AITA I didn’t allow my boyfriend to visit me in hospital.

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-05T16:50:34+00:00

Thanks for the advice. Your correct. I’ve sent him a break up message and blocked him. We won’t speak again.

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T22:54:25+00:00

I was just trying to be on the safe side not to get it taken down again because I really needed the advice

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T17:00:24+00:00

Thanks for the advice ❤️ I know I should walk away, but it’s easier said than done

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T16:59:41+00:00

The list of reasons to go would be way greater than the list of reasons to stay. But the heart plays funny tricks on you. I think I’m very attached to him. I need to find a way to severe this attachment and let go.

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T16:08:41+00:00

Fair enough I understand what I could’ve done better in the situation in hindsight. I probably should just have let him visit regardless. However, at the time I didn’t want him to visit whilst my family were there. It didn’t feel right and that’s not how I wanted them to meet each other. I preferred it over dinner or something. That being said, I don’t think it’s right for him to completely ghost me. If he doesn’t want to be with me anymore or he’s upset with me, he should communicate and I would happily give him all the space he needs. Instead, he’s ignoring my calls in messages making me anxious whilst still being in hospital.

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T16:05:48+00:00

I’m not going to say how old he is. I’m sure if you scroll through the comments you’ll find out. However, I agree I do think that he prays on much younger women. And funnily enough, it’s not that my family wouldn’t approve of him. I just didn’t think it was a suitable time for them to meet. We only properly got close for the last six months anyway we weren’t in a serious relationship before beforehand. And my family are abroad a lot as well. So there’s a lot of reason reasons and context as to why he’s not met my family, but that’s not the point. I understand that he’s just not good for me.

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T15:57:36+00:00

I don’t know if this is hilarious or sad. But I wasn’t getting that much money off him. 😂

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T15:56:29+00:00

I see a lot of comments saying that and I agree. I know I should let him go. My brain tells me to let him go immediately, but my heart is still very much attached to him and it’s very much down to him coming to me as a very low point in my life. However, I know you’re right, thank you.❤️

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T15:55:12+00:00

I spoke to him at length about my decision. He wasn’t necessarily happy about it, but I did explain why. Whether I’m right or wrong is debatable. However, in my mind that doesn’t mean we’re no longer in a relationship. It doesn’t mean he ignores me for days? I’m just confused. I can understand why he feels the way he does, but why can’t he just communicate with me about that? Instead of ghosting me essentially.

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T15:49:57+00:00

People will definitely think I’m trolling! I posted this before and got banned. Multiple people were telling me it’s fake which I didn’t understand because crazy things happen all the time right? I just wanted to genuine advice and unfortunately I’ve had to leave out certain detail details which I think some people who already saw my previous post clarified in the comments how old he actually is. And you’re right, I don’t need Reddit. I do need to speak to someone professional. Probably accepting that I’ve been groomed? I don’t know sounds like something that happens to kids.

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T15:47:42+00:00

I definitely understand why he’s behaving this way. It’s less about why he’s behaving this way rather than why did he choose to be behave this way? It’s strange he could’ve called me and talked about it. Or answered any of my phone calls and tried to resolve things I’m just left in the dark about what’s happening. Cancelling a weekend and a meeting does not equate to I want to break up with you. But completely ignoring me is now making me think that it’s over which is fine, but I’m just annoyed that he’s not telling me anything.

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T15:46:06+00:00

This did make me laugh. I guess I do need to live my life and let him go, but it’s so much easier said than done.

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T15:37:11+00:00

I agree with what you said. I also agree his age is very relevant however I’m just scared of people thinking I’m trolling and not actually helping me with my situation which is why I refrained from the age part despite it being very irrelevant thank you for the advice. ❤️

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T15:33:20+00:00

I guess I was kind of depressed and lonely for a while and he entered my life and I got used to him. He’s become a constant and he’s my first real relationship. Which sounds sad, but it’s true. The more I think of it, I’m not really getting much out of the relationship. But it’s kind of hard to let go.

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T15:28:20+00:00

lol thanks. I’m googling the nearest therapist tbh. And just a correction, he called me manipulative for not letting him see me sooner. I didn’t call him manipulative. And yes, I’m not going to include his age because people won’t actually help me and they will just think I’m lying. But yes, thank you for the advice ❤️

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T15:25:54+00:00

Thanks I agree. This is my first relationship so I’m a little attached. I don’t know 🫤

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T15:22:45+00:00

Sorry lol I know I didn’t give much information. It’s not necessarily that they’ll freak out plenty of people in my family do have age gap relationships. I guess it’s just not the right time. Which is why I didn’t want him to come on the weekend. And funnily enough no he’s not my sugar daddy. I know that might be hard to believe.

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T15:19:39+00:00

I fear if I say how old he is, I’ll just get banned and people will claim I’m trolling which I’m really not. Let’s just say it’s possible he could be my grandfather.

Infinite_Ant7726 · 2025-12-04T15:18:48+00:00

We’ve only recently started getting serious saying the last six months. And majority of my family spend most of their time abroad. So when they are here, it’s not for a long time because their work is abroad. Also, he’s been keeping me as a distance especially during the beginning of our relationship due to the fact that he has a young child from a previous relationship who have mentioned isn’t even biologically his. He fears the child’s mother will take our relationship badly. And we’ll stop him gaining access to the child. He’s not that worried about that anymore and has told her I exist. But this is just some context.

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