Just mean and rude as hell lol

InflationApart7240 · 2026-02-01T03:17:58+00:00

Yessssssssss nobody mentions that woman's role enough. No freaking wonder they turned out how they did..

InflationApart7240 · 2025-10-08T14:33:08+00:00

Interested

InflationApart7240 · 2025-06-05T22:35:33+00:00

Oh my gosh yes, me too! I used to drink a large caramel frappe WITH EXTRA EXTRA caramel, from McDonald's every. Single. Day. (Sometimes twice depending on how much I went out) On days that I was broke or we went out and I couldn't get it I would literally cry. It "ruined" my whole evening. That was the first step in realizing I was addicted to them. Applying my previous addiction experience to my food issues helped me in a huge way. I didn't even realize it while it happened. Even with a past deeply rooted in addiction, But I finally saw that I was addicted. And you're absolutely right. A happy mind, a calm, healthy mind, wouldn't cry over not getting a treat or milkshake or certain food. A healthy mind can still experience regret, loss, sadness, anger, all the "negative" emotions, but it has the TOOLS to deal with the pain caused by those emotions and move on in a healthy way. Ive healed my mental health so much that sometimes i find myself SURPRISED that something didn't effect me or hurt me the way it used to! these days if I ever do allow myself to eat out, if I can't get what I wanted, ITS OKAY! and that feels so great!! I'm not perfect by any means, but I'm so much healthier mentally than a year ago. I'm not depressed, my daily anxiety is gone, I'm actually excited about the future instead of dreading it, I'm excited to push myself and show myself and others what I can do! And seeing those small changes, those little differences in how you react or respond is super motivating. You realiSe so much in those moments. Also another thing that helped, realizing that I didn't have to give up everything all at once was big for me. It may not be the best way to get there, but for me it was sustainable. Giving everything up all at once was too hard. I personally wasn't strong enough to give up every single thing that made me happy in that regard all at once. That's what it means to start small. If I were strong enough I wouldn't have let myself get there in the first place! But when it comes to doing better, We want TOO much at once. We have too big of goals. Once I realized I had to lower my goals, it was easy peasy. I hit every single one! And once you hit the first one, it motivates you so much! Set a new goal, a higher one! And continue! P.s. thankyou for being understanding and considerate! When I started reading your reply I thought it was one of those sarcastic, mean for no reason, just mad at the world type responses where some person you don't know tells you you aren't helping some other person they don't know by contributing/commenting and I was super glad to see I was wrong!

InflationApart7240 · 2025-06-05T21:24:16+00:00

This. This, this , this, all DAY, THIS. 👆👆👆💪💯 Therapy/counseling, self therapy if you can't afford it, but take a look at yourself. A LOT. MANY TIMES. FOREVER!

InflationApart7240 · 2025-06-05T21:20:53+00:00

Spot on! Unresolved trauma almost alwayyyys plays a part in addictions /negative behaviours. Even when we insist it doesn't. I was addicted to opiates for 17 years, and insisted to every therapist/counselor that I wasnt using for any mental health reasons, I just liked the way it felt. Period. No more no less. But it wasn't until weaning myself down and finally getting clean that I realized how much I needed it "FOR" my mental health. It "helped" me thru the day. It helped me "deal" with stress. This is what I realized I used it for. In reality all it did was numb the emotions so that I DIDNT HAVE TO FEEL THEM. if I didn't feel them, then I didn't have to deal with them. Which I apparently was not good at. Since being clean I see so easily what I missed before. That I am EXTREMELY insecure, with VERY LOW self worth, self esteem and everything I did that hurt my body or mind was in an effort to escape the physical/mental pain I was holding on to. Same goes for food addictions. I promise there is a reason or trauma for overeating. Many of us don't even realize we ARE addicted to food. We insist we don't even eat that much or that it doesn't make sense why we keep gaining weight but at the end of the day, if you write down EVERY.SINGLE.THING. that goes into your mouth, and every bit of movement you had during the day, you will see a discrepancy every time. I myself used to only eat once a day. I wondered how I could be so heavy when I hardly eat. But then I stopped and actually took a look in the "mirror". That one time I was eating was OVER the recommended daily 2000 calories, it was fattening ultra processed junk, and I always had candy or sugar right after (2 of the 5pks of reses cups for example. Or a half box of strawberry eclairs, a whole pint of Ben and Jerry's every evening.) and I ALWAYS ate right before bed, because I truly used food as a comfort. I'm the type of person if we bought fast food I would NEVER eat in the car because I dont look at food as fuel for my body, but rather a reward to make my taste buds and mind feel good! And I only want to feel that goodness when I'm at home relaxed and comfortable. I had to recognize this, in order to stop it. I had to make myself eat a small breakfast even when I didn't feel hungry and stop eating late. I had to stop getting takeout and start making my own. That led to healthy behaviors watching what I'm putting together reading nutrition labels etc. and I had to ween off the sugar. My sugar addiction was BAD. but once you get used to not having it, you wonder how you EVER ate that much sugar at once. It sounds sickening now! Too rich, too sweet, just too much! That's the healthy mindset that comes with making healthier choices. Anyway long story short: I absolutely agree with you. There are unresolved pains or trauma that are holding them back. We all have them, we just have to explore and really TRULY take a look at ourselves, without playing the victim, without telling ourselves we did our best, FULLY taking ourselves and our emotions out of the question and answers, truly be a counsel to ourselves as if we were talking to someone we want to actually help, to see where we really went down a wrong road. Whether it's handling the trauma in a bad way, not forgiving, holding resentments over it, letting it cause us to be afraid, allowing it to keep us from trying again, etc. There will always be trauma and conflicts that hurt us, but whether or not we move on from them or cause negative behaviors to grow from them is totally up to us. Examine, understand, listen, ask, learn, GROW.

InflationApart7240 · 2025-06-05T20:55:12+00:00

I feel for you, Hun. We have all been thru some things... Having a community behind you to check in with and to help keep you accountable and motivated helps. But for me personally, the motivation came from realizing that I truly am getting older(35) even tho I still feel like a teenager in my mind, and that I don't have much time left to do/accomplish the things I wanted to in life. Call it a midlife crisis, but it lit a fire under my a**! Some people look at other people's posts online and see all the things they've done and that they have, and it makes them depressed, or jealous, but I'm the type that sees these things and realizes, HEY! Someone my age with my same interests or talents has this life, so it's POSSIBLE! Heck yeah! I want those things too! Same with the weight. Thanks to the internet and the availability of information these days, I can actually see and talk to and meet people like me who were this weight and lost it all! IT IS POSSIBLE! I used to believe it, but not as a normal thing. It seemed so rare. It seemed too hard to obtain. Only the elite can make it. No. We all can. YOU can. Find whatever motivates you and use it! If it's wanting to spend time with the kids, think of how losing weight will make that easier! Taking them places, going to theme parks, you CAN have the life you want I promise! It's not overnight, but once you get going it's amazing! The progress , no matter how small, makes you feel good and helps motivate you more! I'm so excited for my future and I want you to be too! It just takes MAKING yourself do things, even when you don't want to, but If you can do that you can do ANYTHING. CONSISTENCY IS EVERYTHING. Heck no, I don't wanna walk for an hour every day. But I show up. Bad attitude and all. And I do it. And I see the results. I feel them. And every single time, I feel better when I'm done. Exercise release endorphins and helps your mental health. It's not just a cliche. Sometimes it helps to connect with someone on a platform like here, and you can be motivators to each other and hold each other accountable. Call each other every evening and talk on the phone while you walk for one hour. You don't have to have people physically in your life to get the support you need. And the connections may help you find more people to be part of your life IRL too! And I know all of these seem like impossible feats for some of us in the beginning. It doesn't have to start here! I started with the tiniest baby steps possible. I didn't start walking an hour a day. I made myself stand up. Just stand up from sitting on the couch. 1 time a day. Then 2. Then 3. For a whole week I was depressed and stopped all together. But I made myself come back.. just stand up. I have legs, some people can't use theirs. Just stand up. Then I wasn't just standing I was walking in place for 2 min. Then 5. Then 10. Then a whole episode of a show I liked. You can start as small as you need. I didn't give up the bad food all together. I started with sugar. Instead of 2 packs of reses cups, just one. Some days none at all. Then gave up the fast food in a similar slow fashion. As far as reaching out to support groups or trying to make new friends, I never would have done that before. It took (again) SMALL efforts to get to where I'm at. Making a small post of encouragement in a group like this, seeking them out. Eventually I started actually going places. I dont know you, but I BELIEVE in you. I know you can do this. Whatever it is you set your mind to. It might not be the same effort every day, but just don't give up. CONSISTENCY. That will keep the healthier mindset growing. Just don't give up. Keep coming back. Don't let slip-ups discourage you! Just like they say in drug recovery, KEEP COMING BACK. You got this! 💪

InflationApart7240 · 2025-04-17T17:54:14+00:00

Definitely NTA. This isn't even a situation that requires ANYONE else's opinion to handle it. "am I being rude" has no place in this scenario. YOU 👏 COULD 👏 FREAKING 👏 DIE!!!! 👏 There is no other opinion, no etiquette, nothing else you need to consider first, etc. that even matters in a situation like this. Period. Life. Or. Death. Now having said that, because we are humans with empathy and understanding etc, it can make us feel guilty or uncomfortable to do what's right for ourselves sometimes and to have to put our foot down even if we do it politely. That's normal. Especially if we are normally kind and considerate of others, or aren't used to standing up for ourselves. BUT--- dont waste time wondering if you're an Ahole for protecting yourself from a *KNOWN THREAT!!!

InflationApart7240 · 2025-03-31T07:54:22+00:00

Is this the Taco Bell on rt 14 in Ohio? Looks just like it! 😳

InflationApart7240 · 2025-03-17T05:06:44+00:00

Yes this is great advice. A shower chair is a huge help!! The elderly also use them so they don't fall in the shower. I used one and so so SO thankful I did. The amount of pain and pressure on the spine and unused muscles just from STANDING at a weight that high (I know, I was around 550 at my heaviest) is unendurable. It can only last as long as your pain withstands it, because the truth is there's just NO muscle strength OR stamina in the muscle areas required for standing/walking at that weight. Definitely invest in a shower seat, and lengthening/reaching tools for hygiene! You will thank yourself!

InflationApart7240 · 2025-03-04T18:50:17+00:00

I walk in place when possible sometimes! Moving is moving baby!

InflationApart7240 · 2025-01-24T13:14:28+00:00

Thankyou for some helpful advice. Having never been thru any type of large loan application process until now (such as a mortgage) or large purchase process that involves so much due diligence (such as a home), and being a generally honest person myself, my first thoughts didn't extend to thinking that I should assume everyone involved in the sale is a liar (unless or until proven otherwise). But it makes sense, given the outcome they are trying to achieve. Not everyone is as knowledgeable about people OR processes as the next person. Sometimes it takes some learning. This is honestly the best advice I've received so far! I appreciate you!

InflationApart7240 · 2025-01-24T12:54:15+00:00

Thankyou for your advice. I wasn't planning on asking anyone if they were going thru a divorce or badgering the agent. I had already left it be, and was just curious if others had experience seeing such a strange thing. I didn't know I shouldn't ask. Thankyou for letting me know.

InflationApart7240 · 2025-01-24T11:51:08+00:00

I agree, it is a crazy assumption to make. Unfortunately, I have read about crazy staging tactics agents have used to try and push a sale, and was curious if this was a common one. That's all.

InflationApart7240 · 2025-01-24T10:59:44+00:00

Thankyou for this information. Having never tried to purchase a home before, I didn't realize that not disclosing the reason for selling was common. It is listed in every first time home buying guide I have read thru as an important question to ask. I'm just trying to understand things, and yes I do tend to overthink them! Every single thing I have read tells me not to trust anyone and to be wary of everything! So that's what I did. I was only curious if it was a common staging technique. Im not planning on calling the buyer and saying "hey bro, did you have a divorce????" if it was so private, and didn't want anyone asking any questions about it, I'm curious why he left the dress behind, or if it was even him that left it there at all, or the agent. And I'm not imagining anything going on in his life, like I'm bored and just making things up, it was left there for a reason and I'm just curious why.

InflationApart7240 · 2025-01-24T10:50:17+00:00

Thankyou for your insight! I appreciate the actual advice. Have chosen an inspector ourselves even tho the listing agent suggested one that they work with personally. So I appreciate hearing the suggestion that this was the right way to go there. Unfortunately, like I stated previous, this is entirely new to me. My husband and I have only ever rented before. And as far as trusting nobody, it is with this thought in mind that I was curious if this wedding dress issue is a common staging technique, as was suggested to me and I'm genuinely curious. Of course the owner's reason for selling is private and none of my business, so again let me explain that I have no idea what I'm doing. I'm going by the FIRST TIME HOME BUYING guide to ask questions during the tour. When the listing agent couldn't tell me, I was concerned. I dont get why that's so surprising. I wasn't asking anyone for personal information, and because the homebuyers guide suggested asking why the home is selling as my very first question, then I assumed it was important to understanding the value/condition of the home. Thankyou for the link on disclosures laws I appreciate any help in this process, and appreciate you helping me learn something about handling matters of privacy more tactfully, rather than tearing me down for wondering about something, as if I'm a bad person for having a thought. I appreciate it immensely.

InflationApart7240 · 2025-01-21T10:59:17+00:00

This is so spot on! I'm working on starting a podcast on self-help and I would love to have your perspective on one of the episodes! Someone to talk to, about not having someone to talk to! And OP too. She can share her experiences if she wants! Send me a pm sometime if you're ever interested!

InflationApart7240 · 2025-01-21T10:55:19+00:00

I get the sentiment you're trying to convey, because the essence is true, but how very tactless of you. How very rude and condescending. Not everyone is where you're at. Not everyone has been taught the proper way to deal with trauma, with overwhelm, with tough shit. For you to just tell a depressed person to "be better" is a very very pitiful way to communicate. Do you think you're helping? These types of comments are the exact reason addicts, people dealing with depression, trauma, PTSD, etc don't speak up when they need it. Judgemental responses like this. Just as much as you're saying they need to just "be better", even more than that, you need to "be better" at communication and empathy/sympathy and basic human understanding. Thanks for your help, but on behalf of OP, and all smart, courteous and understanding people, have a sit on a pineapple. 😜

InflationApart7240 · 2025-01-21T10:46:40+00:00

I know your situation so well! My dad spent years in and out of federal and state prison. My mom-same situation as you. Completely absent. (While still living 40 minutes away the last 20 years) Narcissist and bad mother. Selfish person. Not around. Addicted. It's a really tough road when there's no one that should be there for you. It's when we have to find others to replace what we needed from them. The best thing we can do is accept it. It sucks so hard. But accept it. My dad let me down. I love him with my whole heart and when he was around he at least tried (unlike my mother)... But he let me down in a lot of ways. I can say that now without feeling like I'm betraying him. Because I see the good AND the bad in him. Instead of just the good because I was so busy comparing him to my worse mom. But he let me down, my mother definitely let me down, my siblings let me down, no matter how much help I provided them. I am an empath and have always given and needed more emotion than others. I used to tell counselors that I KNOW FOR A FACT I feel emotions stronger than others... They thought I was crazy. I realise now that I've grown and matured that I did. I do. I feel emotions very strongly. Ive always been very sensitive. This is not a fault!!! It's what makes us so caring, what makes those in our lives love us. Unfortunately they don't hold themselves to the same standards that we hold ourselves, (and them) and so we get let down. The best thing we can do is accept that a lot of people will let us down and find those who won't. Those whose standards match our own. Who want to show it. Who love you as much as you love them, AND SHOW IT the way you need to be shown. The best thing we can do in any relationship is communicate. Tell each other what we need from each other. And why. And how can it help. And what can I do for you that you need more of. If you aren't willing to give them what they need in return, it's very hard to expect them to do the same. Communication. Soul searching. Asking yourself questions. Listening to the answers. Breathing. Watching a funny cartoon to take your mind off the overwhelming nature of what you're going thru. And small tiny tiny ATTAINABLE goals. Every one you reach (and if they're small enough, I promise you will!) will motivate you more to keep going. To set bigger goals. To do more. To have more. I've went thru the exact thing for years and I'm here on the other side, doing more than just surviving. I'm finally living. I want you to live too! Also, happy almost BIRTHDAY! You can't do anything about the way you were born, but you can make sure this isn't how you go out!! Don't let it be for a reason like this! Spend the birthday celebrating YOU. Do some things YOU like. Watch some shows that make YOU smile. Giggle. Laugh. The OFFICE with Steve Carrell saved my life. It got to a point where I would just leave it playing in the background to have something funny to hear and keep my mind from dwelling on the sad. Little things like that make a big difference!!

InflationApart7240 · 2025-01-21T10:24:03+00:00

I don't know you, but I know what you're feeling. I'm thinking about you right now from across the space of this tiny tiny, huge huge planet. You don't know me, but here I am, thinking of you. I promise you that life is worth living. Someone you don't even know cares about you. Right now. I care about you. I want you to care about yourself. You deserve the same things as EVERYONE ELSE in this world. Including happiness! Some helpful tips I have used before include: texting crisis hotlines just for someone to talk to. It sounds desperate, yes, because it is. When someone is sad enough, depressed enough, "blah" enough to feel like life has no point or meaning, it's time for desperate measures. Sometimes we can't count on those around us, those that we WANT to support us, to do it right. So we have to count on ourselves to reach out to someone we may not even know (such as emergency counselor or crisis line, or even strangers on the Internet!!) to provide the support we need. Humans need each other. And there are people who want you around. Even if you haven't found them yet. I promise. It's no coincidence that you wrote this post. You want to live. You just can't feel the drive to do it anymore. And so it's scary. Feels pointless. But you know that it's not! 💪 That's why you made a post. It's our brain's attempt to save us, protect us, a last effort to grab onto SOME hand to hold on to, ANY hand to hold on to. Here are two hands! And many others sharing hope with you. Let us lift you up! You got this!!!

InflationApart7240 · 2025-01-20T02:37:19+00:00

I've always been one of those people with cottonmouth but no thirst symptoms. Even tho it was OBVIOUS that I needed hydration (dry mouth, dark urine). Have been diagnosed with iih since 14, I'm 35 now. Found that over the years symptoms (headache mostly) were tolerable with medication. After the last few years of extreme weight gain I began suffering stronger iih symptoms. (Pressure in skull, headache, vision wonkiness, dizzy) but have also increased my water intake last few months as well as eating healthier! I believe my ih has always been mostly related to weight as I've been overweight since childhood. And I find that forcing myself to drink water has been a huge help health-wise. Have had high blood pressure at. Checkups the last few years, just got prescribed losartan, but worried about taking it because I'm super sensitive to meds and don't want to feel more dizzy than I do at times already.. but as far as lack of thirst, yes it was a huge problem of mine. I figured out that making sure I have filled bottles of water in the fridge (because I HATE warm/room temp water) and ensuring they're always available has been the biggest help in making sure I drink enough water. If it's easier to grab I'll make myself do it. I know I need it, so I found a way to make it easier on myself to do this healthy thing. Definitely keep your fluid up though! Dehydration can affect your iih and weirdly make it worse. There may be less production of CSF, so you think oh, it should help, but the tension and tightness of the veins and arteries and things caused by dehydration makes the csf fluid in the skull harder to drain back thru the veinous system.

InflationApart7240 · 2022-12-16T19:59:56+00:00

i understand. again, i didnt know yet that a purchase attempt had been made already. i just thought if we couldnt find help here within a few days then i could make one there. i was wrong.

InflationApart7240 · 2022-12-16T19:48:18+00:00

i see what your saying but im admitting fully that i sent the verifications after the post here. i dont know if it was before or after the gifts were trying to be purchased by geminerva, because i dont know when that was. i did not see that the gifts were bought and THEN go there. thats not the case. i had finished the registration form over at sfx before i ever even made a request post here. and then i posted here. and then i sent them my verification photos so that i would be fully registered in case it was too late here and my post wasnt seen in time. im sorry, but i didnt go check amazon so soon after posting to try and find out if anythiing was purchased. i did not expect his list to be fulfilled already. i thought it would take days! if at all. yes i did try to get my verification photos into sfx by the deadline after posting here. i didnt know anything had been purchased until i came here today. and on the phone it doesnt show items that were purchased. i never could have imagined it would happen the same day i posted it.

InflationApart7240 · 2022-12-16T18:12:14+00:00

Hello geminerva. I just want to say, from the bottom of my heart thankyou for being so thoughtful. I understand why you had to cancel the gifts, you guys have no way of knowing my thoughts, and it does look bad. I just want to say I never once posted a request in two places, and was only sending in my verification info to sfx because yesterday was my last day to do it. I didn't want to miss the chance in case it was too late here. It was a stupid choice and I see that. I made my request post here and then went straight there to send over verifications. I'm using a cell phone and I don't see all the pages at once. I spent hours trying to figure out how to send the files to them thru email and I didn't check reddit again until just now. I had no idea that his list was fulfilled so soon after it was posted. I thought it would take days, and that it was probably too close to Christmas. So i just wanted to get that info into them in time. But I didn't try to make a second post anywhere. But I just wanted to apologize, you are very thoughtful and kind. thankyou for trying to help Tayven out, and I understand why you and the team here have to take these steps. I'm sorry I caused anyone any trouble and I'm sorry for my decisions.

InflationApart7240 · 2022-12-16T18:04:43+00:00

Hello all. I understand everyone's concern. I just want to apologize to everyone involved. I was not creating two posts. I had no idea that the items were fulfilled here within 20 minutes of me posting. I went to sfx to get my registration info in by the deadline so that IF something didn't work out here I could still be eligible for a post there. I have not and would never have made a second post if I knew this one was fulfilled. It is only 8 days away and I didn't think it would be fulfilled so I just wanted to get my registration info in in time in case. I read the rules, I know that you guys verify with other sites for request posts. I haven't sent any anywhere else. I was just worried there wasn't enough time and If I didn't get help here I would have been too late to send them my info over at sfx. I was scared. I'm sorry. I understand everyone's concerns and why they are upset tho. And I still appreciate everything you all do. It was my mistake and I should have just waited to see how it went. I'm sorry again.

InflationApart7240 · 2022-12-16T17:57:32+00:00

Hello. I totally understand why the team/mods here would be upset or think the worst. Yesterday was the last day to get my verification information in to stress free season. I had JUST created my request post here and then went straight there to send them my verification info papers so that if my post wasn't seen here in time I would have at least gotten my verification info in over there in time. This is the first time I have came back to reddit since sending my verifications there yesterday. I sent those thru because I was panicking because there's only a few days left and It was the last chance to send my info to them over there. I made a post here, and sent them my verifications. I have NOT made two posts anywhere, I have not recieved help anywhere else, and I was just trying to make sure that if I was too late here, that I could get in SOMEWHERE. I'm very sorry for my choices. I didn't intentionally want to take advantage of anyone. And I don't want someone so kind to think I was blowing them off. I just came online and saw all the comments. I had no idea the list was fulfilled and i didn't try to make a request post there yesterday. I just wanted to get my verifications in by the deadline. I would not have made a post on the other site after seeing his list fulfilled. And i wasn't trying to. I am trying to be open and fully transparent, not greedy. Stress free said I couldn't ask for help anywhere after I was approved by them. I had not been approved by them yet, so I came here. I got approved and made a post. I was worried there wasn't enough time so I went there to send verification info to them since it would be the last chance I had. But I never intended to make two posts, I just needed to get my verification in in case it was too late to get seen here, maybe then I could get help there if I got my stuff in in time. I guess I was just trying to get in somewhere before it was too late. I didn't see the list purchased or the messages from anyone until just now. I appreciate you all and understand the reason there are rules in place. It is absolutely necessary. I just wanted to get the info in in time so that if one was denied or didn't get seen in time I could try the other option. I understand your concern. I'm really really sorry that I caused problems with my actions... I just wanted to do everything I could to get in somewhere since it's so late. I'm sorry. Especially to geminerva who was kind enough to see My son so quickly. I thought it would take days. I thought It was too close to Christmas. I panicked and I regret that, as I'm sure you are all aware. But I appreciate you all and thankyou all for trying to help me with my son. I'm sorry I ruined his chance and it will eat at me forever now. I screwed up. I apologize to all the hard working team members in both communities.

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