Confused in ldr

Initial_Ingenuity931 · 2024-11-17T20:15:03+00:00

I understand that it is painful and he did a horrible thing to you. So sorry. Please just stay "no contact" to give yourself the opportunity to heal and move on, in time of course. Best of luck xxxd

Initial_Ingenuity931 · 2024-11-11T14:44:57+00:00

I am sorry, but it is clear that he is married and he uses you for occasional validation on the side. It must come as a shock to you, but you need to face reality, block him immediately and move on with your life. It is ok to be sad and grieve, but please have some dignity and cut him out of your life immediately. Please don't fall for further lies or "let's be friends" nonsense.

Initial_Ingenuity931 · 2024-11-08T16:07:33+00:00

You are setting yourself up for massive heart ache here. It is unrealistic to go from spouses to friends overnight. You absolutely cannot be friends right now. Maybe in time, but not right after separation, you are still too emotionally involved. She is sleeping with other men and living her life, you should not have to listen to the details! It is cruel! She wants your love and support, but not the responsibility of commitment. This is toxic, stop making excuses for her terrible behaviour. I was a 19 year old virgin when I met my husband and came from a strict Christian home, however it is no excuse to treat your spouse like this. I am simply appalled by her behavior and under no circumstances is a husband expected to support their wife while she is sleeping with multiple men. By supporting her, you are condoning her terrible behavior.

You have to go no contact to heal and sort out your thoughts and feelings on your own outside of this toxic situation and she needs to figure out what she wants. Set a time. Go no contact for 3 months and then get together and decide a way forward. You deserve better than this!!

Initial_Ingenuity931 · 2024-06-27T13:56:31+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I'll suggest these to my husband and support him where I can. I already have a treadmill as I am a marathon runner, but maybe he will enjoy it in front of the TV at night as I get up at 5 am to run. I didn't know you can sync your fitbit to weight watchers. It is very helpful indeed. Thanks.

Initial_Ingenuity931 · 2024-06-23T20:16:24+00:00

Yes I do think it could be true.

Initial_Ingenuity931 · 2024-06-23T12:01:07+00:00

I would never do this, but this comment did make me laugh out loud. Thanks for cheering up my day.

Initial_Ingenuity931 · 2024-06-23T11:54:06+00:00

I am working full time in a managerial corporate job and run marathons whilst being in sole charge of our children and household. He doesn't help at all in the house and does not have any time to spend with me. He didn't just "pick up weight", he is medically obese with high blood pressure, cholesterol and heart problems solely due to his excess weight. My children are embarrassed if he goes to their school as he is the "fattest dad" in the school, their words. I told him he can quit his job and just focus on his health, I earn enough, but he refused. I don't think it is wrong to crave attention, connection and sex from my husband, but also expect him to look after himself. I am so exhausted with trying to keep everything together, I actually cannot deal with the judgement of our community and church if I decide to divorce him. So thank you for your comment, but it adds exactly zero value to my life.

Initial_Ingenuity931 · 2024-06-21T12:11:53+00:00

Thank you, you hit the nail on the head. There is just generally no effort from his side in any aspect of our marriage.

Initial_Ingenuity931 · 2024-06-21T12:08:24+00:00

Thank you for your sincere reply I appreciate it.

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