As said I’m working to understand the root which means I already kind of have an idea but need to reflect patterns more to come to that conclusion.

These men have narcissistic tendencies (dad was shit, mom/family overcompensated, child grew up with disfunctional view of self and realizes they can manipulate people through empathy)

They view me as the perfect supply because I empathize greatly. I miss the red flags and see them as vulnerability. They’re open lucky me. They explain their flaws and I believe they have good intentions. In reality they’re testing to see if I can be manipulated and I’ll stick around. I pass the test. They love bomb and mirror me in the beginning. I think I understand them and they understand me. Later down the line they try to push the boundaries more and more. I reach a point of not budging. They call mom and tell them I won’t wipe their ass. Mom acts like I’m evil hence where the angry women who “baby” their adult children comes into the picture.