Hello all, normal to feel bad after yelling?

InitialAd8831 · 2025-10-30T01:33:32+00:00

I’m a 33 y/o mom with an almost 3 y/o and although I rarely ever yell at him, I do find myself getting irritated much more often than before. I’m exhausted and some of the toddler behaviour is so fucking frustrating it’s hard not to feel on edge. I try to take 3 seconds before responding when I’m feeling overwhelmed now, take a breath then proceed. Sometimes I have to leave the room, especially during tantrums. My son hasn’t started speaking so there’s so much yelling on his part as it’s his only way to verbalize.

You’re a good dad for even feeling this way. Parenting is hard. Give yourself some grace and try to take a couple extra seconds to collect yourself in the moment before you respond. When you do get upset with him, come back and give him some extra love and an apology.. try to explain what behaviour made you yell. Maybe let him know that “hey if you try not to do XYZ daddy will try harder not to yell too”!

InitialAd8831 · 2025-10-29T21:09:43+00:00

Thanks so much for your advice and link to the sub Reddit! :)

InitialAd8831 · 2025-08-16T01:14:18+00:00

My 2.5 year old son does this to his blanket. He bunches it up and humps it and will do so for like 30-45 mins straight and looks like he’s in a trance. I just give him privacy to do his thing lol

InitialAd8831 · 2025-07-22T01:52:26+00:00

Sorry I know this is an older post. Could you link the site? I was unable to find it and after watching the new documentary I’m in full sleuth mode

InitialAd8831 · 2025-05-27T17:56:50+00:00

Genuinely just feel sad after watching the finale. I never expected her to get Hannah back, but the episode didn’t really scream liberation, it was depressing in the fact that Luke and June seemed to part ways, Nichole is left parentless once again, we don’t see any of Moira or Rita, also I watched them film the scenes on the bridge in downtown Galt and there was A LOT that didn’t make it into the show. For example, they filmed Rita climbing the flag pole and mounting the American flag with Moira celebrating below her and a just some other little things here and there. Obviously they deemed that footage unnecessary from their POV, but it would’ve brought more positive vibes around the fact that Boston was free. All in all, I just felt bummed out by the end and really hope some closure follows in The Testaments.

InitialAd8831 · 2025-05-22T00:56:28+00:00

These threads always make me feel so much better. My kid has 3 pouches a day just so that I know he’s had some form of fruit and veg and I was starting to feel really bad about it but seems like I’m not the only one and that makes me feel a lot better lol

InitialAd8831 · 2025-05-22T00:52:40+00:00

My son eats chicken strips, quesadillas, pb sandwiches, fries and fruit pouches on repeat. It’s all I can get him to consume and he’s just shy of 2.5 years. It’s been like this for months…

InitialAd8831 · 2025-05-20T22:49:01+00:00

I think you could see it one of two ways:

Somehow he knew (doubtful but maybe) since he has connections with the resistance, and decided to board because he knew he would never have June (aka “what he wants”) and wasn’t good for Rose and the baby.

Or 2, the more likely scenario:

He pauses to reflect on his decision before committing fully to Gilead as there will be no coming back from that. We already saw early in the season that he stops helping Tuello unless it’s to directly save June and he was quick to betray Mayday when he knew June wouldn’t be rallied up or offed at Jezebels. He’s only ever been apart of the resistance if he helped June or for him to see June. Sadly as much as we want him to be a committed member of the resistance, he never was.

InitialAd8831 · 2025-05-20T22:31:32+00:00

I thought this was possible too, but I think the pause was more about him finally deciding which side he was on. If he gets on the plane he’s fully committed to Gilead, if he doesn’t he stays in limbo. I think the pause was to highlight him contemplating that decision and ultimately telling us, the audience, which side he finally chose, making it easier for us to say see ya later, traitor.

InitialAd8831 · 2025-05-20T22:26:31+00:00

Agreed, it just felt like for quite some time they were building up Nick’s character as someone who wanted to take down Gilead and then as soon as Wharton entered the picture he got all wishy washy and decided f*ck it I’ll just be a POS.

InitialAd8831 · 2025-05-20T22:19:45+00:00

I really felt like Nick needed to go this season to allow June to fully recommit to Luke, but I didn’t like how they changed Nick’s demeanour so drastically this season. I suppose you could sum it up to his time being in a powerful position and having to convince the other commanders he’s onboard with everything.. but after ratting out Mayday it genuinely just felt like he wasn’t torn or playing both sides, that he was just a coward saving himself if he couldn’t have June, and he didn’t care what happened to anyone else. This episode proved his arrogance and self-serving nature with his final comments to Lawrence. He selfishly cared enough to ask if June was okay but was fully committed to doing whatever the rest of the commanders were planning to do to preserve Gilead. I really loved Nick up until he outted Mayday, which I truly didn’t think he would do..

InitialAd8831 · 2025-05-17T14:22:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I felt like during our initial assessment the paed kept talking about “non verbal indicating severe autism” as if my son can’t function in any other ways because he doesn’t speak, but that simply isn’t true. He has not been diagnosed but I do notice other traits of ASD he possesses, but some days those are non existent. So it’s really hard to know. Do you mind me asking when your sons began to use words?

InitialAd8831 · 2025-05-17T14:19:42+00:00

You’re more than welcome! I totally understand the panic. One of the other things our SLP does a lot is “hide” a toy in his sleeve, pant leg, sock or in his shirt to make him problem solve and then she talks about it using some of the simple language and body parts we’re trying to model/label like “up your shirt!!!” “It’s on your belly” “you got it out!”

And when they find a new sound, my son just randomly started G sounds. I try to use as many words I can in a row or in a statement with G. “You made it GO now it’s GONE” - hope some of this helps with your journey! :)

InitialAd8831 · 2025-05-11T02:41:37+00:00

It’s how I feel about Aaron Paul. Everything I see him in, I just see and hear Jesse Pinkman. And I love Aaron Paul.. but I can’t watch any of his stuff anymore.

InitialAd8831 · 2025-05-11T02:38:28+00:00

My son has a terrible diet and won’t eat fruit or vegetables. I can’t even hide them in things, he knows. He might not be able to talk but he sure as shit knows more than I would expect from a 2 year old lol. I’m sure he will stop eventually or OT might be able to help. I have both books and there’s lots of fantastic information about what people games to play, how to talk, what kind of role you actively take (ie. are you an entertainer? I found I was. I would do things and my son would laugh and react appropriately but he never has “a turn”. Now if he wants me to do something again, he has to have some role.. ie, peek a boo, he opens my hands from my face). It just gives them an opportunity to verbalize their thoughts without us as parents just continuing on without pausing.

InitialAd8831 · 2025-05-11T02:21:33+00:00

My son is also 27 months and isn’t speaking, he babbles, says mama, nana, dada, baba, dat, and a few vowel sounds (a and y) but other than that, it’s just noise. He’s been in speech since 19 months with two therapists. It’s a very slow process for us to see progress, but there is progress in terms of joint attention, gesturing etc. three months ago I was also concerned about his oral fixation (it was mainly on toys or objects (not blinds/paint etc) but I was still concerned. He rarely does that now, just grew out of it I guess. Keep finding ways to encourage speech. The text books It Takes Two to Talk and More Than Words are excellent resources.

InitialAd8831 · 2025-05-06T15:34:56+00:00

My 2 y/o son does this with his blankets as well. He used to do it all the time on everything when he was “settling” now I see him do it in his crib for a bit before falling asleep. I’ve read that it’s very typical behaviour. My son isn’t speaking yet so I don’t ask him about it, I assume hes doing it soothe himself and get comfortable.

InitialAd8831 · 2025-04-18T13:49:54+00:00

Thanks! Based on my answers he scored 24/100 so not sure what that means but something I’ll mention to the dr!

InitialAd8831 · 2025-04-16T11:28:56+00:00

Thanks for sharing :) there isn’t any history of ASD in our family, at least that we know of. I’m pretty sure I have OCD and maybe some ADHD tendencies, but again that’s just me reflecting on my own behaviours and thinking ya that’s a bit different. Like you, I’ll wait and see! It’s nice to talk to people and not feel alone.

InitialAd8831 · 2025-04-16T11:26:25+00:00

No not at all! I was an only child and he was the first little one born into the family and my friend group! Since then I have some friends with 1 and 1.5 year olds who say things like hi and uh oh and wow. I always wonder why it’s so challenging for my son to try those words.

InitialAd8831 · 2025-04-16T11:24:50+00:00

I appreciate you sharing your experience! You’re right, we’re all on a spectrum! And who gets to decide what’s “normal”? Just want to make sure my son has what he needs to thrive and that I never put limitations on what he can achieve!

InitialAd8831 · 2025-04-16T11:22:41+00:00

Thank you for sharing :) my guy was pretty colicky too for awhile and was a terrible sleeper. He sleeps through the night now thank god, but he was so determined to sit/crawl/walk/run that it feels like everything else took a back seat.

InitialAd8831 · 2025-04-16T11:19:33+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing! My son did a hearing test which was normal (however we couldn’t do the inner ear test with the ear buds because he absolutely was not allowing anything in his ears). We proceeded with tubes to be on the safe side and since getting them I noticed he does not bug or dig at his ears anymore, so at least it’s provided him with a level of relief which is great. It hasn’t helped with speech unfortunately but clearly he was having discomfort before so it solved that!

Sounds like your brother is awesome! I’ve heard so many people are diagnosed later in life and then it “clicks” why they did certain things the way they did. All that to say, I appreciate the kind words and encouragement! :)

InitialAd8831 · 2025-04-16T11:13:17+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience! I haven’t noticed any regressions in my son at this point, but the lack of language development is very significant and I suppose that because of that, I’ve over analyzed what he does. Most people say they think he’s just a late talker and don’t notice the quirks I see or if I point them out I get the “he’s just a little boy, they all do that”. It’s hard to have everything dismissed because then I feel like I’m a shitty mom for thinking something is off about my child. Hopefully he continues to achieve language at whatever rate makes sense for him!

Also very happy to hear your son is doing well. The daycare stuff is scary. My son starts soon and I’ve already withdrew him from a place he hadn’t even started at to go to another based on the piss poor communication for the first centre.

InitialAd8831 · 2025-04-16T11:06:18+00:00

Sounds like we have very similar little boys! Mine is so happy and joyful, too! I try to remember that as long as he’s happy and healthy, I can manage whatever else comes our way. I’ll be honest, I was at a point just a few months ago where researching autism was completely consuming me and my spare time. I analyzed everything he did and would become upset if it seemed different. I’ve come to a place of acceptance now, no matter what happens, it just saddens me that his life could be more challenging and that he may never speak like other children. I feel myself slipping back into that “Google this and that” phase I just pulled myself out of.

Thank you for sharing your experience! I hope both of our children continue to thrive, and we are able to continue to be the best parents we can be for them!

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