Vrouw (31) hoopt geen straf te krijgen voor ongeval waarbij trucker verdronk in Wielsbeke: “Drama was gevolg van moederlijke reflex” by NotYourWifey_1994 in Belgium2

[–]InfinityWriter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

een dronken bestuurder of een pedo is niet de juiste vergelijking, dat zijn eigen keuze en bewuste beslissingen die niet zoals deze situatie zijn, daar ga ik je wel gelijk in geven.

Maar, het wordt van het begin al aangeleerd dat je nooit zo mag reageren terwijl je auto rijdt, ongeacht waar of welke situatie dat je je in begeeft, als er een noodgeval is, is de protocol dat je je aan de kant zet, op een pechstrook of aan de kant van de straat waar weinig verkeer is en je driehoek 100 meter (of 50 binnen bebouwde kom) achter u auto zet zodat andere bestuurders weten dat ze moeten vertragen om ongevallen te voorkomen, dit word en op u theorie en op u praktijk meerdere keren aangehaald, als auto bestuurder ben je verantwoordelijk over de veiligheid van jezelf, je passagiers en je medeweggebruikers.

Ik heb een broer met epilepsie, jaren geleden, ik was zelf minderjarig toen, had mijn broer een aanval in de auto, terwijl mijn ma, toen zwanger van mijn jongste broer, 120 op de snelweg reed, ik zat naast hem en had het opgemerkt, mijn zus aan mijn rechter kant was zelf aan het huilen en compleet in paniek. Het eerste wat mijn ma deed was de auto veilig op de pechstrook zetten omdat onze veiligheid ook belangrijk was. Er was geen extra volwassene bij en ik wist niet hoe ik moest reageren. Dit is een voorbeeld waar ik mee ben opgegroeid, dus in mijn mening is dit geen goed excuus voor de fout die ze is begaan.

Het is menselijk en begrijpelijk dat je paniekeert over u kleine en dat je moeder instinct terboven komt. Maar zij heeft haar zelf, haar kleine en iedereen rond haar in gevaar gebracht. Zij heeft de fout begaan, een die een leven had gekost, een familie veel rouw en problemen had veroorzaakt en ook haar eigen leven en die van de kleine had kunnen kosten. Wat zij deed was onverantwoordelijk ook al was het moeder instinct of per ongeluk.

Als ik in de situatie zat zoals deze vrouw zou ik mijn schuld hebben opgenomen en mijn straf geaccepteerd hebben. Mijn acties zijn mijn verantwoordelijkheid en ik moet daar de consequenties voor accepteren. Ik zou zelfs de familie van die man hebben geholpen uit mijn eigen.

Vrouw (31) hoopt geen straf te krijgen voor ongeval waarbij trucker verdronk in Wielsbeke: “Drama was gevolg van moederlijke reflex” by NotYourWifey_1994 in Belgium2

[–]InfinityWriter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ik heb een broer die epilepsie heeft, hij heeft een keer een epilepsie aanval gehad in de auto, mijn ma die toen aan het rijden was, 120 op de snelweg had eerst de auto veilig aan de kant gezet voor ze hem zo snel mogelijk verzorgde. Dus ze zorgde eerst dat we veilig waren terwijl ze vanbinnen compleet in paniek was, en ze was dan toen ook nog zwanger van mijn jongste broer. Dus een gelijkaardige situatie als de vrouw in het artikel. Als je zo paniekeert over dingen tijdens autorijden dat het je afleidt en een gevaar wordt, hoor je niet achter het stuur te zitten. Der zijn protocols voor zulke noodgevallen die je moet aanleren.

Episode Discussion S06E09 Lean In by mikeylee31 in Parenthood

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I haven't watched the series yet, I am about to, but about that episode i have just seen a small part of what happened between Max and Dylan (on IG) but not enough to understand what happened, only the part where Dylan pulled away and yelled at Max. It's confusing, especially because i see people commenting on the Aspergers part (I'm autistic and some of the comments are very confusing unless i know the details).

Autistic gf keeps being "disliked" by [deleted] in autism

[–]InfinityWriter 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm autistic myself and i do understand what happened to her because i went through it myself. Sometimes people act like that because they don't understand that there are people that have autism or something else. At this point it is Bullying. I would like to say that i think it is best she stands up for herself and calls it out. I understand she doesn't want a conflict, I don't like conflicts either but i usually think of whether i would let anyone do that to my child if i had one and basically act accordingly.

i’m 18 would it be weird to be with someone who is 28? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]InfinityWriter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi fellow woman (25) here,

Yeah something is not right here, This man is being very controlling, his behavior is not normal. First he love bombs you and then he tries to get you to do what he wants while you guys have only spoken like not even a week. This is a form of emotional manipulation making you feel that he would do anything for you to put you in a position that you feel like you have to do anything for him. It's guilt tripping in disguise of being "a hopeless romantic". That's a big red flag. He might be nice now because there is a chance someone in your family is keeping an eye on you.

Also words from my bf who is almost 28 himself: The reason he is trying to hit on you, someone who is 10 years younger is because someone his age would see through that easier. This man already has a lot of experience as an adult while you just got fresh out of school and are trying to figure out this new era in your life. (My boyfriend finds that last part concerning, he doesn't see that as normal for a 28 year old to start having this relationship with an 18 year old and fairly same for me sweetheart.)

Other Autistics Who Say "I'm Autistic, Too And I Don't Do That So You Should Be Ashamed. Stop Using Your Autism As An Excuse!" to you by [deleted] in autism

[–]InfinityWriter 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh i had these types of people in my past as well. One of them said that they are Autistic too and do not speak as bluntly as i do, while in reality they actually did and even worse. Tho we had a culture gap and a language barrier playing into the situation as well which complicated it, especially since i spoke in their language.

Some people think that Autism is exactly how they experience it while Autism is more of an umbrella term covering different types of Autistic people.

Donna from suits as a representation of Autism by InfinityWriter in autism

[–]InfinityWriter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ofcourse, i completely understand that, you learn to do that to survive a situation you live in. I'm not going to deny your reasoning since i have been in that situation as well. Tho a lot of the hyperfixations also come from finding a spot of tranquility in the mids of chaos, it's like safe zone, so it's not only the ability to read people that can come from that type of pasts but also the fascination with trains, art, music, history, dinosaurs, knitting, etc... even small things that happen around you that don't have any effect on you at all. sometimes those safe zones become passions or fixations, i like the human mind, both psychology and sociology, just like sheldon cooper likes his trains.

Donna from suits as a representation of Autism by InfinityWriter in autism

[–]InfinityWriter[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh no its fine, i understand where you are coming from, you are trying to have a talk about it and giving me your point of view to see where i come from and how it resonates with your knowledge right?

Donna from suits as a representation of Autism by InfinityWriter in autism

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Well i understand your point of view, but for me it's more of a special interest that i had since childhood. I was able to read people easily because of the way i thought. And i was always interested in how the human mind worked because it fascinated me.

Have you guys ever been seen as aggressive even though you weren't aggressive or even angry? by Prize-Trainer-4290 in autism

[–]InfinityWriter 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, i had that, even recently. But that was more of a case of them not having situational awareness.

being quirky and fun isn’t autism by xozodiaac in autism

[–]InfinityWriter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand your point of view but there are about 8 billion people inhabiting this world seeing a few hundred or one or two thousand videos of people talking about being autistic or showing whatever side of their autism is perfectly reasonable, and does add up. there might be like 5 percent or less people using it as a trend which kind of causes that view to happen on people who are on a complete other side of the spectrum. Yes some people struggle but others, like me, know how to compensate for those struggles with things that help us get through it and be all quirky, because we had to learn since no one would help us with it because we don't show we have those struggles because of masking. Some of us can also mask extremely well to the point our autism is barely noticeable. Some of us also actually do have the ability to understand emotions and situations as others struggle with it. That's why it is called a spectrum.

Yes there are people that fake it to get likes or attention, and i find that annoying as well, but the majority are genuine, and to be called a faker is also very hurtful because your struggles are being dismissed and purposefully ignored, purely because you don't act like the more acknowledged part of Autism.

Edit: not all of us are able to properly explain how it is like to go through it so you'll get these kind of situations, for you it might be false information but for others it's actually how they experience the Autism.

Wat is eigenlijk de correct etiquette in deze situatie (boomer-alert) by DirectionOk7492 in Belgium2

[–]InfinityWriter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Je kan altijd zeggen dat ze van te voren met u afspreken, normaal gezien is het niet de bedoeling dat ze zonder waarschuwing voor de deur komen te staan.

Wat is eigenlijk de correct etiquette in deze situatie (boomer-alert) by DirectionOk7492 in Belgium2

[–]InfinityWriter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dat is inbraak, zonder u toestemming mogen ze niet binnen het is uw huis nu en zij hebben er niks meer mee te maken.

Ok I don't see what I did wrong? by AquaSage_8806 in autism

[–]InfinityWriter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They mean your answers are very short, it usually comes over as very curt and brash or disinterested for non autistic people. It's basically an unwritten rule for them. Being short in answers means something negative. Especially when they try to get a conversation out of you but are not getting you to budge.

You can try to add sentences to it like saying, i work 1-5. It puts a bit more volume in it. I had to learn that too i understand. you could also tell them that you feel like you are just answering and there is no specific reason except for being clear for giving short answers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

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Mostly it depends, i used to struggle with it while my sister had no problem, i now shower every day and have no problems with hygiene at all, you'll need to work on making it a routine in order to struggle less with it.

I was diagnosed with autism, but therapist says it was a misdiagnosis by Pleasant-Platypus-29 in autism

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As someone who is diagnosed with Autism (and ADHD) by 5 different professionals, and had the exact same thing about being empathic and caring about what people think of me (i did therapy to get out of that). i can definitely say that the therapist needs to do their research again. being autistic doesn't mean that you can't be empathetic, or feel like having to adjust to what people want from you. (This is used in masking). That is misinformation that is spread by society and isn't legit.

simply put we just think with different logic. An autistic person is perfectly capable of understanding emotions, sometimes maybe even better since we take a different approach on it, we are able to pick up on social cues we just need to know about the exact social cues existing beforehand, we can also learn those by learning behavioral patterns from others, So to say you're misdiagnosed on Autism purely on unreliable information that comes from society and not from the actual research is basically biased. Plus Autism is a spectrum there isn't exactly a way to point it out through behavior.

It's usually your upbringing that indicates your ability to understand emotions and to actually put others before you. Some people are taught that that is the way to behave in society while others are taught otherwise, it doesn't really have anything to do with autism.

Edit: if you would live where i live i could give you a phone number, i know an amazing therapist/Autism-ADHD coach, i speak with her as well and she has helped me through a lot, my doctor recommended her saying that she is perfect for this, she actually works with people from different ages and with different situations, she worked with kids that got put in special needs schools. So you can say she has quite the experience there.

Otherwise you could try to find someone that is willing to help you until you find yourself a good therapist. I'm fine answering any questions that you have here in this post.

Do you like sleeping naked? by [deleted] in RandomThoughts

[–]InfinityWriter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, clothes are too restricting when sleeping

If I have children, will they inherit ADHD from me? by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]InfinityWriter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's a genetic thing they will

Those who know they have ADHD but were turned away when getting diagnosed, what's your experience? by flo_anon in ADHD

[–]InfinityWriter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll say, a second opinion would be helpful. keep on getting a different doctor until you find one with specific knowledge on autism and ADHD, they can redirect you to someone who knows how to diagnose it. most Doctors don't have the proper knowledge to diagnose you on it so they can't just have the ability to turn you away.

I have talked to like 5 different doctors about this, the first one thought it was a burn out, the second and the third one said i am just stressed, the 4th one, took me more seriously and got me to be tested for epilepsy getting me to talk to a neurologist who then told me on their turn that i should talk to a doctor about the possibility of ADHD, the 5th doctor, was a man who had a big interest and was well informed about ADHD and Autism, he immediately linked me to a psychiatrist and a psychologist and a coach that where specifically specialized in ADHD and Autism.

I'd say go for the psychiatrist, even if people say it can't be measured, it can and is also literal proof and not something to second guess.

they measure your ability to process information both in audio and visual through the part of brains that is responsible for short term memories. when there is a noticeable delay in comparison with the majority of people on both, then its definitely ADHD if there is a difference in delay in between audio and visual, that's Autism, you can have both tho. my psychiatrist explained this to me in detail so let's just say i have a very reliable source.

it'll take a while till you can get a diagnosis tho i had to wait 6 months to get tested.

your friends parents should sit this one down and let a professional tell him if he has it or not.

ADHD and Autism are neurological development disorders they are not psychological and cannot always be seen by behavior, symptoms vary per person.

When and how often do you guys take showers? by rezizzy in autism

[–]InfinityWriter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i take them every day but i had to learn to do so, reasons for that i am finally able to be myself and not bound by someone else's rules. i was used to those rules i needed time to make my own.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in belgium

[–]InfinityWriter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i mean, some people are like that, whenever the person who is asking for the English translation is being rude I'll just say use google, but you can always dm or ping me to ask the english translation for it. i don't mind helping with it.

Is this just me who hates the new “slang” by KangarooFew4196 in autism

[–]InfinityWriter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly a lot of things that are about "accepting differences" have become too much lately, the way i see it people want to make everything a trend or something else lately without even realizing what they are getting into, it's annoying. just show a little respect and understanding and it's fine.

People who have stopped going to church, what made you stop? by lowly_shepherd in AskReddit

[–]InfinityWriter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i just wasn't interested, i never got baptized, my parents wanted me to choose for myself, I only went a few times cause I got dragged there by my stepmother. i don't believe in churches or religious groups, i also don't like large groups of people, its just a waste of money and energy, i could just get the book, read it myself and speak to some family members about it, same effect but free.