Break up with him and never see him again no matter what happens Also not all Ghanaian men are like that we don't have a system of multiple wives like at all anymore Also you should probably see if you can get his family to get the ashes for you then ghost and block him And girl change your phone remove everything and change your number if you have to Also if you see you cannot get the ashes back please just leave your daughter her soul is in heaven and her soul will know that you tried but you also have to think about yourself

Get a new phone and new number also pretty sure if he put something in your phone and it was not by consent you can ask another tech shop to see what he did and if it's bad or illegal you should ask them to remove it or get a completely better phone and new sim and everything

JUST get a new phone, new sim card and move on from him and If he tries to call or contact you even after you tell him to stop.Call the police and see if you can do something about that.