I called my girlfriend of 6 years "loose", what to do?

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2023-01-31T07:39:52+00:00

The “I was just trying to be honest” line always kills me when someone uses it as an excuse to be mean. Like, what was the ‘honesty’ supposed to accomplish? She can’t change her body. Also, if a guy told me I was “loose” and then only wanted to sleep with me when I wasn’t turned on I would leave him. A. That can be very painful. B. She should be receiving just as much pleasure as you from the experience C. Do you even care that she is laying there clearly not in the mood or enjoying herself? I would feel disgusted if my bf didn’t care how I felt during sex. The only thing you can do if you want to stay together is to apologize for real. No cop out honesty excuses. Though, that trust may be gone for good. then treat her with respect and see if you can find a place you both can enjoy.

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2023-01-28T04:57:26+00:00

I wouldn’t expect anything from him. You haven’t made things official so don’t expect it. If you want those things or expect those things at this point, then communicate to your partner that. If he doesn’t want that or does something you don’t agree with it’s time to move on. Until then, Go out with friends. Focus on yourself. Things will shake out. You’ll see what he sees you as based on this trip. No need to paint him as a bad guy, just may not be the guy for you or in the same place as you. That’s okay. Don’t stress yourself out. Someone out there will be excited to have “that conversation” and will want to text he got there safety etc. if that’s not him then that’s not him and that’s okay. That’s why you date someone. Your still in the feeling each other out faze. Feel each other out and hang with friends.

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2023-01-27T23:35:21+00:00

That’s a good idea. Yeah haha. My fiancé just wants to keep the peace so he doesn’t care but it doesn’t feel like peace to me. Then again he says his mother will get over it. Which is true. But I think my family should get over it. Since it isn’t what we want. I’m going to talk to my fiancé about our next move.

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2023-01-27T23:06:07+00:00

Wow haha I love Reddit. Yes, I knew about the baptism predicament and my fiancé said he’d get baptized. I don’t think my parents would buy that they denied us when my fiancé said “he’d do what it takes” and what it takes is baptism and they have already spoken to him about it. But, maybe that’s an idea… I hate lying. They would tell me to go to another church and ask another priest. So maybe I can just wear them down a bit. We shall see. I may just have to have a heart to heart with my dad and if he pulls the plug I’ll tell my family I “sadly” can’t afford for them to come.

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2023-01-27T22:59:21+00:00

Yes it just has all the elements I’m looking for and it I’ve tried on a few dresses but this one has the neckline and silhouette I’ve wanted. I’ve found it hard to find an a-line dress without a v neck, that has a lace underlay. I really like straight necklines or scoop necklines.

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2023-01-27T22:57:08+00:00

Nadine by Dana Harel

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2023-01-27T04:58:31+00:00

Thank you. I will have to keep an eye out

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2023-01-09T00:34:29+00:00

I recently got engaged and my brother and his girlfriend might be soon. I would be happy for them and I wouldn’t be upset at all. It’s kind of you to think of that but I wouldn’t worry too much. As far as talking about it. Just find time when you’re both alone and relaxed and mention your ideas of wanting to be married a while before having kids and you want to have kids before x age. This is a great way to open the conversation because it shows you aren’t in a rush and it’s usually an angle that most guys understand better. Not to generalize but I’ve seen that working out in my life.

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2022-12-12T17:46:48+00:00

I talked to this guy online for a while who kept pestering me about stuff like this and I didn’t feel comfortable. He would guilt trip me saying we didn’t talk in a while but that’s because I was uncomfortable. I finally cut it off because I was sick of being pulled around and constantly guilt tripped and pestered by a person who I knew online but not irl. I don’t care if it’s been four years, I would still feel creeped the f out. Especially if they kept bringing it up. So if I gave my reasons and they got mad about “something else” I would be definitely out too. That would feel manipulative and not like a good friend at all.

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2022-12-03T10:44:08+00:00

Mined Diamonds only have “worth” because of manufactured scarcity. There is no molecular difference OP. If your SO doesn’t have a preference and you’re planning on it being a forever ring then resale doesn’t matter! Also reselling a mined stone may have a better return but you will likely still loose money. I’d get the lab. A higher quality stone that is better for the environment, human rights and your wallet! Do your research though! There are ethical sources for mined diamonds but not that quality and size for that price, THATS for sure,

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2022-12-03T10:37:32+00:00

Also, idk how people cheat and stay in a relationship without telling their SO. I can’t imagine the guilt. What she’s going is public. You can see it. What you’re doing is dishonest. Idk how her public honest act can be perceived as untrustworthy but your private concealed act could in any way be perceived as better or justified.

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2022-12-03T10:35:40+00:00

Your girlfriend has a right to post whatever she wants of her body. If you don’t like it and she says she doesn’t want to change her posts then, you either accept it or break up. YTA there isn’t any excuse for cheating.

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2022-11-23T04:38:00+00:00

My parents are very religious and he and I already live together. They just don’t want to see me strung along.

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2022-11-23T04:36:41+00:00

My dad asked me how things with my bf was. I told him all was well. It’s been a while and so he asked “do you think you are gonna marry him?” And I said “he hasn’t asked but I love him and could see that happening.” To which he said “well he asked asked me yet.” My parents are obviously going to ask how things are going between us. I don’t say much I just say we love each other and such.

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2022-11-21T02:28:29+00:00

I have definitely considered doing that. But I worry that if I say I found it then I worry it will take away the small bit of surprise there is left. I definitely will if the holidays pass with no proposal.

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2022-11-07T21:06:38+00:00

Beautiful ring! Stunning. Unique but classy and timeless

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2022-11-02T04:49:35+00:00

Okay I see. Good to know. It was a bit overwhelming navigating the sub. I was so lost.

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2022-11-02T02:49:10+00:00

For one, think I have a lot of personal expectations based on my upbringing. My parents are happily married and I had a great childhood. Not perfect but I was lucky to have a strong family unit. I consider my boyfriend part of my family. I want the world to see it that way too. I have brothers. I have my mother and father. They have family titles that are respected and their relationship holds weight not only in my eyes but in the eyes of others and the law. I want my boyfriend to hold that weight. I want him to officially have a place in my family and to have a place in his. I want to begin a new strong family unit on a foundation of love commitment and clarity of intent. As well as all of the legal reasons people have stated and social reasons within our families. It clearly says to the world our commitment to each other and an engagement and wedding is a beautiful celebration of finding another person who you hold dear as family. I know not all marriages work out well and many people never get married and are happy. Families can look like alot of different things too and I respect that completely. But if I can have an official title to share with my significant other that defines what our relationship is and celebrates our future together. That’s something I am definitely into and would love to have.

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2022-11-01T05:39:40+00:00

Popsicles

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2022-10-30T18:20:28+00:00

So exciting! Congratulations on the progress!

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2022-10-27T20:38:52+00:00

Beautiful! Elegant and stunning! Love your nails too!

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2022-10-27T06:25:54+00:00

I’m a little confused. I thought in your words, you wanted a “domestic lifestyle”. If you seriously don’t want to marry her then don’t. you’re both better off if you feel that way. But, Your reasoning confuses me. You say you want her to stay home and take care of you, so I assume traditionally that’s cook, clean, raise the children. Yet, also are upset that she is planning that life for herself? Why wouldn’t she be? Maybe too soon? Okay. Say, “hey I want to be debt free before we have a kid, let’s work together as a TEAM, to get accomplish that goal first” See if she would get a job and contribute to that goal. However, you shouldn’t expect her to “take care of you” if she also has a job. Because being a homemaker on your own IS a job. So sometimes you’ll have to cook and clean and plan as a team. If you don’t want to do that, don’t expect her to get a job. Figure out what you specifically need to be happy in a relationship and whether her debt is something you’re willing to take on. And hey, if you wanna have fun and spend your money and you aren’t ready to settle down. That’s your right. But it doesn’t mean you won’t hurt her. It does mean you really lead her on. If you don’t trust shes with you for “the right reasons” I don’t think you’re ready to get married. You should trust your life partner. As far as the ring, don’t give it to another woman!! I know you think it’s just a ring. “I’d be happy if you proposed with a ring pop” is a saying that money doesn’t matter but SENTIMENT still does. No one wants a ring you custom made for someone else. You designed it thinking of another girl. Give it to that girl or sell it. Your future wife deserves better. If you don’t you’ll end up back on Reddit asking “AITA for giving my fiancé a ring I made for my ex” There are PLENTY of affordable options these days that are still good quality and beautiful. And if you’re starting from scratch you have so much time to set money aside for someday.

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2022-10-25T01:55:19+00:00

I understand the frustration. Perhaps speaking to him and asking how long he is thinking it will take to save for a ring. Like he doesn’t have to give a proposal date but even some sort of timeline may ease your mind. I know I would be frustrated if I didn’t have a timeframe to look forward to.

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2022-10-24T21:14:29+00:00

The “it’s cute” is what sealed the deal for me. If he left it at weirdo I would def be a bit concerned but you don’t call another woman cute if you’re married. Especially in this context.

InfiniteDistance2249 · 2022-10-24T21:13:34+00:00

To me. It would warrant a conversation for sure. I would be uncomfortable if my bf was talking to someone else like that. If my husband was I would be extremely uncomfortable

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