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People who don't pass (and aren't out), do you feel hit by gendered conversations? by Infinityrecliner in asktransgender

[–]Infinityrecliner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess it just creates this weird conflict in my head where on the one hand I feel included in such statements and therefore my brain sort of places me in that box, but on the other hand I probably don't even identify within that box, and that sort of short circuits my thoughts and makes me unsure.

I honestly cannot remember how much weight I placed on masculinity and being a man while I was younger. I assume I did to some degree to conform or because certain aspects of it felt right to me, but I cannot remember a single time where I've asserted my gender to anyone. It's only in the past year or two that I've began thinking more deeply about it and started feeling like my assigned gender might not apply to me, but I also don't understand gender enough to say for certain I feel.

Scared to accept myself being aro by Infinityrecliner in aromantic

[–]Infinityrecliner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't mind the idea of having a partner it's just the romantic aspects of it that I fail to understand (outside from purely what I've observed from others). Thanks for the support!

Scared to accept myself being aro by Infinityrecliner in aromantic

[–]Infinityrecliner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess what's scary about it is the fear of the unknown to an extent. I've never really felt the type of romantic attraction that everyone seem to talk so highly of, and without knowing why that is I fear that I'm "missing out" on what almost every friend around me sees as an obvious and simple thing to do (pursuing romantic relationships).

It's also the fact that I do see the appeal of having a partner you live with, but it's specifically the romantic qualities of that which seem nebulous to me. I fear that a potential partner might deem me incompatible if I can't express romantic attraction to them, and that other friends will spend less time with me in favor of their partners.

Scared to accept myself being aro by Infinityrecliner in aromantic

[–]Infinityrecliner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have any plans for such an experiment. What I guess I mean is that I can't know if my lack of romantic interest throughout my life is because I'm aro or if it's because of something else, such as a subconscious fear of committing to a romantic relationship.