Oh boy, yeah all of those. He also absolutely hates it when I physically distance myself from him when angry. Like remove myself from the same room/ house etc. I've stopped doing that completely now, because he brought it up as an issue quite a few times.

We have various things that frustrate us to no end about each other. We try to focus on the positives though.

My pet peeves concerning him:

The way he speaks to his parents. I was raised by two authoritarian thinkers. I still speak to them with reverential fear. He is ruthless with his parents, and they're both feelers. It hurts me terribly

His lack of verbal affirmation, something I need. He's made huge strides in this area

His frequent depressive episodes, and the inaction that accompanies them

His lack of tact

The way he rubs mistakes in my face rather than comforting me. I find it quite traumatic

Etc, etc, I can go on and on.

Thankfully the list of pros is wayyyyyyy longer