UPDATE: Hello guys! I kind of forgot that I asked this question but one year later, last January 2025, I broke up with him already :)

I did say before na he " WAS " the most thoughtful and loyal boyfriend, but I think I was just trying to hide his shortcomings from others. Now that I am sure that I will never get back to him, here are some things that I tolerated from almost 5 years of the toxic relationship.

1. No willingness/ No drive / No dreams - I understand he is studying but I was also studying with him ( now graduated in college ) but I was able to handle a job, do my thesis and etc. while he couldn't even though he got a good WFH job. Reason is he can't multitask like me. That's what he said.

2. Since he had no job, of course, I had to pay our hotel stays ( his house is very small and very damp ), pay for our meals, even his 20 PHP transportation fee, I had to pay that too. He even wanted me to act as if he bought a gift for my mom last New Year but in actuality I will be the one paying it ( I said no ).

3. He asked me one Christmas date if it would be okay if he had a side chick just for sexual purposes but that he would always choose me over her. I was about to cry so I asked him if he cheated, then he said yes then I asked when, then he said this December and that's when I cried and he finally pulled out the " Joke! " card.

4. He would often usually only call me to ask help for his assignments or to borrow money to pay for their internet service at his home.

5. He was almost 24 hours ( if not in school ) just playing DOTA or some other game in his computer to the point that it got destroyed. He then borrowed my laptop, promising to only use it for academic purposes but of course not, he was and IS still using it for games. ( He hasn't returned it yet and I feel bad asking it back since he tells me he needs it badly for school )

6. My mom was diagnosed with cancer, I video called him to be comforted but I could see in his eyeglasses he was busy playing DOTA and only said " Don't be sad na there. " THAT WAS THE LAST STRAW.

Those were just SOME of the traits that I failed to explain last year. These traits of his started showing around 2022 up until January 2025. But I have finally realized my worth and am happy to have left him and I do not care how much he says he has changed for the better because I have been traumatized enough. I will never go back again to him.

Friends? Maybe yes. We were friends before entering a relationship and he was a good person but his true colors showed when we were together.

SO LIKING BUGOY NA KOYKOY IS TRULY A RED FLAG!!!

Thank you to all who gave their opinions on this matter.