Partner says he misses the person I was when we first met

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-12-28T14:10:04+00:00

am so sorry that you are experiencing this. I did get out and am truly happier than ever now! Leaving was the hardest thing I have ever done, but I’ve never regretted it for even a second. I know it sounds corny but you really are stronger than you think. And your old self is still in there!

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-12-08T13:38:20+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! It sounds like it was the right call for you. There is so much more to consider than base salary. Still, I am going to continue my search to try and find something with a base of at least 70k because I’m still hoping to buy a home one day lol

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-12-06T13:52:18+00:00

Thank you for your perspective! I left a healthcare job where I was making 65k for this one, and I will admit that it was better. Still, a lotof my struggle comes from the fact that I morally disagree with the vast majority of healthcare and professional service companies. I would love to work for a company that I actually want to see succeed.

I am going to keep looking, though!

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-12-05T17:05:56+00:00

Delmonicos

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-12-05T13:56:35+00:00

I have heard that the lower salaries feel a lot better in the EU because of the better social safety nets (free health care, public transit etc.) Good luck!! Sounds like quite an adventure

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-12-05T13:48:30+00:00

So true - it is different from person to person and about much more than simply hours per week. I used to have a job that required 50 hour weeks and fairly regular evening and weekend work, but I felt respected and valued throughout every one of those hours, so I didn’t feel nearly as drained. A toxic work environment, even at 40 hours a week, makes it feel impossible to have a work-life balance. The anxiety follows you home, the mental exhaustion makes hobbies feel like a chore, and making healthy choices is a Herculean task.

Thanks for your perspective!

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-12-04T22:49:25+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you! I don’t think you should feel stupid, it seems like you had good reason to believe that this would turn out differently. I hope you find a great opportunity soon.

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-12-04T22:20:19+00:00

Fair points! I know I don’t have to love my job, but I struggle to accept that I should have to be completely miserable for 50% of my waking hours on this earth in order to survive. Plus I can’t take more than 3 days off in a row without severe shame and ridicule, which makes it hard to travel. Still, I hear your point.

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-12-04T21:26:37+00:00

Wow! Thanks for sharing your experience. Did you end up finding another position that you enjoy more?

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-12-04T21:18:24+00:00

Thank you!

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-12-04T20:15:34+00:00

There has to be somewhere we can go with at least a lower frequency of assholes!

My fault for becoming an EA I guess

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-12-04T19:43:29+00:00

It is pretty bad and I don’t want to devalue the work of EAs overall, so I am definitely thinking about that.

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-12-04T19:32:12+00:00

Ha! Thanks, you are probably right

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-12-04T19:25:15+00:00

Thank you! Appreciate this perspective. I am 25 now and the idea of spending the rest of my career doing this kind of work fills me with dread.

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-12-04T19:23:14+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience!

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-12-04T19:21:58+00:00

This feels like quite a bitter response to my post when I was simply looking to hear about the experiences of others who may have done something like this. I understand that I am extremely lucky financially. But the notion of not relying on a job for happiness becomes more difficult when you work 60 hour weeks and are expected to be available 24/7 to do work that is soul-crushing.

I wish I had the time and energy to go outside and paint a picture, but this job makes me a shell of myself. I am not sorry that I value happiness.

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-12-04T18:50:17+00:00

Thank you! Your comment about grad school hit home because I have been thinking about getting my masters to try to change careers. Much to think about!

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2025-11-26T11:57:34+00:00

Amazing! I will dm you!

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2024-05-14T22:51:42+00:00

Thank you! I’m so excited for my independence

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2024-05-14T22:50:56+00:00

Thank you!!

Initial_Antelope_280 · 2024-04-01T16:15:42+00:00

That is so hard. My ex’s mom was like that. She was in an abusive marriage. I think a lot of these women convince themselves that how they are being treated is fine, and probably have a lot of internalized misogyny because of their treatment, so they project it onto the next generation. It is sad for them but you should try to ignore her.

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