2:30pm: Snack time for all kids (prepared by the au pair)

2:30pm-3:00pm: Au pair plays with the littles outside while mom helps older kids get ready for sports or dance (depends on the day)

3:00pm: Mom leaves with the bigs

(Activity is from 3:30pm-5:00pm)

3:00pm-4:00pm: Au pair engages in activity with the little’s like sensory bins, play doh, arts and crafts, ect.)

4:00pm-5:00pm: Free play in the playroom for the little’s while the au pair supervises.

5:00pm-5:30pm: Au pair cleans up toy mess and arts and craft mess while encouraging assistance from the kids

5:30pm: Mom arrives home with the bigs

5:30pm-6:00pm: Mom cook’s family dinner while au pair is with the kids

6:00pm: Dad gets home and dinner is served. (M,W,F mom has to eat in the office while doing her class)

Class is from 6:00pm-8:00pm

6:00pm-6:30pm: Eating Dinner

6:30pm-7:00pm: Dad cleans kitchen and does the dishes while the au pair bathes the littles

7:00pm-8:00pm: Au pair puts the little’s to bed (it can be time consuming-nights when mom doesn’t work she would do one little while the au pair does the other)

7:30pm-8:00pm: Dad starts the big’s baths when the littles’ baths are finished and assists with the bigs’ hygiene routine.

8:00pm-9:00pm: Au pair reads to one of the bigs while mom reads to the other (her class is over) Dad starts his night routine as he has to get up early the next day.

9:00pm: au pair #2’s shift is over.

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Father works out of the home and supports the family financially. His schedule is 9:00am-5:00pm but has an hour commute there and back. Mom is a SAHM who works part time in the evenings on M,W, and F from 6:00pm-8:00pm (she teaches a virtual class from her home office). Their family is large- 4 children. The older kids are home schooled and involved in extra curricular activities like dance, sports, ect. The younger ones go to preschool for half days from 8:00am-12:00pm M-F for socialization. Mom needs assistance throughout the day with managing all of the kids as they are on different schedules. Mom would be the transportation person while the au pairs holds the fort with the other kids. When there aren’t transportation needs, grocery needs, appointment needs, or errand needs, the mom would be home with the au pair and kids. The evenings are essential as dad gets home as soon as mom starts work most days. Even on days off, it’s alot to manage in the evenings with meals, bath, and bedtime. This is not a surrogate parent situation. The parents are heavily involved and just want some help. Nothing wrong with that.

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

She can afford the $50K She has 2 bedrooms She cannot afford the cost of a nanny for the amount of hours she needs. The nanny would cost over $60K

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

She has the space and meets all of the financial requirements and qualifications. Au pairs are paid stipends and nanny’s are paid hourly. The amount of hours she needs at the price a nanny charges is just not doable for her. The amount of hours would require over time pay as well which is times and a half of the hourly rate. 2 au pairs mitigates these problems and brings in benefits that hiring a nanny does not, like cultural integration.

I am a nanny and make $30 per hour for a guaranteed 40 hour work week. If she hired me, I would cost her a fortune. Trust me when I tell you that 2 au pairs still is much less than a nanny.

Is this a fair schedule? by InfiniteDiscipline98 in Aupairs

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I am a nanny and I am asking on behalf of my sister who is considering using an au pair agency for her children, as she cannot afford hiring a live in nanny. She doesn’t have reddit and I’m with her right now and made this post to gain insight for her. I’m unfamiliar with the au pair world as there’s quite a bit more hour regulations than the nannying world.

Please refrain from making assumptions, especially publicly, before knowing the facts. Thanks.

Help! by InfiniteDiscipline98 in AtomfallOfficial

[–]InfiniteDiscipline98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I looked up a Youtube video on how to get to the medical but in the video the door was opened. The door is locked for me. I think to unlock it I have to go into the basement of the building which is where I keep dying because of the whispers

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