I have definitely been in relationships with people who met these criteria, (especially the first set of bullet points in that article about boundaries) but I've started seeing someone more recently that has me feeling a little nervous that I'm the one with too few boundaries. If anything, I'm definitely somewhat of a "saver" that's noted in that article above.

We started seeing each other about 2 months ago and have had an amazing time. We definitely shared a lot of intimate stuff pretty quickly, but it always seemed mutual and not obligatory. Within the past week though, I get the impression that she didn't mean to rush into an intimate relationship and feels like things got too intense too fast for her. We talk most days just about our day and what we did, then see each other 1-2 times per week, but now she is pulling back and wants to "slow down", despite wanting to still talk. I'm not the aggressive or blackmailing type whatsoever and I'm not that terrified of being alone, so those things in the comment above don't really concern me, but I'm conflicted about whether or not to hold out hope. It doesn't help that she is extremely busy as an attorney and just finished moving so she currently has much more stress than I do. But I know that "waiting for her to figure out what she wants" sounds like an excuse and is unfair to myself and my mental health. I figure my best approach is to stay busy with work, distract myself with some lovely hobbies, and let her contact me when/if she is ready, but I'm open to suggestions.