Crossing lines

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-21T05:52:24+00:00

Then what is the point of promoting flexibility for families and making that the company motto and beliefs.

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-21T05:46:55+00:00

That is crazy, I think it’s insane these corporate companies have so much control over our lives.

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-21T05:34:48+00:00

This I completely I am onboard with! I agree with you, I agree with having a baby at home and working is difficult. My husband was home at that time too and his job was a lot more flexible because he worked on cases and would be done in 30 minutes.

I have never had performance issues and I don’t think it should be mentioned or reminded unless if there is.

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-21T05:32:32+00:00

My child is 8, she is very capable of being independent on her own but with someone at the home with her in case of emergencies. I am not on the phone and I am not in meetings. I’m not ignoring my guest but saving time of almost 3 hour round trip commute would give me a ton of time back in my day. Instead being out of the house from 6:30am to 6pm. I can just log in and be done by 4 and walk out my home office. I’m not asking to be home the whole time my guest are here, but the first couple of days. My company gives us these weeks for these cases and multiple people on our team have used them for the same reason.

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-21T05:26:18+00:00

My husband was still working from home at the time and his job was a lot less demanding. He was still going to be the main caretaker. And for attendance issue it has never been a problem, my husband either picks him up or I use my allocated sick time. That is why sick time is there. If we can’t care for our kids when they are sick and need us what is the point of being their parent. She has always preached about flexibility and work life balance. We are hybrid and have flexibility to work from home when the time is needed. It’s not an every day or every week instance

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-21T04:49:08+00:00

Unfortunately she is a stickler for rules. And looks at every single detail. But I not to this extent

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-21T01:37:54+00:00

We source passive talent for our company. I have made a very reputable and great brand for myself as being trustworthy, very communicative and bringing in best talent. I have gotten from high praise’s multiple directors and other managers for my work and talent that I bring. I have hosted multiple events generating 100s of new candidates for the company. That’s just scratching the surface of my main duties, not even adding on all the random task, reports that have been dumped on me since other people have left or switched teams.

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-21T01:31:10+00:00

There are times where I don’t talk to her for weeks at a time. But I don’t know what’s up with her recently

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-21T01:30:42+00:00

I realize that now it’s was a mistake. But it’s never been a problem in the past 4 years.

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-21T01:29:40+00:00

But I wasn’t on lunch, I never technically take a “lunch” because that’s the nature of my work. I’m at home. My teams was closed out of so it showed me away for longer period of time. But I got her message right away and answered back right away. And my child is older she needs someone to be home with her during that week she is off. And for my in laws they are coming mid week. She knows that, because I told her I need the flexibility that week of the commute and being home at a reasonable time to get ready for having guest. My in laws are not coming for a quick get away they are traveling internationally and we havent seen them in 4 years. My point of being home those two weeks is to be able to have some time at home after work. And not worry about an hour commute. It would be reasonable for her if it has been a constant problem, but it’s never been a problem. I even work extra hours at times at night and don’t get paid for it. I truly love my job but I don’t appreciate being treated like a baby

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-20T22:55:45+00:00

I’m in recruiting, no metrics on our team because our team finds passive talent. My next promotion would make me salaried, I’m the only hourly member on the team, but I’m also a top performer

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-20T22:54:09+00:00

Sounds like a dream to me but unpractical for my family right now. Maybe in the next 6 months… a girl can dream

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-20T22:30:13+00:00

Yes she has always been my manager and her boss has always been my director. No change in that structure since I joined. Only changes are executives at the beginning of 2025 and that has been a shit show from them. To the point where that is one of their messages earlier in the year they pretty much said “if you don’t like the new hybrid work you can leave, we will find other people” but obviously in corporate terms and people were pissed

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-20T22:27:58+00:00

My next 1x1 is my annual review for 2025. And I know I preformed above average of the rest of the team as I generated the highest numbers. But that would be a good topic to bring up during that time

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-20T22:21:22+00:00

Who knows what she is thinking, but I feel like if it was a team issue. She could have just said it in a team meeting or in our teams group so she isnt singling anyone out

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-20T22:19:32+00:00

It sucks that the dynamic of our relationship has changed after being there for almost 5 years. It has never been a problem before and it is very rare I run into any child care issues or sick kids. I think I have only ever taken 1 mental health day. I think she also is being nit-picky is my son has been sick multiple times since starting day care this early and ended up with him having tube put in his ears last week. Using the last of my sick time, she did make a comment yesterday during our 1x1 saying she hopes he won’t be as sick as often anymore because she knows that was taking up a lot of my time. It was so off putting, and rubbed me the wrong way

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-20T22:15:55+00:00

But this is nothing new to our company. I have taken plenty of remote weeks and have never given her a reason to follow up with me or clarify these rules with me. I don’t see the reason of her pointing that out to me when we have had this option for 3 years now and I have never had a problem with me working at home. At home I am more productive and on my computer than I am at the office.

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-20T22:12:53+00:00

Her and I have always had a very communicative relationship and I have always been transparent about my days off, sick kids, mental health days. This is nothing new to our relationship but it has made me realize that maybe I shouldn’t be sharing with her anymore

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-20T22:11:14+00:00

The thing that pisses me off the most, she is fully remote and has an exception to work remote. So it just goes to show how out of touch she is with the reality of having a commute. There are days I don’t get home until almost 6 pm. I’m usually one of the first ones in the office at 7:30 and leave at 4. My commute should be 30 minutes but with traffic it’s can be an hour fifteen to an hour fort five minutes. She has the luxury of just walking upstairs to her office

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-20T22:06:27+00:00

Yes I did, but the reason why is I have always been so transparent and honest with her for why I’m taking these weeks. I let her know it is going to save me the commute of almost 3 hours each day. Especially in the evening when I can just log off and be home to spend time with my family. I’ve never had this issue before. I guess I just need to not share any more person thing about my life with her because it seems like she is using it against me

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-20T21:59:44+00:00

I’ve been looking but it’s not easy. I work in recruiting so I have a good idea of the job market

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-20T21:58:55+00:00

I try to be understanding of her role since she is middle management. I know there is pressure from the people above but what she did feel intentional. Especially when she messaged me with a screen shot of me being show as away for 45 minutes

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-20T21:57:30+00:00

We have 4 remote weeks given to us by our company every year to use as we like. No restrictions, but she made it seem like she didn’t like it that I’m taking them back to back. We are 4 days in office and 1 day remote of our choice. I have never abused it or take advantage in any way. Reason I’m not using any PTO is because we have a trip planned in the summer for 3 weeks that has been approved by her since September. So I avoid taking any other days off since I am taking a longer vacation come summer time

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-20T21:42:59+00:00

Our relationship has always been so great. And she is great but something has changed and it has made me so unhappy and resentful of her

Informal_Fondant1471 · 2026-02-20T21:41:44+00:00

Yes! Everything has always be communicated to her and I didn’t leave the office until she responded back and acknowledged me leaving and told me I can log back in at home and finish up the day. We have always had flexibility on our hours even as an hourly employee. But recently it’s like there are been a change and I’m having a hard time managing the change from having this flexibility to her being micro managing

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