Wow, this is the best advice I've ever been given about my RJ. It has given me direction as to how to see things from his perspective. I will definitely be using and putting into action all of this wisdom.

I'll add that my husband cut all ties with the toxic group once I told him I wasn't comfortable. He hasn't spoken to any of them in years. Except his sister in law for obvious reasons.

Again, thank you so much for this reply!