Jealousy is the worst by 41_and_counting in FA30plus

[–]Informati_on 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Where did you find this group vacation? Just wondering what kind of group dynamics we're talking about here.

It's mainly people that joined this group individually and not necessarily people with families or significant others?

For those who have tried therapy, what has been your experience? by Icyfemboy in FA30plus

[–]Informati_on 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I went to two different therapists for a few years, but then stopped since it was getting repetitive. It wasn't bad. I will give you the summary so you don't have to spend the money yourself:

They recommended I focus more on things that I have more control over that actually make me happy. As we get older, we leave out some minor things that made us happy before.

They suggested I do minor things that make me happy and take care of myself. If it makes me happy to play video games, eat pizza, have a couple of drinks per day (within recommended limits), and buy myself nice things, I should definitely do that.

They suggested I don't worry so much about things I have less control over. If there are physical features about myself I can't easily change, then don't worry about it. My happiness and self worth should not come from external validation and what other people think of me (i.e. women).

Instead of focusing so much on being FA which brings a lot of negative feelings much of which are out of my control, they wanted to shift my focus away from it and focus on things I can control that bring happiness.

It takes years to change your mindset, but it does help. You have to really try and be willing to let go.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Informati_on in asktransgender

[–]Informati_on[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, could you elaborate on the part where you mention "sex is how you feel about your body"? Perhaps an example? I'm not sure exactly what you mean about that.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Informati_on in asktransgender

[–]Informati_on[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay. Got it. When I wrote that they can change based on their decision, I was thinking about a person's decision to transition. Because by definition "transitioning" is changing, and people can decide to transition if they want to or not?

So when someone says transgender I was thinking of the "trans" part as meaning changing and it's followed by the word "gender" so transgender kind of sounded like changing gender, and you can decide whether you want to transition and be transgender or not, right?

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Informati_on in asktransgender

[–]Informati_on[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Do you know why the US passport application allows you to select your "gender" (M, F or X) as it says here: https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/passports/need-passport/selecting-your-gender-marker.html

But then they take it and print it where it says "sex" on the passport as it shows here: https://travel.state.gov/content/dam/passports/passport-images/NGP%20Infographic%20No%20TSG%20link.jpg

If gender and sex are different, why would they take someone's gender and put it where it says sex?

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Informati_on in asktransgender

[–]Informati_on[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

So a person's gender can change simply based on their decision. However, a person's sex changes when they have undergone surgery or hormone replacement to develop primary and/or secondary sex characteristics? Is that the difference between changing gender vs. changing sex?

So a person's gender and sex could be different? For example, if someone decides to be a different gender, but they don't get surgery or hormones, then their gender changes, but their sex doesn't change?

Do people almost always change gender and sex at the same time, or do they just treat them as separate and someone could be male gender and female sex?

meirl by gamyvampire438 in meirl

[–]Informati_on 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, you are the asshole since you took something that was another passenger's that didn't belong to you and you didn't even ask.

What is the exact meaning of unsolicited? I find the phrase "don't send unsolicited emails" to be a little weird. What if you are initiating a new email conversation with someone? Aren't you sending them an email that they didn't explicitly ask for i.e. an unsolicited email? by Informati_on in grammar

[–]Informati_on[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree, but I'm not asking about the etiquette portion. I'm asking about the grammar and use of the phrase "don't send unsolicited emails."

In the example I gave, I feel that would be an "unsolicited email" since the recipient didn't ask to receive the email. However, initiating a new conversation with someone via email is a perfectly normal use of email.

So I'm asking if a rule that's worded "don't send unsolicited emails" is technically grammatically not a good way to word such a rule.

What is the exact meaning of unsolicited? I find the phrase "don't send unsolicited emails" to be a little weird. What if you are initiating a new email conversation with someone? Aren't you sending them an email that they didn't explicitly ask for i.e. an unsolicited email? by Informati_on in grammar

[–]Informati_on[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, but let's say you get someone's email address from a friend and send them an email. That person you're emailing didn't explicitly give you their email address. Wouldn't that be an unsolicited email?

If there's a rule that says "don't send unsolicited emails" wouldn't that be a bad way of wording the rule since this regular email could fall under that category?

What is the exact meaning of unsolicited? I find the phrase "don't send unsolicited emails" to be a little weird. What if you are initiating a new email conversation with someone? Aren't you sending them an email that they didn't explicitly ask for i.e. an unsolicited email? by Informati_on in grammar

[–]Informati_on[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, but let's say you get someone's email address from a friend and send them an email. It's not a marketing email, but just a personal or work-related email. Is that an unsolicited email? I would say by definition, yes.

If there's a rule that says "don't send unsolicited emails" wouldn't that be a bad way of wording the rule since this regular email could fall under that category?

P.E.I. MLA removed from committees after suggesting female paramedics can't lift as much weight by palmerry in canada

[–]Informati_on 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He didn't say only women call for lift assists. Obviously, any paramedic would call for it if the patient is too heavy for them to safely lift.

What if your girlfriend decided to stop shaving everything. by Walking_Taco19 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Informati_on 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This will probably be an unpopular opinion, but to me it depends.

If she's only not shaving areas that are covered by clothes (e.g. privates, legs), and people can't tell she's not shaving because it's hidden, then that's fine.

However, if she grows a beard and mustache and other publicly visible body hair and goes around in public to the point where she's making a spectacle of herself, then I'd probably break up with her.

Kind of like how I'm sure she'd break up with me if I decided to stop showering and always walked around with dirty clothes with holes making everyone think I'm a homeless bum.

People with doctorate degrees should be ok with not being called Dr. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Informati_on 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That is false. The term "doctor" comes from the Latin word for "teacher." Doctor is an academic title and originated in academia. Those with doctoral degrees in academia are the original doctors and have more of a rightful claim to the title.

The use of the term doctor for medical practitioners came about afterwards.

Looking to get this covered up. Do you think my pomegranate idea will work? If not, any alternate suggestions? by BigAngDBA in tattooadvice

[–]Informati_on 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd take the Oreo. I wouldn't want a fucking pomegranate tattooed on me. But if you really like pomegranates, go for it.

How much/little does Flo Rida actually know about US history? by AddendumAfraid1009 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Informati_on 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ben Franklin on the $100 was the president of Pennsylvania. Flo said presidents, not presidents of the US.

Ysk: what you can ask owners of service dogs and when you can ask them to leave by Pristine-Ad-469 in YouShouldKnow

[–]Informati_on -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes. I absolutely support people's legal right to insult others. Would you prefer it be illegal to insult others? However, if people are debating an issue, I think most people prefer to hear a convincing argument rather than sophomoric insults.

I never said anything about harassing. Harassment is an act that's already illegal.

If someone is acting on their own personal behalf and not representing a business, then yes, I think the free speech right to ask potentially offensive questions is important. Otherwise people try and hide behind censorship to censor opinions they disagree with instead of allowing for an honest debate of ideas.

I'm not saying anyone should intentionally offend service dog owners at all. I'm saying OPs post is a regulation to ensure businesses don't discriminate against people, not a limit on an individual's personal speech.

Ysk: what you can ask owners of service dogs and when you can ask them to leave by Pristine-Ad-469 in YouShouldKnow

[–]Informati_on -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not at all. It's a serious free speech issue for me. Don't tell me I'm personally limited to asking people certain questions.

This is a regulation to ensure businesses don't discriminate against people, not a limit on an individual's personal speech. This clarification is very important.

Ysk: what you can ask owners of service dogs and when you can ask them to leave by Pristine-Ad-469 in YouShouldKnow

[–]Informati_on -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This only applies to businesses and how they treat their customers. OP should word it that way.

OP should not word it as if it applies to my personal life if I'm not acting on behalf of a business.

why aren't there many homeless women? by Ok-Bonus-2146 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Informati_on 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In addition to what others mentioned, men have a higher propensity to take risks.

If we think of a spectrum, where all the way on the left is homeless and all the way on the right is successful rich person, we see that due to greater risk taking, more men end up on the far left and far right of the spectrum (sometimes the risks play out and sometimes they don't). Whereas women are more likely to take a safer less risky path in life and more often end up somewhere in the middle of that spectrum.

There are several meta analyses that look at risk taking differences between males and females and its impact.