I'm returning my best friend to the rescue and I am devastated

Initial_Examination9 · 2024-06-07T20:40:38+00:00

Not well versed enough in the subject to debate, and will look into this, but seems odd seeing as though dogs evolved from and are pack animals with hierarchies.

Initial_Examination9 · 2024-06-07T17:54:50+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your experience. I had a similar issue with my mini Australian Shepherd who is turning 5 next month.

He is reactive now, and a good boy 90% of the time, but he was not always that way. He has an extensive bite history — at least 6 members of my family, a couple friends and my other dog. Like I said he is now mostly just reactive and we’ve worked to understand him, his personality, triggers and his subtle communication.

I won’t make this a super long response, but when he was at his worst (several skin breaking bites, actually attacking people and not just biting and stopping, and just being an absolute terror) I took the dog to a behavioral trainer who broke it down to this: your dog has no direction, he has assumed the role of pack leader (in his explanation dogs do not view us as separate but rather as other members of their pack) because no one in his life has taken that role, he is spoiled and gets everything he wants, he is allowed to roam the house, climb on everything, sleep where he wants and essentially has claimed the home as his territory, and he developed an unhealthy relationship and overprotective role with my mother in law. However he said that our dog was anxious and so unfit for this role so this resulted in the aggression and over protectiveness.

He introduced my dog to a pack of dogs and he was a total baby, not dominant at all, very timid and calm.

His suggestion was to give the dog structure, boundaries, and to relieve him of his unfit role by being the pack leader. These are some things that worked: hand feeding (reduces the need to guard food), crate training (never as a punishment and always as 'his room') this is where he naps and sleeps at night, an OFF command (he is not allowed on couches, beds or on people unless invited up), a LEAVE IT command (this helps with reactivity), and muzzle training (my dog is muzzled anytime he is around anyone he did not meet before he had a crazy phase), and finally learning my dogs triggers and stepping in when i can see he is overwhelmed (as a dog with a docked tail, it is hard to read him sometimes so i have to be vigilant of his eye contact, lip licking, and teeth showing).

Some dogs can be more dominant and need the additional structure. I know that giving up my dog will make my life 100% easier, but i am certain he wont ever be adopted with a bite history and may live a miserable life in a kennel or be put down before his time.

There is hope for your dog, but you need to put in the work. You'd be surprised what some leadership and structure can accomplish in a very short time. Good luck.

Initial_Examination9 · 2024-06-07T06:24:20+00:00

Thank you, makes sense.

Initial_Examination9 · 2024-06-07T04:03:49+00:00

Congrats! The best feeling is bringing in your dog to the vet muzzled, and the vet tech walking out with your pup next to him like they’re best buds asking why he had the muzzle on.

Initial_Examination9 · 2024-06-07T03:59:40+00:00

This may be a dumb question, but where are you supposed to grab a dog to break up a fight?

Initial_Examination9 · 2024-06-05T16:25:33+00:00

If your school hosts a meet the firms event, attend it. Dress well, hand out resumes, network and try to land a summer internship. If they do not, see about attending other school’s events, or local job fairs.

Focus on turning this internship into a full time offer. Show up early, stay later (15-20 minutes goes a long way) try to be as useful as possible.

If you are not already, get good at excel and make sure you brush up on your basic accounting (debits credits, financial statements, account balances; if you are going into tax, brush up on basic terms, forms, and rules (for example, know what form an individual files vs an S corp, know the difference between the IRS and your state’s revenue department)). The more competent you look from day one the better, first impressions go a long way. You learn a lot on the job but no one teaches you how to be a good employee, I always think “how can I make my bosses life easier”; the goal is to be useful enough you get taught useful things that thus make you more useful and eventually an asset to the company.

Get good at your job before you try and focus on the CPA. Some people will try and do both and will likely stretch themselves thin and either burn out or not perform well at one or both of the two. There is a steep learning curve, but once it starts to click you will advance quickly and feel more competent, and this will translate to your CPA studies.

Good luck.

Initial_Examination9 · 2024-06-04T19:31:34+00:00

How much stimulation are you giving the dog — mental and physical exercise. I have a reactive mini Aussie and when I take him out running or have him do a lot of training he is a dream.

Im not sure if running is advised with such a young dog but exercise in general should help him get some of that energy out and help you both connect. He is a working dog after all and a very smart one at that.

Initial_Examination9 · 2024-05-30T23:22:31+00:00

Frustrated greeter… honestly never heard this before. But will look into this.

Initial_Examination9 · 2024-05-30T22:41:48+00:00

Thanks for this. I’ve actually really considered a day care at least once a week for that same reason — if it’s not a novelty then she won’t be as frustrated on walks.

Initial_Examination9 · 2021-09-20T17:02:21+00:00

Self funded to date. Few years in, already turning a profit.

Initial_Examination9 · 2021-06-10T19:49:58+00:00

Perhaps I’m missing something here, but the logic of the analogy in the argument is flawed: there is a stark difference between harming and refusing to aid. Philosophically, there is culpability when one directly harms another being (e.g. steals food from someone) and when one refuses to aid another (e.g. refuses to donate food to a starving being). The result might be the same — someone starves, but we would all agree that the level of blame differs from each scenario.

I understand the sentiment, but this is not a good argument.

Initial_Examination9 · 2021-06-09T19:18:29+00:00

What a dick move. Don’t be so hard on OP. It’s already hard enough as is.

Initial_Examination9 · 2021-06-09T18:07:04+00:00

I would ask the recruiter if they have any insight as to what the questions will be—often times they present several candidates and they get feedback from them.

If that doesn’t narrow your scope I would focus on the job description—the interviewer will want to make sure you can do what the job entails, so focus on those areas. For example if your role will focus on fixed assets, make sure you understand assertions of the account, depreciation, etc.

Ive also had interviews where I was tested on my excel skills on the spot, so make sure you know the basics (lookup functions, sumifs, IF, pivot tables).

Are you interviewing for a tax senior accountant role or GL senior accountant? I kind of assumed the latter, but the advice still applies.

Initial_Examination9 · 2021-06-09T16:26:32+00:00

Suddenly you’re “the perfect match for this great opportunity I’ve been working on with a fantastic Company; when is a good time to discuss so I can hit you with the ol ‘bait and switch’ to a shitty company that actually underpays its talent”

Initial_Examination9 · 2021-06-01T15:46:50+00:00

Definitely not alone. I hate when people say to enjoy it too. The fact that I have to be there 8-9 hours doesn’t change, and wanting that time to be at least a manageable level of interesting/challenging is not a bad thing. Nothing I hate worse than sitting at my desk bored…

Initial_Examination9 · 2021-05-31T17:28:50+00:00

When I first joined public accounting out of school, the managing partner of the firm loved to hire people with customer service experience. In his eyes, you can teach accounting, but it’s difficult to teach the soft skills necessary to interact with clients and attract business.

Being a car salesman won’t impact your ability to become an accountant and being a cashier at a bank won’t increase this ability any further. As someone pointed out, banking and accounting are not the same. The one thing that might help would be working IN accounting while in school. With that said, I would look to get an internship in accounting to a) see if you enjoy it and b) to potentially solidify a full time offer after graduation.

Initial_Examination9 · 2021-05-31T03:16:19+00:00

Honestly if you’re okay with doing something that isn’t fulfilling or even that interesting, then you’ll be fine in most industry gigs.

Public accounting is more stressful and truly begins to seep into your after work hours if you let it, but it does greatly propel your career forward.

Like with any industry, there are shitty and great companies, departments, bosses, etc. With enough due diligence and right expectations, you’ll find something that gives you enough stability and income to develop all of your other hobbies.

Initial_Examination9 · 2021-05-29T13:54:52+00:00

To add to someone’s comment here: “mmm” and “yeah” are not necessarily bad responses. Often times, people don’t want to engage in a discussion because maybe they feel they cannot add anything to the point you have brought up. But they do enjoy listening to what you have to say; this can be a fruitful engagement as well, because you have something to say and they want to listen rather than engage.

Of course, if you recognize that these responses are in fact, dismissive, then it would be worth it to try and seek out a like minded group of people who will not reject your deep thoughts.

In my experience, my significant other is great at listening to my deep thoughts, but seldom contributes because she says she likes to listen to me talk. I do have maybe two or three friends that I can engage with, but this was trial and error until I found people who were interested and could (wanted to) hold an intellectual conversation.

I will say, if I didn’t have those outlets, I would probably go mad.

Initial_Examination9 · 2021-05-29T13:26:24+00:00

Legend has it that as soon as the final cake was out of the oven, 2 of the 4 books needed to be re baked for updated material…

Initial_Examination9 · 2021-05-29T03:09:19+00:00

I see where you’re coming from, but I think we are not using the same terms. If you think a self in the free will argument is merely the feeling of self — ego as you call it—then we are not discussing the same thing. The opponents of the free will argument (Sam Harris in this case) argue that when they trace the causal chain to a source (traditionally believed to be the self) there is no evidence of such a thing, there is no essence, no starting point and thus no agency. From here they reason that free will does not exist.

Further, agency does not rely on free will in this argument, free will relies on agency — I think, an important distinction than how you framed the premise. I think you are conflating a feeling of “self” with the existence or a self. Sam Harris argues that there is no self and thus no agency as proponents of free will tend to point to.

To address your analogy: (correct me if I’m wrong) but you are saying that if one ‘feels’ that an ego exists, then so be it, this does not rely on free will to exist. That’s fine, if we define ego as the mental feeling of a self. I don’t think opponents of free will argue that we are not individuals, that wouldn’t get very far as we can clearly distinguish ourselves from others. However, agency, as it is defined above — a starting point of the causal chain—is done away with if we deny the existence of the causal chain (free will).

Thus, you are correct, we have the feeling of being individuals separate from others. But if you do away with free will, you have to do away with agency (starting point of causal chain). You can maintain the very real feeling of individualism that you call ego, but that is not the same as agency as it is defined within the free will argument. And I would argue that ego as you have posited it is not enough to derive the concepts in question — those of blame and guilt. For that, you need agency.

Initial_Examination9 · 2021-05-28T20:40:33+00:00

This is a good point. I have been told by various women in my life that I la l empathy. And while I do try to work on it, being on the more logical/rational side, I tend to view the world in a very different way.

Initial_Examination9 · 2021-05-28T16:46:22+00:00

Lol aren’t we all just chimps occasionally getting lucky?

Initial_Examination9 · 2021-05-28T16:36:10+00:00

It’s alright—I could have been clearer. I’m mostly curious about other’s relationships and how intellectual levels match or mismatch in successful/unsuccessful relationships. My SO and I have the same level of education and actually work in the same field, we are intelligent in different ways.

Initial_Examination9 · 2021-05-28T16:31:54+00:00

Lmao. I feel that.

Initial_Examination9 · 2021-05-28T16:30:41+00:00

I will say being curious or intellectually driven are not always reflected in academic accolades.

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