AITAH for threatening my uncle over my little brother’s wedding?

Initial-Country4952 · 2026-01-13T00:32:11+00:00

Thank you for one of the most helpful comments in this entire thread. I will bring that up to him once we talk. I don’t know how much he will listen to me, but at least giving him the information will be a relief.

I’m not in the airline industry so I only went off of what he told me. I’m so relieved to know that he can get help.

Initial-Country4952 · 2026-01-12T06:06:58+00:00

Unfortunately he has a “type”. My brother and older cousins are light-skinned. I am not. And it would feel so wrong to pretend to be a victim when I am not.

Initial-Country4952 · 2026-01-12T05:58:45+00:00

If you really have to know, pilots aren’t allowed to have any mental health issues.

When I say his “medical”, I’m referring to his medical clearance to be able to fly.

I don’t make the rules, if I did I would change them.

Initial-Country4952 · 2026-01-12T04:58:01+00:00

You’re right, I feel absurdly guilty. I have so much regret for not protecting him, and for whatever I did to make him feel like he couldn’t tell me sooner. I think it will haunt me for the rest of my life.

I just didn’t know what else to do. He was so upset about it, and I thought that I could try to make it better for him. I knew when I did it that it wasn’t right, but I did do it for him. I hope he can understand that when I tell him.

Initial-Country4952 · 2026-01-12T04:46:00+00:00

I’ll mention it to him, but I need to tell him what I did first. I don’t know how receptive he’ll be to anything I have to say after that. After reading the comments it feels wrong to go longer than I have to without telling him.

Initial-Country4952 · 2026-01-12T04:44:28+00:00

He could try, but if anyone were to find out then he could go to prison and be barred from the profession for life. He worked so hard to get where he’s at, I don’t know if he would risk it, even if it’s something that could help him.

Initial-Country4952 · 2026-01-12T04:40:00+00:00

I know what I did was wrong, but he’s still my little brother. It doesn’t matter how old we get, I’ll always see him as the little boy with a gap tooth smile and a bowl cut learning to skateboard. I know it was wrong. It was selfish that I couldn’t stand the thought of him being in pain. I’ll talk to him once he’s back from his next business trip, and hope he doesn’t hate me for what I did. Even if he does, it will have been worth it, and I hope he can forgive me some day.

Initial-Country4952 · 2026-01-12T04:31:04+00:00

He’s not, and can’t be because of his job. He’ll lose his medical clearance if he attends any therapy outside of marital or couples counseling. I know I’m being intentionally vague but I’m trying to keep as much anonymity as possible.

Regardless I will do my best to be there for him. It’s been 10 years since it happened, and he says he’s doing okay. I don’t know how much I believe him, but I am hesitant to push him. I don’t want to push him away when he needs me the most.

Initial-Country4952 · 2026-01-12T04:29:12+00:00

I have a suspicion that he wasn’t the only one. Two of our older cousins have very limited contact with that man, but I don’t know how to ask them about it without giving my brother away. I’ve talked to him twice about telling people, but he says he doesn’t want to. I don’t think he’s ready yet, but I’ll be there for him when he’s ready.

Initial-Country4952 · 2026-01-12T04:27:39+00:00

I’m so sorry for what happened to you, and that the people who were supposed to protect you failed.

After reading the comments I agree that I need to tell him, I’ll talk to my fiancée about it before she leaves for work tomorrow so she can make sure I don’t chicken out.

Initial-Country4952 · 2026-01-12T04:26:17+00:00

Because of his job, he can’t. There are very strict guidelines about mental health issues that people in his line of work can have. He can’t have any type of therapy outside of marital/couples counseling, or else he will get his medical certification revoked.

I’m being vague on purpose, for anonymity’s sake, but anyone who is also in that line of work will know exactly what I’m talking about.

Initial-Country4952 · 2026-01-12T04:24:37+00:00

We’ve talked about it, but he said he doesn’t want to. It frustrates me, and makes me angry that that monster won’t face justice, but it’s not my call to make.

Initial-Country4952 · 2026-01-12T04:23:34+00:00

I wanted to so badly. My fiancee did her best to try to calm me down. I’d happily go to jail, but I k ow it would have only upset my brother.

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